Ick of Christmas present from Dp

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Usually Dp give each other a wish list of specific items or vague items like earrings so the other can choose.
Was really happy with the earrings he brought be, they were under stated but very elegant, exactly what I would chose. On Boxing Day when we had his dc under 10, one of his daughters presents was exact same pair of earrings in gold instead of rose gold. Am I right to feel upset about it as it doesn’t feel like a romantic or thoughtful gift anymore. Happy for opinions no matter how harsh. Thank you

My DH gives me gifts because he loves me - not every gift is imbued with romantic attachment.

I give DH gifts because I love him - and not every gift is a romantic token. Sometimes I buy something just because he’ll like it, sometimes because I think it will give him a giggle.

I don’t think it’s at all obvious that a gift to a lover signifies romance and a unique affection. If it does, we’re absolutely fucked because I bought him sports socks and a board game among other things 😂😬😂

How strange you are.

Yes. Very strange. Weird story all round. OP said her kids are at uni now and is already talking of leaving the country as no longer any reason to be in the UK. Assuming they're at uni in the UK, I find it cold that you want to leave the country that they're in. They still need you. And what's all that rubbish about your kids wanting you to wait to marry your bloke until they are out of their teens. You don't even plan to be in the same country as them soon enough, so what difference does it make to them now? Assuming this is real and not just some entertaining school holiday creative writing, I think you just don't want to be with your fella anymore and are trying to make out that HE is the problem.

I mean, he's been useful to you all this time. Paying you rent. Helping you out in practical ways with running your kids about, sorting your car out. He's no use to you anymore, is he? Your kids are off to uni. You want to go abroad, he's now just an inconvenience to you,, especially with a younger kid who still needs parenting. You think you've done your parenting and you don't want to have to consider your man's kid anymore. Hence all this fault-finding, so you can present him with a list of reasons you should split up.

how strange you are. Do you buy those things for other people on special occasions?

We got back last night, we had an amazing time, really got to relax and reconnect. Even managed to extend the day yesterday by taking a long walk along the beach where we were and took some really cute pictures together. Both been having a stressful time but was good to get a break child free.

Oh what a horrible post. Many times on mumsnet do you see those bereft posts from poor women who have built their lives around their partner then book its gone within the drop of another woman’s knickers. I have a plan B and that ok. I don’t intend to use it.
Also in relation to me being cold towards my dc… was planning on working a week away or a bit longer here or there not abandoning them! When they were little I still had to go away for work. Their unis are far so it’s not possible for them to come home often but I had to drive to get one of them then the next as they fell sick a uni - one with strep the other with chest infection.

My last post was was @CurlyhairedAssassin

It depends on how old your DB is.

Almost the exact same age! A few months between them!