Comment on Facebook by Office Manager

[ByOliveWriter]

I was in a job a few years ago and there was an issue with the heating. It gets really hot in the office, 26 degrees in winter which is really drying and I was going home with head aches. Raised this with managers who didn't do anything and than health and safety guy. I should be this ill from working in an office.

He said he would follow it up and agreed it was hot. The operations manager contacted the office manager to see how the temp was in the office - to which it was said I was wearing a coat (there are two people with the same name in the office but she shortens her name). The director of HR was CC and anyway I got a job with a £5k pay increase a few weeks later as it got way out of hand.

Anyway I was surfing Facebook and the office manager has made a comment about it on her facebook and tagged my manager and the person who sits next to me. The comment was brief along the lines of "what do I have to deal with".

Aibu in thinking that's not right?

You need to let it go. Something this petty should not take up this much space in your mind.

Also there is no maximum temperature under health and safety legislation so it could have been 40 degrees and nothing you could do.

I'm going to drink a shot every time this OP says gatekeeping.

Get a life. Its history
You're not there anymore.

Sad face.

I'm just impressed you can remember the exact date of the day you got too hot three years ago.

I can't remember what I ate 3 weeks ago.

And yes, YABU.

But you’ve asked for readers opinions by asking ‘AIBU’ - so readers are giving their opinions and you don’t seem to like it if readers don’t agree with you.

You don't know that it was about you. I'm sure your manager had more than just that going on. Plus she thought the complaint was by the other person (with the coat), so if she had been talking about that incident, it would have been the other person she was thinking about.

"Facebook stalking" is just slang - all it means that you clicked on someone's profile and looked through their posts etc
...it doesn't mean that you're engaing in illegal/criminal behaviour.

Ooh, I'm enjoying this one - just when the sparkle had gone down on Christmas, up pops something a tad amusing). I'm sorry OP, I can't feel compassion because I'm still not sure why you feel so aggrieved.

I agree with you, OP. They shouldn’t be criticising an employee publicly on Facebook - it isn’t the place. Not nice to see people you thought you got on with are writing things about you as if you’re a pain in the arse. Had you seen it at the time, you could have raised this. Three years is too long ago now so I’d try to forget and just be glad you are out of there.

You can tell the kids are on their Christmas holiday and bored already.

Posting about work colleagues is inappropriate.

I don’t really understand the post though. Your colleague who sits next to you posted they need a day off to catch up and your boss commented this is what I have to deal with? That doesn’t seem like it’s aimed at you.

How did you know that the post was specifically about you? Any number of things could have happened in your colleagues' day. They could have been referring to something else entirely.1

Anyway I was surfing Facebook and the office manager has made a comment about it

About it, as in about your complaint? The wording is a bit difficult to follow.

Obviously very inappropriate if a manager is commenting about staffing issues. However, 2 questions: why on earth are you connected to your previous manager on Facebook? Why do you care if you have left?

"Watching" just for the bonkers updates 😂

Also, are you saying that your manager at the time tagged your future manager and the woman you would go on to sit beside in the future in a post about you even though neither of them knew you and you hadn't been given the job yet?? I think you're overthinking this.

Because people are rude and aren't accountable for their shitty behaviour

No, completely wrong

well clearly your new employers didn't search your social media when recruiting you, or if they did, shock horror, it didn't put them off recruiting you.

And MN is anonymous (presumably your name is not Olive Writer) so no one will recognise the extent to which you can hold a grudge over something so petty,

Same. This is excellent value entertainment.

She's a friend I though. Sent me a Christmas card
Came to baptism. So not some random things but hey that doesn't fit with the narrative of people writing shitty things on Facebook and getting caught

Er…like you? There’s been a dazzling lack of self awareness on display in your comments, OP. You’re not coming across well.

You've asked us if you're being unreasonable and then if someone says yes you accuse them of gatekeeping?? I'm confused what you think this is

Let me get this straight. This is a job you left a while back yet you still think random comments are about you? Is that right?