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Comment on Facebook by Office Manager

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ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 18:51

I was in a job a few years ago and there was an issue with the heating. It gets really hot in the office, 26 degrees in winter which is really drying and I was going home with head aches. Raised this with managers who didn't do anything and than health and safety guy. I should be this ill from working in an office.

He said he would follow it up and agreed it was hot. The operations manager contacted the office manager to see how the temp was in the office - to which it was said I was wearing a coat (there are two people with the same name in the office but she shortens her name). The director of HR was CC and anyway I got a job with a £5k pay increase a few weeks later as it got way out of hand.

Anyway I was surfing Facebook and the office manager has made a comment about it on her facebook and tagged my manager and the person who sits next to me. The comment was brief along the lines of "what do I have to deal with".

Aibu in thinking that's not right?

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ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 19:53

Bournetilly · 27/12/2024 19:48

Posting about work colleagues is inappropriate.

I don’t really understand the post though. Your colleague who sits next to you posted they need a day off to catch up and your boss commented this is what I have to deal with? That doesn’t seem like it’s aimed at you.

The post was "WTF roll eye" and tagged two people at work - so clearly it's work related and the exact date the incident happened. Non manager colleGe wrote she needed a day of work to catch up. Why write it on Facebook when what's app etc

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HollyKnight · 27/12/2024 19:53

ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 19:50

No, completely wrong

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Well can you explain it a bit better then because you keep talking about your manager and another manager and the woman you sit beside all in the present tense.

mnreader · 27/12/2024 19:53

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Frauhubert · 27/12/2024 19:54

I’m surprised the person on facebook from a few years ago (or whenever) from the previous company (or whatever?) only posted that comment tbh.

Waitingfordoggo · 27/12/2024 19:55

YABU

Starlightstarbright4 · 27/12/2024 19:55

Honestly get a new hobby ..

it sounds like your a joy to work with 🙄

Missmarplesknittingbuddy · 27/12/2024 19:56

ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 18:58

Actually it does matter because I considered those people my friends as well.

Plus this is really weird how people are gate keeping.

Posters are not " gatekeeping " , they are commenting .
Comments are what you can expect from posting on an open forum . You can ruminate over this for as long as you wish and can be as upset as you choose to be , but you may need to understand the general consensus is that you are expending too much negative mental energy something that happened several years ago and that no-one with any sense pays any head to catty Facebook posts .

VanillaVein · 27/12/2024 19:58

YABU. Put down the bong.

waterfalls123 · 27/12/2024 19:59
  1. It probably shows so recently because the office managers profile is 'part private' because her Facebook friend was tagged in it, OP can see that, but not see other posts.
  1. I think the person who posted it was being unreasonable and unprofessional - they shouldn't be posting about work stuff and tagging people in!
  1. But, it was 3yrs ago, you have a new job, new friends. If it was me, I couldn't get worked up about it. I'd probably be slightly annoyed and mention it to my DH, but not annoyed enough to post on MN. But I don't post all that often...
WillowTit · 27/12/2024 19:59

seems very mean to me
block her

NiftyKoala · 27/12/2024 20:01

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 18:56

It was three years ago? You need to just let it drop.

Agreed. Op if this is really bothering you after years you really need to get some help.

TokyoSushi · 27/12/2024 20:01

What do you mean 'a day of work to catch up?'

Jaggy1 · 27/12/2024 20:02

Surely this has been a few wines in and that’s why it’s annoyed you? Wait til tomorrow and think about it I’m sure it will all be better then, although I probably wouldn’t look at this thread on a clear head if I were you.
Also learn what gatekeeping actually means, someone telling you to get over a comment that may or may not be about you from years ago, is not gatekeeping 🙄

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 27/12/2024 20:02

You’re being unreasonable posting in AIBU about something really really insignificant that happened a few years ago.
Are you bored this evening?

Also, I don’t think you understand what “gate keeping” means 🤣

35965a · 27/12/2024 20:03
let it go GIF

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VivX · 27/12/2024 20:03

OP, if it helps, everyone else else involved in this historic office heating issue has probably completely forgotten about it.

But if you "like" the post, as you suggested, you can guarantee that you will remind them of the incident all over again and you will definitely come across as a "fb stalker" for "liking" a post from several years ago.

Itisjustmyopinion · 27/12/2024 20:03

But yeah I'm weird lol

Yes you are the weird one getting wound up about a post made 3 years ago about a situation that happened 3 years ago

Doesn’t matter that it was only a few posts down it is still ancient history

Best not to get worked up about something that happened years ago

Manxexile · 27/12/2024 20:03

HollyKnight · 27/12/2024 19:53

Well can you explain it a bit better then because you keep talking about your manager and another manager and the woman you sit beside all in the present tense.

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Yes - the OP has made everything really difficult to understand by talking not only in the past tense about some of the things that happened three years ago, but also in the present tense.

eg ... It gets really hot in the office ...

... I was surfing Facebook and the office manager has made a comment about it on her facebook and tagged my manager and the person who sits next to me... "

It makes it sound as if the OP is complaining about something that's just happened, not three years ago.

Recipe for confusion

Original poster
ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 20:04

waterfalls123 · 27/12/2024 19:59

  1. It probably shows so recently because the office managers profile is 'part private' because her Facebook friend was tagged in it, OP can see that, but not see other posts.
  1. I think the person who posted it was being unreasonable and unprofessional - they shouldn't be posting about work stuff and tagging people in!
  1. But, it was 3yrs ago, you have a new job, new friends. If it was me, I couldn't get worked up about it. I'd probably be slightly annoyed and mention it to my DH, but not annoyed enough to post on MN. But I don't post all that often...

It shows recently as it's a mutual friend that's tagged in it. Shows mutual friends tagged info

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Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2024 20:05

VanillaVein · 27/12/2024 19:58

YABU. Put down the bong.

I was thinking maybe they (not convinced this is a 'she') had been blowing up too many Christmas helium balloons ... 🤔

Viviennemary · 27/12/2024 20:05

ByOliveWriter · 27/12/2024 18:58

Actually it does matter because I considered those people my friends as well.

Plus this is really weird how people are gate keeping.

Then if you must put a comment up. That wasn't me. They've got me mixed up with somebody else But you will just look daft IMHO.

rebmacesrevda · 27/12/2024 20:06

I had to go and get a tissue to wipe the tears from my eyes.

What have I missed?

Frauhubert · 27/12/2024 20:08

This has got too many side stories, unnecessary characters & jumping timelines and workplaces & the temperature in the office is a red herring

waterfalls123 · 27/12/2024 20:08

@ByOliveWriter that's what I said... your Facebook friend was tagged in it.

Have you been on the wine?

Scandicc · 27/12/2024 20:09

Can recommend posting a status along the lines of “Omg surrounded by snakes 🐍” and then when someone asks you who you mean, you can reply with “DM me hun”.
Will be as much use as this entire thread.