Husband went to the gym on Christmas Day?

[pineofcone]

We did Christmas just the two of us. We don’t have children and our families live in different countries.

We did presents, watched a film, cooked dinner and then he said he was off to the gym. He is very much into the gym, goes pretty much every day.

He couldn’t understand why I was annoyed that he couldn’t just miss one day. Aibu?

Who said he felt bad though?

Mine is 24/7. Not a chain, a small independent so won't name it on here as it'll be outing but it was open Christmas Day. I went on Christmas Eve, didn't get time on Christmas Day.

Who mentioned one hour?

What a sad little life Jane.

Who’s that invested in a thread they spend their time googling gym opening times.

I'd go the gym too

When you acted annoyed, what reaction were you hoping for from him?

People who read on here instead a book

It’s the one question you keep on avoiding answering. If he was gone for 1-2 hrs you’re unreasonable. If he was gone for 3+ hrs - yes it’s a bit much.
theres no one in the world I want to spend 24 hrs with- I personally need breaks throughout the day otherwise I feel suffocated. What if him taking a bit of time/ space helps him be a better partner?

You'd need to be the world's dimmest adulterer (or have a ridiculously low opinion of your spouse) to tell them you're off to the gym on Christmas Day if the gym in question advertises that it's closed. It's hardly subtle.

Wow

He sounds An arse as you have kids

Up late. No watching kids open stuff
Andate for dinner

But for op

Don't see the issue if just a couple. I would have been happy to chill /read /tv for a few hours while dh at gym

I went for a run Christmas day, think he could have run the plan past you but not inherently unreasonable to want to go

I went for a run on Christmas Day and I’d like to confirm that doesn’t mean I was having an affair and getting bent over a log somewhere in the woods, it just means I went for a run.

Op you are coming across as quite unpleasant in your replies. I can see why your DH would want time away from you if you are also like this in rl

😴 ok stranger, thanks for a classic yet boringly unoriginal MN comment, I’m sure your opinion of me as an anonymous person you’ve never met means a lot.

The irony of your response to being called unpleasant 😭😭😭

Very much envy your day OP! My day was a screaming toddler that didn’t like anything and no rest until she finally went to bed in the evening. I’d have given my right arm for some quiet time on Christmas 😂

My dh also went to the gym on Xmas day

Ours has 24 hr access.

I don't see what the issue is @pineofcone ?

So it was a Xmas day without family around what difference does that make??

Seriously if you're that needy you have an issue.

It does make me laugh here at times.
The posts from women saying they don't get any time out and are told to just go and do stuff for yourselves and under no circumstances are you to go home or not go and yet a man goes out to the gym and everyone jumps and says he's not putting the op first.

I look forward to some peace and quiet when mine goes to the gym to read my book or just pootle or watch what I want on tv

There are gyms open on Christmas Day? Mine was firmly shut.

As for him going to the gym (if he really did) it’s 1-2 hours out of a 24 hour day so I don’t really see the big deal.

My gym was open Xmas Day, always is.
I wouldn’t begrudge my oh going but if I’d explicity asked him not too I’d be annoyex/disappointed and find it unecessary on Christmas Day I think

Gyms are open but this is MN he has to be shagging something, I don't know if this place could handle him getting petrol

If my husband wanted to go and it did not interfere in anything planned i would have no issue, he'll would freeze over before I did it but nothing to do with Christmas

I would go to bookshop if it was open but would this mean I would have to cheat with the man in knitting section?

I went for a walk...if dh told me he didn't want me to go as he wanted to spend 24 hours with me, I would have thought he was bonkers (and felt suffocated). Unless there was a reason e.g. he was really sick.

I would crack up without the fresh air / exercise / peace for an hour.

My DH for sure would go for a bike ride if the weather was okay for it. There is no chance at all of getting him to sit on a sofa and watch a film if he could be outside. Honestly I'm glad to let him go as he would be up and down the whole time watching a film to find anything else to do.

What are you looking for on your thread, @pineofcone it isn't clear.

to give you any sort of worthwhile response you needed to give more information to judge whether it was a reasonable action for your DP to go to the gym. Was he gone for an hour or so? How quickly did he return? Did you have Christmas dinner together or did he do a disappearing act for hours?

instead of being goading and mocking posters on here, why not give some information if you do actually want some proper opinions based on more than the most scant information.

if not, happy new year, hope he doesn't disappear to the gym on NYE.

I would have done had it been open