Wish adult child would bloody well go home now!

[loveawineloveacrisp]

Arrived on Xmas Eve, comes as a package with small, very needy dog (who torments my dog, not to mention shits and pees everywhere) and boyfriend. Honestly I'm happy she still wants to spend Xmas with us but FFS just go home now. The constant cooking, clearing up, cleaning, everything in the fridge being demolished (including a full bottle of my gin that the BF has supped) is just driving me mad now. I'd like my house back please.

Is anyone else just taking deep breaths until it's time for their adult kids to leave or am I just horrible?

Plus I think the fact OP is planning to move overseas to retire says it all x

Well, I miss my kids and am glad they want to come home. I stick my fridge with things they like and when their boyfriends come, I ask in advance what they’d like

BUT

the boyfriends come etc gin or wine, flowers and chocolate.

one is really great at chopping and washes dishes. plus he tidies up after my one daughter who is a tornado in the kitchen.

bite your tongue. If you make it uncomfortable, they won’t be back. Then you’ll just be sad and lonely on holidays

If you’re tight for cash, ask for gin as a hostess gift before they next visit over night. Just tell them you’re out and you know how much he enjoys it so please can they stop and get a bottle.

What a silly comment.

Unfortunately some cute kids grow up into lazy entitled adults, and parents are well within their rights to get fed up with their behaviour. It doesn't mean they shouldn't have had them 🙄

Why's that then?

They've gone home in a strop as I made them get up at 8am to sort their own dog out.

@loveawineloveacrisp good riddance! What a cheek expecting you to sort the dog out.

Book an all inclusive holiday to the Caribbean for next christmas now and don't tell them until 20 December 2025. Spend the next year paying it off in installments and them enjoy a childfree break.

You’ve sent your child home in a strop? Always remember: we create our own monsters

I didn't 'send her home' - she was leaving today anyway and chose to go early.

There's a clear divide in responses here between those who want to be martyrs for their kids til they die, and those who love their kids but also have their own lives and expect some common decency and manners.

Yeh but I brought my sons up to have decency and manners so there’s no need for me to be a martyr

And the third category who don't have to be martyrs for their kids because they have brought their kids up to respect them and love having them around because they enjoy their company.

@Cattery

why shouldn’t OP send her daughter home if she won’t sort her own dog out? Do you think OP should just clean up the shit and put up and shut up?

@Cattery you're clearly goading me but you have no idea how I am as a mother.

Not goading you at all. I’m just saying my experience with my adult children is different to yours

Precisely.

@Cattery

you see it all the time though, parents who have done their absolute best to instil manners and values etc into their children but at the end of the day they are their own person and it’s largely luck of the draw as to how they end up being

@LuckySantangelo35 Maybe

@Cattery

you don’t sound convinced…

@cattery what an interesting statement- one of mine is devil like 😂😂 I’m not taking the blame

I’m just thinking I’d never EVER bad mouth my kids. To anyone. There’s nothing bad to say anyway. The OP sounds like she’s reaped what she’s sown

@Cattery

op’s daughter has behaved really badly, op is just saying it as it is. Do you think she should just clean up the dog shit and smile sweetly because it’s her daughter? Bit martyr like to me that