To think my family don't know me?

[spottykimchi]

Gifts from 6 people. Each one got me chocolate or bubble bath.

That's it.

That's what I'm reduced to. I got thought out gifts for everyone and in return..generic chocolate and bubble bath. I don't even have baths.

Aibu to just return the favour next year?

Have they considered that indeed they dont actually know you? What kind of personality do you have and do you express your desires and interests to them? Without more information it’s impossible to know whether this is a you problem or a them problem.

That happened to my sister one year. She was laughing by the end. Sometimes you just are the emergency bath salts present. I’m sure they love you.

I mean one of these people is my husband..

The christmas day complaining… it is tiresome.
i jever have presents to open at my inlaws as we always open our presents as a damily a few days before - we have teens. Now they dont believe in santa we make new traditions.

chill. You got something to open ans really it is luckier than most.

try to enjoy the rest of the day and not be too resentful.

easier said than done I know but try.

Maybe I give off those vibes?

I shall try and drop more hints next year

My DH can be a bit odd with buying presents. This year I've just told him what to buy.

What WOULD you have liked for Christmas?

Even so - do you have interests and hobbies and stuff you want that you have communicated to him and the rest…or is he just useless? Not enough info to tell either way.

Oh sorry I'm boring you but it's annoying me.
I feel like the spare wheel. The oh that will do for kimchi. Like not only am I reduced to little one's mum but I can't possibly have any interests outside chocolate and baths.

Christmas present buying is hard. You’re one person but they might be trying to think of ideas for many more.

The afterthought presents absolutely no effort put into it.

All my husband had to do was buy any of the generic crap that says "mum" on it from the little one that I can then treasure forever and instead I get.. a box of milk tray.

Just buy yourself what you want and think of how they actually care and love you. Presents are just things they aren’t important.

They aren't trying very hard then

Then we might as well not bother. It's the thought that counts and the thoughts are "that'll do"

sounds like you need to let him know that. He’s probably a lazy present buyer

I've just ordered myself some chanel handcream from the joint account.

I mean, do you communicate what your hobbies are and say what you might like'or are you a bit bland ?

Am I a bit bland???? How rude

Then don't bother. I got to this stage with my ex in laws. There wasn't any thought.

But l am mindful that times are hard and many people have no gifts today. Have had no one wish them a Merry Christmas. One in ten, according to the BBC.

Next year buy them a token gift and enjoy their company instead.

So did you tell them beforehand that you wanted Chanel hand cream? I communicate through speech. If you want me to know something you actually have to say the words.

Loads of people would find a mug like that just as generic and annoying as Milk Tray. So it doesn't sound like you're particularly easy to buy for.

I'll donate the chocolates to the food bank then

No because my hobbies and interests aren't chanel handcream they could have used their noggin and got me any hand cream

Honestly it just sounds as though you've got poor communication skills.

Enjoy your hand cream.