DH asking if I had a nice Christmas irks me

[RainbowDr0p]

I know I am probably BU but wondering if I am alone in this?!

We've had a lovely few days, Christmas's ice skating, mulled wine and shopping in York then lovely Christmas day and pizza hut, shopping and a panto yesterday. Everyone in good spirits.

On Christmas evening, DH asked if I had a nice day. I bit my tongue and said yes, have you?" and he said yes too. Last night he asked if I had a nice Christmas and I said I had but I hated being asked that as had I given any indication otherwise? He said he was just trying to make conversation and I told him he's not my hairdresser! We didn't row or anything and moved on just fine.

I've realised he asks this a lot after we have had nice days or unusual days. AIBU in thinking it's an unimaginative - maybe praise seeking - question?!!!

Ah. I think you are like my DH maybe. He never says anything positive about anything. We can have the loveliest time and he won't say a word about having enjoyed it. But I like to chat about the things I've enjoyed, so I ask him if he had a nice time, what did he like most, because I want to have a nice conversation.
DH will just literally go through life not commenting on anything at all like he's some kind of passive passenger with no opinion and I'll never know if he likes something or not. Is that you OP? Because if so it's hard to live with!

Poor bloke. I feel ever so sorry for him.

Poor bloke. I feel ever so sorry for him.

That sounds like a clumsy attempt to see if the day had gone the way she wanted. He'd also lost his father, which is a big thing for anyone, so it seems a bit mean to be judging him for maybe choosing the wrong words on a rough day.

This is different - it’s constant and repetitive. You’re right to feel peeved. Sounds like you are very patient and understanding.

Nah. Don't think there's anything wrong with this OP, he's just checking in, and assuming you hadn't had a nice Christmas it would be your opportunity to share, and maybe he will help improve it next year

The response to this post are making me want to leave MN, it's so over the top and unpleasant. I'm really sorry OP I don't think you are horrible or any of the things people have said and I can get it! Just chat to your husband about what would be better communication wise

She's not judging him for choosing the wrong words on a rough day. It's his modus operandi. It's just a habit of speaking.
I also think Op's DH does the same. It's gap filling, inane chatter rather than a well intentioned question.

My DH is the same. It feels weird when he asks me if I had a nice Christmas day when he was with me the entire time. He also ask me if I think the DCs had a good Christmas. To me it looks obvious they had a brilliant Christmas. I assume he just wants everyone happy. He's a very kind man.