FIL wants to take my 12 week old around to visit neighbours

[Charlottef94]

We are visiting our PIL in a few days and MIL said to DH on the phone this morning that FIL
”can’t wait” to take my DS around to all their random neighbours to show him off. My baby is 12 weeks old and I feel very uncomfortable that this was stated without even asking if I, his mother would be okay with that and insinuating he would be going alone with my baby. All I can say is he will absolutely not be doing so and my baby will not be leaving my eye line. What if I wanted to keep him away from germs etc? He also hates strangers at the moment and will assume FIL is also a stranger as he likes me to be nearby whenever family are holding him at the moment. Am I being unreasonable in demanding I join any of these visits?

I think poster is being a bit dramatic. I agree with you. No big deal, go round with him with baby in the pram if you’re that concerned.

I think it’s perfectly normal for your baby to want you and not others. They are more aware of their surroundings but still don’t have a sense of self so see you as part of them.
My daughter is now 2 and has gone through stages of being fine to go with other people and then inconsolable if I leave the room!!
The only thing I’d say is that it should come from your husband to say that he won’t be taking him. And your husband needs to be responding to any weird comments. Just because I have been through a similar situation and I’m thought of as over protective mum even though my husband agrees!!!!

Will the baby be wrapped in cotton wool untill its 18 years old or just around the inlaws

Will the baby be wrapped in cotton wool untill its 18 years old or just around the inlaws

Just say: "That's a lovely idea - let's wait till all these winter bugs have gone."

Just sounds like a separation anxiety phase to me - quite normal and a lot of babies go through this from time to time.

Exhausting, but this too shall pass.

My in laws did the same when dd was a small baby about 7 months ago, I was fine with it, found it quite sweet tbh! But if you aren't comfortable then you can of course say that.