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Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

360 replies

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:51

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

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Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:20

JennyPenny222 · 27/12/2024 14:19

Is he shagging someone at the gym?

Good grief,

Dontsayyouloveme · 27/12/2024 14:20

Unless you’d had a conversation about it beforehand and asked him not to (still YABU imo) then I don’t see the problem! If my gym had been open, I’d have gone!

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:20

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:20

I am saying there is much more to this story, don’t be so simplistic. Clearly there is a backstory.

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I’ve asked twice, she says not. I’m taking her at her word.

Mercurial123 · 27/12/2024 14:21

JennyPenny222 · 27/12/2024 14:19

Is he shagging someone at the gym?

Typical MN response. Some people actually like exercising.

OolongTeaDrinker · 27/12/2024 14:22

We saw loads of runners out on Christmas day when we were on a family walk. Funnily enough even my husband noted they were all men and made a comment about how their wives (we recognised some as dad's from the DC's school) must be at home entertaining everyone/preparing lunch and he is not usually the most observant person!

As there are just the two of you though and no-one was left at home bearing the brunt of hosting, didn't you take that opportunity to just relax, or are you a type of person who doesn't like their own company? Either way if it was just for an hour or two, then I can't see the problem. If he was gone half the day though, I would be suspicious he was elsewhere and the gym was just an excuse..

MemorableTrenchcoat · 27/12/2024 14:22

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 14:16

I’m fine with my own company, I just wanted to spend the full day with my husband. I didn’t want to sit on my own and watch a film.

If you can’t spend one full day together as a couple then ..

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If you can’t be alone at any point during one full day then…

Dodgydodgydodgy · 27/12/2024 14:22

If it was open I would go just to stick two fingers up at the whole palaver. My gym was shut. I went Boxing Day! DH wasn’t keen but after an hour in the gym and a relax in the spa he was glad he went.

I don’t mind Christmas but I think I want to rebel against it all too. Mixed up in the head. I agree.

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:22

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:20

I’ve asked twice, she says not. I’m taking her at her word.

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No one is that needy to begrudge an hour at the gym! There has to be a reason. I don’t buy it.

IcedPurple · 27/12/2024 14:22

GCAcademic · 27/12/2024 13:54

Which gym opens on Christmas day? Because none that I know of does.

My gym is part of the leisure centre of a 4* hotel and is open on Christmas Day, but only for a few hours. I agree that the vast majority will be closed.

Stingstingy · 27/12/2024 14:23

My husband’s gym was open on Christmas Day. He didn’t go on Christmas Day but he did go Christmas Eve and Boxing Day but I go past the gym and know for definite it’s open Christmas Day, I don’t think it’s that unusual tbh

cheezncrackers · 27/12/2024 14:26

If it was only the two of you why on earth are you pissed off he went to the gym? I started Christmas Day with a run - it was great and set me up for the day. My DS goes to the gym almost every day and he'd have probably gone on Christmas Day if it was open, but it wasn't.

gamerchick · 27/12/2024 14:26

I would have went to the gym as well if it was open. You could have gone with him. Blow the cobwebs away

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 27/12/2024 14:28

Anywherebuthere · 27/12/2024 14:04

You are still being very unreasonable.
I think it's good to get out to exercise everyday if its possible. It feels so good.

It's just the two of you. You didn't need to be stuck together for the whole day.

Why did you have some 'me' time and do something for yourself.

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This. I went for a run Christmas day. If I don't exercise then my mental health suffers. Yes even at Christmas. I left him at home in bed watching the news and returned just over an hour later. He didn't get annoyed at me and we still had a lovely day. You probably cast shade over the day with your expectations of spending the whole day together and being disgruntled when he didn't

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/12/2024 14:29

I could understand it but I think it’s a bit extreme and also were they even open?

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 14:29

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:22

No one is that needy to begrudge an hour at the gym! There has to be a reason. I don’t buy it.

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Ha, you'd be surprised.

Not saying OP is needy, but I definitely know people who can't bear to be apart from their partners on "special occasions" - not even for an hour.

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 14:30

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/12/2024 14:29

I could understand it but I think it’s a bit extreme and also were they even open?

Lots of 24/7 gyms were open on the 25th, same as ones in hotels etc.

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:30

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 14:29

Ha, you'd be surprised.

Not saying OP is needy, but I definitely know people who can't bear to be apart from their partners on "special occasions" - not even for an hour.

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It sounds claustrophobic!

ShortyShorts · 27/12/2024 14:31

If you did presents, watched a film, cooked and ate dinner then I'd be fine with it. I mean it's no different to walking the dog for an hour or so.

But then you drip-fed something about your first Christmas so I suppose YANBU (but I voted YABU with the information you gave in your OP).

MargaretThursday · 27/12/2024 14:32

My parents often play tennis Christmas morning

gannett · 27/12/2024 14:32

DrMaxwell · 27/12/2024 13:52

Um, my first thought is are you sure he went to the gym? Sorry

This is the kind of batshit response which I used to come on MN to laugh at but now I just think is pathetic.

Someone exercising on Xmas Day is really so unusual for you that you assume they're actually having an affair? I go for a run most years on Xmas Day (it sets me up very well for the feasting) and every year the parks and roads seem to be busier with fellow runners.

And get out of here with that fake "sorry" - given how quickly and mindlessly you came through with the "AFFAIR!" response I think you must enjoy putting needless doubt in posters' minds.

leia24 · 27/12/2024 14:32

Lots of child free adults I know still go to the gym on Christmas day. Lots of 24 hour gyms are open on 25th

soberfabulous · 27/12/2024 14:34

I went for a run and to the hotel gym (we are away) on Christmas Day 🤪 ideal time for me as I'm usually at work and it's challenging to fit a work out in.

gannett · 27/12/2024 14:35

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 14:16

I’m fine with my own company, I just wanted to spend the full day with my husband. I didn’t want to sit on my own and watch a film.

If you can’t spend one full day together as a couple then ..

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Does the full day have to mean 24/7, morning to night, without even a two-hour spell apart? I would have described my Xmas Day as being fully spent with DP even if I did have a 90-minute run and shower in the morning. Also did some hoovering in a separate room from him at one point. Also went to the loo on my own a few times.

I'm not sure we've ever spent a full day together by your standards!

Startingagainandagain · 27/12/2024 14:35

Why do you think it is wrong?

You spent most of the day together. Perfectly fine for him to spend an hour at the gym.

InaChristmastizz · 27/12/2024 14:37

@gannett I would have jumped to ‘affair’ too as I don’t know anyone who goes to a gym that often unless they’re very competitive and into bodybuilding or similar, and especially not on Christmas Day.

Seems a weird thing to want to do instead of spending the day together, that’s all. 🤷🏻‍♀️