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Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 13:51

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

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FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:07

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:05

Yeah but that’s shit and so far away from what happened here it’s not even similar.

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I think leaving someone on their own on Xmas day who doesn’t want to be left on their own is pretty similar 🤷‍♀️. But I guess some people aren’t that fussed about Xmas day….and will still prioritise the gym regardless

Maddy70 · 27/12/2024 14:07

Many gyms were open Christmas day... God the responses here, so little trust

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:08

FeegleFrenzy · 27/12/2024 14:07

I think leaving someone on their own on Xmas day who doesn’t want to be left on their own is pretty similar 🤷‍♀️. But I guess some people aren’t that fussed about Xmas day….and will still prioritise the gym regardless

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Well I think it depends, if something has happened that’s made the op unable to be alone, maybe she lost someone or something then I agree, but if she’s just being needy then I’m afraid I don’t beleive her needs trump his.

GretchenWienersHair · 27/12/2024 14:08

The ‘muscle man’ gyms are often open on Christmas Days. There are a few near me which were open throughout Covid too and went viral for it!

Wolfpa · 27/12/2024 14:10

what did you not get to do because he was at the gym? If you haven’t missed out on anything then I don’t see the problem.

livingafulllife · 27/12/2024 14:10

I have two jym in our town one of them is open 24 hours 7 days a week 365 days a year it never shuts.
Some people just like to get on with things just because its xmas day life dont stop.
I done a deep clean last year de-cluttering out side cleaning windows etc..
This year i went on holiday still on holiday i went to a noddle bar xmas day and spent the night with a very nice man.
My best mate went for a run on xmas day spent the rest of it fixing his car.
My sister went for a 7 mile hike all day.
We are all different some of us are just not in to all this xmas traditions.

thefairytaleofnewyork · 27/12/2024 14:10

My son went on Boxing Day. His gym is open 24/7 and 365 days of the year.

Minesril · 27/12/2024 14:10

I work out most days but had an off day on Christmas Day. Wouldn't've had space for my mat among all the new toys even if I wanted to!

If it was just me and DH I might have though.

Runningoutofthyme · 27/12/2024 14:11

A 4 hour gym session or 1 hour?

what was it you wanted to do, that made it an issue he went to the gym?

i wouldn’t want to be stuck in all day but he could of suggested a walk together?

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 14:11

I can't see an issue with this. DH and I walked the dog together but then he went off for a nap for a few hours in the afternoon while I watched TV on my own.

I grew up with my dad going running on Christmas Day though so it's the norm for me for everyone to have a bit of "alone time" in between all the family stuff.

WalterdelaMare · 27/12/2024 14:12

I can’t see a problem. Most gym bunnies hate to miss a session.

SatsumaDog · 27/12/2024 14:13

If it was just the two of us, I would probably go to the gym early on Christmas Day. I go pretty much every day and it’s part of my routine. I did go on Boxing Day and it was very busy. I don’t see the issue as long as he wasn’t t there for 3 hours.

LlynTegid · 27/12/2024 14:15

Should have been discussed beforehand.

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pineofcone · 27/12/2024 14:16

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:02

Is there a back story, did something bad happen so he needed to be with you, and you couldn’t spend an hour or so alone in the evening?

to be honest, I’d have been fine with this, but I’m ok with my own company for a short period. We had our kids here, but had it been the two of us, I’d have done the same.

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I’m fine with my own company, I just wanted to spend the full day with my husband. I didn’t want to sit on my own and watch a film.

If you can’t spend one full day together as a couple then ..

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Moonwalkies · 27/12/2024 14:17

TwentyTwentyFive · 27/12/2024 13:53

Was the gym actually open, I find that very hard to believe and as per the previous poster I would think he went elsewhere.

Some gyms open for a few hours, my DB owns one and he opens it for 2 hours on Christmas day for those where it's just another day, for those who like the routine, or for those who are lonely and want a chance to see other humans. Most close, but i wouldn't presume he's lying.

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:18

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 14:16

I’m fine with my own company, I just wanted to spend the full day with my husband. I didn’t want to sit on my own and watch a film.

If you can’t spend one full day together as a couple then ..

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Ok, I’m sure you can do a day together, that feels quite extreme. And emotionally manipulative.

im afraid I don’t beleive your needs trump his or you get to demand he’s not allowed to do anything he wishes.

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:18

I think you are saying you felt sad and upset - related to a lack of a family Christmas and perhaps you were looking for support and for him to stay with you?

biscuitsandbooks · 27/12/2024 14:18

pineofcone · 27/12/2024 14:16

I’m fine with my own company, I just wanted to spend the full day with my husband. I didn’t want to sit on my own and watch a film.

If you can’t spend one full day together as a couple then ..

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Did you tell him that? Or ask if you could join him/go for a walk together instead?

HideousKinky · 27/12/2024 14:18

I really don't understand any adult who can't handle being left on their own for a few hours, on any day of the year

Moonlightstars · 27/12/2024 14:19

Strikeoutnow · 27/12/2024 13:56

Someone will be along soon to tell you they did an Ironman in the morning & a triathlon after dinner. Gym is just part of their routine.

I played a football match!

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:19

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:18

I think you are saying you felt sad and upset - related to a lack of a family Christmas and perhaps you were looking for support and for him to stay with you?

Um what now, you trying tk help her justify it. 😂

DreadPirateRobots · 27/12/2024 14:19

ElangaScores · 27/12/2024 13:53

If it was just me and DH at home on Xmas day, I’d go to the gym too.

Me too.

A lot of people do Parkrun on Christmas Day and I would have gladly joined one if there had been one near where we were staying. I don't see how that's notably different from the gym.

Mercurial123 · 27/12/2024 14:19

I can't see the issue. You spent most of the day with him.

JennyPenny222 · 27/12/2024 14:19

Is he shagging someone at the gym?

Lostinmusic22 · 27/12/2024 14:20

Shrinkingrose · 27/12/2024 14:19

Um what now, you trying tk help her justify it. 😂

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I am saying there is much more to this story, don’t be so simplistic. Clearly there is a backstory.