Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

[pineofcone]

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

And you’re complaining?

Why a whole day? Why is 23/24 hours not enough?

Well now you mention it he did secretly go shopping and I found a necklace in a box in his coat pocket. But when I opened my gift it was just a Joni Mitchell CD.

You both seem to be really poor at communicating.

When he said he was off to the gym, did you not ask him to stay home if that's what you wanted?

You could have asked him to go later, or do X with you instead?

To strangers on the internet?

So what would you have done if he hadn’t gone to the gym?

DH and I both went for a run on Xmas day (separately). When he managed gyms we used to have our own Christmas gym sessions too. I don’t think taking an hour or so to exercise is that unreasonable. But equally I do think this should be discussed in advance, not just sprung on you.

I did parkrun. Assuming he wasn’t out for hours I think it is ok

My dad used to go running on Xmas day. On Christmas eve my partner said oh tomorrow I may go for a run or a cycle. In my head I thought oh no you bloody won't and so we went out for a walk together which was very nice. Should I have nixed his plans? Probably not but I'm bloody fed up of his disappearing for hours at a time.

The gym near us was open and there were people in there so ignore the people who give and ulterior motifs.
The only thing that stops me from exercising on Christmas Day is having all the family here.

Me and dp have been together 8 years we haven't ever spent Christmas day apart because we don't want to , but if he wanted to do something I wouldn't mind

I bet he didn’t for the rest of the day though!

Yes, so don't make him feel bad about it.

He popped to the gym, not the top of Ben Nevis.

Why shouldn't he go to the gym?

Based on what?

How did I make him feel bad about it?

My Gym was closed however I can believe some are open. If he tracks his workouts then easiest way to know he went would be to check Strava or Garmin etc 🤣
Kids had other plans Xmas day so I went for a hike with a friend. Best Xmas day in ages 👌
If he was only gone an hour or so then I can’t see the issue personally x

It was shit of him

He should have at least said, I fancy popping to the gym, is it ok if I go? Or do you fancy coming too?

Same with anyone on Christmas day should be considerate.

Then you would have been able to discuss.

I wonder if this is a one off or whether there is a bigger issue of not feeling the priority often here?

My DH has trained on Christmas Day before now, as soon as the kids are grown I will be doing the same.

I don’t think he has done anything wrong, you could have gone with him if you wanted. Exercise is good for everyone.

What a fuss about nothing - from your attitude on here OP I can totally see why he went to the gym.

I have some friends who are doing the „Festive 500“, meaning they will be cycling 500 kilometers between Christmas eve and New Years Eve. I guess their partners won‘t be seeing them often until the new year.
OP, how long did he stay at the gym?

@pineofcone how long was he gone for?

I am genuinely not getting it? What is the issue? Would it have been different if he’d wanted to go for a run? Christmas can be quite boring

The thing is if he goes every single day virtually without fail then surely it would have been a given he would go today?