Comment on Facebook by Office Manager

[ByOliveWriter]

I was in a job a few years ago and there was an issue with the heating. It gets really hot in the office, 26 degrees in winter which is really drying and I was going home with head aches. Raised this with managers who didn't do anything and than health and safety guy. I should be this ill from working in an office.

He said he would follow it up and agreed it was hot. The operations manager contacted the office manager to see how the temp was in the office - to which it was said I was wearing a coat (there are two people with the same name in the office but she shortens her name). The director of HR was CC and anyway I got a job with a £5k pay increase a few weeks later as it got way out of hand.

Anyway I was surfing Facebook and the office manager has made a comment about it on her facebook and tagged my manager and the person who sits next to me. The comment was brief along the lines of "what do I have to deal with".

Aibu in thinking that's not right?

Yeah I didn’t make the term Facebook stalking, and you are clearly lacking in understanding.

Gatekeeping what?

What on earth is going on here? Could someone (other than OP) give me a TLDR please?

Sorry no.

It's a common term, not literal...

@rebmacesrevda

I just did one, two posts up

Have you actually spent years stewing about this??

Usually, if an old post is just a few scrolls down, it means that the person isn't very active on FB.
OP are you bothered by the fact that this person MIGHT have been talking about you?. Three years ago?

So three years ago you worked in an office that you found unbearably hot. You complained and they looked into it. Another colleague worked in her coat.
You got offered a better paid job and left the company.
Your old manager posted about having to put up with something on Facebook and tagged their manager. Even though three years have since passed you have now seen this because you sit next to a colleague who is a mutual friend on facebook.
You insist that it’s not stalking as their facebook page is open (bit like staring into someone’s kitchen window because they don’t have blinds).

What would you like to happen next?

I like a challenge:

three years ago, OP complained to anyone who would listen that the office was hot in winter. Then someone else wore a coat. At the same time, the poor suffering office manager posted on FB (and I paraphrase) ‘Look at these bloody idiots I have to deal with at work’, possibly while mourning her career choices via much wine.

OP gets another job, somehow.

Theee. Years. Later. OP is stalking reading her old colleagues’ posts and finds the post from three years ago.

She wants to know if the office manager was BU to post that at the end of what had clearly been a trying week.

Answer: hell no.

I understand it's upset you.
Is it that you want to vent about it or is it that you want to complain to them or something?

Why ponder what your ex colleagues said or didn't say to eachother on Facebook about the fact the temperature in the office wasn't to your approval.
You've long gone. Just forget about them. Unfriend them on FB and don't follow them on anything else.

Better than mine @EmotionalSupportBiscuit !

The perils of social media! That's why I don't use it

There's a level of weird, navel-gazing pettiness that I would balk at revealing even to randos on the internets and this OP exemplifies it to the power of 10.

Time for the OP to find a hobby, I think.

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Rude and unnecessary.

It's just typical of MN users. Either leave your husband as he is breathing or gatekeep what people should care about. No care or compassion

Those that eaves drop never hear anything good about themselves, seems the same goes for Facebook stalkers

Got to love MN at year end - you get all the crazy best posts!

I guess you got caught Facebook posting about your colleagues
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Thank you. That's a wonderful synopsis. Of course, the story raises as many questions as it answers. Although I'm tempted to ask OP follow-up questions, I fear the wrath of some other posters who seem a little irate. Can't imagine why... ;)

Oh OP, come on now, you really need to move on, it was years ago, you don't even work there anymore, you weren't tagged so it's not like you've been publicly shamed. Yes it's irritating but you'll drive yourself nuts ruminating over things like this.

You guess wrong.

Thank you so much for this, I read OP’s post 3 times ans still had no clue what was going on!!

You were Facebook stalking. People go out in real life knowing people will see them in the street too, but if someone comes and purposely watches them without their knowledge or an invite to join them, thats stalkery. That's the real life equivalent of what you were doing.

Anyway OP, YABU. Their FB posts are fine.

What an absolutely bonkers thread.