Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

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We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

Maybe next year you can talk before Christmas and explain to him how much you'd like a whole day together. It doesn't even have to be Christmas.

I think I understand why he went to the gym.

I went to the gym on Christmas day. It was open but unstaffed.

It was also just DH and I at home. We had a leisurely breakfast/brunch and then Christmas dinner around 6pm, so lots of time in between tog etc some exercise. It was surprisingly busy I. The gym too, at least 30-40 people in there in the early afternoon.

Op, what did you want from this thread. You seem pissed off people aren’t just agreeing with you and saying he was in the wrong.

I think if you just want people to go yeah you’re right. Then it is best not to start and thread, asking, as people will be honest, and it won’t always go your way.

in this instance, many people would be absolutely fine with their partner going to the gym in the evening, as long as it didn’t impact the Christmas festivities, which it didn’t or kids/family. Which again it didn’t. In a good marriage accomadating each other is key, and it seems he happily did everything all day and just wanted to go take some exercise.

we have no idea what’s going on with your marriage where spending a day together is so important to you , and he’s not supposed to want to go to the gym, or why you didn’t wish to be alone.but on the face of it, you appear petty and unreasonable

I see why he "went for the gym"

We both exercised on Christmas Day (separately). We didn’t go to the gym but could have - we have fob access, so the opening hours are listed on the site but we can get in anytime (for those who googled gyms).

It’s a normal thing to do if you enjoy exercising. For us very exciting as only possible as we were both not working for the first time in about ten years!

He goes every day, unsurprisingly.

I think I would too.

You have studiously avoided the question of how long he was gone so people will fill in the very deliberate blanks themselves.

Ok, change the words to you trying to make him feel bad then.

I agree with the poster you replied to here. At the start of reading your thread I was sort of thinking yeah for one day he should of just left the gym but then I read all your replies and they are not showing you in a good light. If your attitude is like this normally then it’s no surprise he went to the gym

If you have a problem with him going to the gym then that's fair enough.
It wouldn't bother me but I quite enjoy my own company for a few hours.

My dh went and did a practice half marathon when I was in early labour. I found it quite amusing, others would be v. cross I imagine.

I went to the gym Christmas day, there's four ot five open around here

Sounds fine to me, I went swimming in a lake on Christmas morning and thought it was nice to get out for an hour or so.
My gym is open, it’s in a hotel so open every day.

I think it's fine and no different to going for a jog or walking the dog. I'm no gym bunny but it seems to be a routine for many people.

I said "many" would be accessible on Christmas Day.

Not all of them. But quite likely the OP's DH's gym.

Exactly. We start on the presents and Xmas fizz about 11am in our house. I don't think it would be any earlier if we didn't do parkrun, we still need to prep dinner veg and get the turkey in the oven beforehand, we'd just get up later!

Well, quite.

Don't see the issue. DH is a daily gym goer and would go on Christmas Day if we didn't have the kids home with us. You did all the Christmas stuff like dinner, movie, presents etc. so why not? I'd be glad of a few hours to myself!

It was Christmas. Of all days of the year, WHY would anyone be stopped to do what they really enjoy just because they have a grumpy partner who wants to watch more tv or do a jigsaw?

Imagine the husband writing a thread that his wife dared disappearing in the bath for one hour on Christmas day (or for a run, or went to the gym, like many of us have also done...)

Be grateful the man has a hobby and do something YOU enjoy doing.

I've been to my gym on Christmas Day before, really early before anyone else was up.

To those who say gyms don't open Christmas Day, Pure Gym for example does. Even when it's 'closed' ie no receptionist there you can still get in with your pass/code. My mums friend also does a Christmas morning run every single year.
It's a bit ott maybe but my brother can be a bit like this. He actually gets quite uncomfortable if he's eaten more than his usual diet and will generally want to go. If he was only there for a bit then that's a chance for you to watch something you want to watch or sink into a nice hot bath.

I can also confirm that my local Pure Gym was open on Christmas Day. Obviously I didn't go because that would be mental 😂 But it was open nonetheless.

You found a necklace from his secret shopping, but you got given a CD?

He wasn't at the gym.

This is from the plot of Love Actually. OP was snarking about the posters salivating for this to be an affair.

Me too!