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pineofcone · 2024-12-27T13:51:05+00:00

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries. We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day. He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

Elasticatedtrousers · 27/12/2024 13:57

Fair enough if it was indeed open. I'd be p'sed off though.

Namechange1345677 · 27/12/2024 13:57

I went to the gym on Christmas day...what's the problem?

Luddite26 · 27/12/2024 13:58

My first husband used to fuck off to the pub Xmas Day and we had kids so popping to the gym wouldn't bother me. But if it does you could have talked about your expectations before the big day. So YRBU.

InSpainTheRain · 27/12/2024 13:58

I would be fine with this. You spent time together and he did something for himself too, but he wasn't gone all day.

winterwarmer8274 · 27/12/2024 13:58

the gym near me was open, and I think it’s fine he went to the gym after you’d done all the other stuff.

I had a quiet Christmas with just my partner and spent a 2 hours of the day online shopping while he played an online game with his friends. We both had fun and spent the rest of the day together

What did have planned to do instead?

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

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GetyourheadoutoftheovenIris · 27/12/2024 13:59

My gym was unmanned but open on Christmas Day. I was working but did 30 minutes before my shift. The only people (three of us) in there were all people that I know from the hospital.

3rdCoffeeThisMorning · 27/12/2024 14:00

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

Did you make thos clear?

3rdCoffeeThisMorning · 27/12/2024 14:00

Gotta love MN with the affair stuff😂

Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2024 14:01

How long was he at the gym?

I would be absolutely fine with this assuming he wasn't gone 5 hours.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 27/12/2024 14:02

My son went to the gym on Christmas Day. Snap fitness. It was unmanned but open to members.

Did you tell him how you felt? If not yadbu

STOPCOLLABERATEANDLISTEN19 · 27/12/2024 14:02

Globules · 27/12/2024 13:56

Our council run gym was open 10am-4pm on Christmas Day.

I went for a 90 mins run Christmas morning.

You're right to be annoyed OP if you had other things planned for that time. If the alternative was vegging on the sofa, why would you be upset he did something he wanted to do with his Christmas?

And for all those insinuating he went somewhere that wasn't the gym, why on earth would you jump to "he's having an affair" because he went to the gym on Christmas day?!

Cos its mumsnet full of judgey judgersons

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:02

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

Is there a back story, did something bad happen so he needed to be with you, and you couldn’t spend an hour or so alone in the evening?

to be honest, I’d have been fine with this, but I’m ok with my own company for a short period. We had our kids here, but had it been the two of us, I’d have done the same.

BobbyBiscuits · 27/12/2024 14:02

It sounds like you did all the usual Xmas activities though. Presuming it was just for an hour or so, I'd not be bothered. I'd just use that time to chill out. Or chat to friends on the phone. Or invite a mate or neighbour round for a drink?
Unless he literally left mid way through dinner, or went to the gym for four hours instead of doing presents with you, it doesn't sound that bad.

STOPCOLLABERATEANDLISTEN19 · 27/12/2024 14:03

its not the end of the world op, dont make a big thing of it x

AuntieMarys · 27/12/2024 14:03

I went to the gym Xmas day. Left dh at home.

FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:04

Hubby goes for a run every single Xmas day morning. Over the years it’s wound me up no end. He gets up late, dc wants to open presents so we end up doing that without him because I’m so pissed off. He then goes out for a 90min-2hr run. Leaving me to cook dinner on my own. The last 3 years he’s been late back and we’ve started eating without him! We normally have an argument every Xmas day and I end up crying.

I agree with you OP, for one day they could give it a miss. I’m amazed he wanted to go after eating a Xmas dinner!

Anywherebuthere · 27/12/2024 14:04

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:59

I should have elaborated more but it’s our first Christmas just us, we’re used to bigger family Christmases. And I just didn’t want to be on my own.

For one day I thought he could miss it. He goes pretty much every day (depending on work).

You are still being very unreasonable.
I think it's good to get out to exercise everyday if its possible. It feels so good.

It's just the two of you. You didn't need to be stuck together for the whole day.

Why did you have some 'me' time and do something for yourself.

rainbowstardrops · 27/12/2024 14:04

My first thought was I didn't realise gyms were open Christmas Day but if it was and that's where he went, it's a bit shit that he couldn't just miss it for one day. You could have gone out for a walk together if he wanted to exercise a bit.

Cantthinkofonenow · 27/12/2024 14:04

Personally I would love a couple of hours to myself to chill out. You still had dinner together. I would understand if he had left you struggling with kids whilst he went out to the gym but you only had to chill by yourself for a bit.
I don’t see the problem

SadieGreen · 27/12/2024 14:04

I did a workout on Christmas Day too - there was plenty of time for it.

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:05

FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:04

Hubby goes for a run every single Xmas day morning. Over the years it’s wound me up no end. He gets up late, dc wants to open presents so we end up doing that without him because I’m so pissed off. He then goes out for a 90min-2hr run. Leaving me to cook dinner on my own. The last 3 years he’s been late back and we’ve started eating without him! We normally have an argument every Xmas day and I end up crying.

I agree with you OP, for one day they could give it a miss. I’m amazed he wanted to go after eating a Xmas dinner!

Yeah but that’s shit and so far away from what happened here it’s not even similar.

SadieGreen · 27/12/2024 14:05

FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:04

Hubby goes for a run every single Xmas day morning. Over the years it’s wound me up no end. He gets up late, dc wants to open presents so we end up doing that without him because I’m so pissed off. He then goes out for a 90min-2hr run. Leaving me to cook dinner on my own. The last 3 years he’s been late back and we’ve started eating without him! We normally have an argument every Xmas day and I end up crying.

I agree with you OP, for one day they could give it a miss. I’m amazed he wanted to go after eating a Xmas dinner!

That’s just plain selfish. I’m sorry 😔

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 27/12/2024 14:06

DH went to the gym on Xmas day a few years ago. He went early, 6am, did his thing and was back by 8.
Anytime Fitness gyms are open 24/7 they are generally unmanned.

UnstableEquilibrium · 27/12/2024 14:06

FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:04

Hubby goes for a run every single Xmas day morning. Over the years it’s wound me up no end. He gets up late, dc wants to open presents so we end up doing that without him because I’m so pissed off. He then goes out for a 90min-2hr run. Leaving me to cook dinner on my own. The last 3 years he’s been late back and we’ve started eating without him! We normally have an argument every Xmas day and I end up crying.

I agree with you OP, for one day they could give it a miss. I’m amazed he wanted to go after eating a Xmas dinner!

That's very different: he's screwing up the entire time table obviously not prioritising his DC, and leaving you to do all the work.

The OH in this scenario is doing all the Christmas stuff and then going out to do something for himself for a bit.