Ick of Christmas present from Dp

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Usually Dp give each other a wish list of specific items or vague items like earrings so the other can choose.
Was really happy with the earrings he brought be, they were under stated but very elegant, exactly what I would chose. On Boxing Day when we had his dc under 10, one of his daughters presents was exact same pair of earrings in gold instead of rose gold. Am I right to feel upset about it as it doesn’t feel like a romantic or thoughtful gift anymore. Happy for opinions no matter how harsh. Thank you

The making up is the best part 🥰

That's excellent, op. All over now, thank goodness.

I just want to thank those who offered their perspectives without personally attacking me.
I read through the whole thread this morning ( I know right? ) to just take the whole thing in.
I’ve learnt a bit about myself and also how dp thinks too. We have indeed made up which as a pp has said really is the best bit. it seemed like a very big thing at the time but now it’s like something that happened but that I’ve let go of.
We booked some tickets last night for a show we both want to go to and have something to look forward to when we are childfree.
For those that wished he left me and accused me of jealousy and being trash amoungst several other names - I hope you are kinder to those around you in real life than you were to me. You will find that majority of people come on here looking for advice as a last resort as there is no one they can share with in real life. I didn’t want to ask family or friends as didn’t want them involved.
I have to work today and I hope you all have a lovely day!

sounds like he thinks you have a better idea of taste than he has, and that if you like them, she probably would like them too.

Earrings got sent back today, they agreed to take them back which is good. I am glad really draws a line under this sorry episode.

Oh bugger you beat me to it BOGOF !
Ah OP just as long as he gets your complaint.
I do.
Don't listen to ppl being verbally negative. They're not you nor in your life.

Thanks yes he has got it loud and clear today! After declaring his love for me again today I have said I am no longer accepting words but only actions.
Four hours later and he’s asked me to clear my diary on the evening for 14th of Feb as he’s “planning something”. Let’s just hope he doesn’t confuse me with his daughter again and buy me a scooter!

Yes it's his bad. I've heard worse for sure. Enjoy 14th February. You seriously need to update us.

Haha @Monty27 it better be good! Tbh I always like going out the day after Valentines as it’s less cheesy but anyway will leave him to it. I didn’t make a big fuss about it, when he asked I was like “ oh are we doing something with the dc?”.
I just think sometimes as women we accept so little of what we are actually worth.

If he had carried on the way he was telling me to chuck them in the bin, I would just know he didn’t care if he didn’t have the drive to make me happy.

Oh so close
And now you're back to making him grovel

@MartinCrieffsLemon and a Happy New Year to you too!!!

My DP bought the same earrings for both me and his 13yo DD for Christmas last year. I never gave it a second thought and certainly wasn't offended. He bought something he liked and thought would look good on us both. Where's the issue?

It's not about you though.

This. Hope the guy wakes up. OP is not a nice person at all.

OP thinks she is right. Her partner had agreed as well he has no backbone anymore. Op is beyond selfish and controlling i hope her guy wakes up.

It’s funny I think I’ve seen you on another thread conforming someone whose husband has left yet you keep wishing my dp to leave me.
Put it in perspective: I didn’t like the earrings being gifted to us both, communicated that and he’s putting it right.

Not sure how that’s controlling? And that I’m not nice?
If I was shagging his best friend or being abusive then yes I would deserve the pile on!

Would you not tell your partner if he was doing something you didn’t like? Your attitude towards me tells people alot more about you than me. Sorry but I’m not a door mat. I’m kind but I’m not a walk over.

Yes well we are all different I suppose. It looks like I’m in the minority here but I have always thought jewellery from a partner to be romantic and personal, especially when it’s expensive and exactly to my taste.
My partner wanted to return his daughter’s earrings but there was no way that would happen as I didn’t want her upset, not her fault her dad couldn’t think things out.

Sorry but your ungrateful entitled behavior reminds me of my narc mother and the way you have berated your partner is just horrid. Yes i do hope he wakes up but probably not.

Exactly

You can support one person who's partner had suddenly left them and also acknowledge when another person is being rather controlling and their partner would be better off without them (especially when their controlling partner has a whole escape plan anyway!)

Poor bloke is going to spend the year grovelling and I bet OP will still throw it in his face

How is that not controlling? I couldn't contemplate treating my OH like that. You just come across an massively entitled and hugely ungrateful. You didn't come across well at all in this thread. hopefully, the poor bloke has a light bulb moment.

@Monty27 is it ok to pm
you?

I think you are massively overthinking it. They are romantic for you and a lovely gift for his dd.

@malificent7 yes the poll is out, seems I have an unusual way of thinking. Probably too sensitive.

How would you all feel about this ad I need a sense check. Not sure of I said in my last post but he’s booked a spa weekend for us and we go tomorrow. He sent me a link today with the treatments so I can ooo my own. All treatments are over £100 so think he wants me to pay for my own as he hasn’t said to treat myself. Do feel really upset about this. I’ve done so much life admin for him that I can’t talk about on here but I saved him prob a thousand pounds or more. I would think he’d like to treat me. Takes away the romantic gesture of it but again am seeing there aren’t really any with him :(

Typo - he’s sent me link to book my own treatment.