To ask if a friend's birthday was around Xmas time, would you be willing to celebrate their birthday in the summer instead?

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My birthday is a few days after Xmas. As many of us on here know, who also have their birthday at this time, it tends to get overlooked. I've come to terms with it, but it still makes me feel a bit sad, and tbh it feels like I don't really have a birthday. I totally understand that Pp are busy, or away, or don't have much money and that it's just one more thing to have to deal with at this time of year.

This year I have a significant birthday coming up and I'm wondering whether I should just have a celebration in the Spring/Summer instead? It feels a bit of a cheek tbh, but if I'd really like to have something that's just for me! I don't want presents, I just want to feel a bit special for one day. If someone invited you to something like this, honestly, how would you feel..?

It's my daughters birthday Xmas eve

For a few years she celebrated her birthday 24th July.

She's now reverted back to her real birthday but I can understand why she wanted it for a while. She got to see her friends, have outdoor parties, not have any Xmas stuff take over etc

I'd find it a bit weird but I'd still go.

I've missed FUNERALS because they fell in December and the trains were cancelled due to snow. If I have to travel any distance to the party it is much more pleasant to go in the light. Plus one kid is a budding musician so December is performance time. 25th June is a great day for a party. I'm up for it, OP!

Yes, agree if it’s a special milestone. But if someone always celebrated it in the summer, I’d find that a bit self-indulgent. I honestly don’t understand why so many adults make such a big fuss about their birthday anyway. I’m not saying the OP always does, but so many adults do want a big fuss every year, a big group going for a meal/facials/club or whatever and that’s a PITA.

But also, OP, why do you have to have it in the summer, and not closer to the real
date, like Feb? People will have got past Christmas and might like something to look fwd to in February, and it’s still the right season!

This. I love my friends. I'd support their choice and wouldn't assume it was done for greed .etc. so what's the problem?

I have a couple of friends that do that. No one's ever had an issue with it.

You'd find it ridiculous someone wants to celebrate their birthday with friends and family at a time when people are around, can afford it and the weather isn't awful?

Absolutely do it, one of my children is a Boxing Day baby and loses out every year.

Go for it! My sibling was born just after Christmas and you absolutely do end up with a different experience. People often overlook it, are too busy to make a birthday party or give you one gift for Christmas/your birthday where they would give others 2. I don't mean that in a materialistic way and of course people are stretched over Christmas, it's just the disparity is clear to a child who's other siblings get 2 days of celebrations.

I imagine that might have been your experience when you were young so absolutely have a day just for you in the Summer if you want! I'd wager your friend and family would prefer it, speaking from experience😂

Thanks for your positivity, that's really given me a boost! 😁❤

Is find it strange to celebrate a December birthday in the summer. Celebrating in November or January would seem okay as I appreciate people are busy in December but I would find it odd to wait 6 months until after the date. I have an early December birthday so get how rubbish it is to have a birthday near Christmas but I still think celebrating in summer would be weird. I suppose the only exception might be if it was a very significant birthday and you were having a very large party, booking out a venue and catering with guests travelling from far and wide. I think for a big celebration choosing a date that isn’t that close isnt as strange, but would be very odd if you were just having a meal or drinks out or a smallish get together with friends.

I would do whatever my friend wanted to do. Because they are my friend.

Ignore the “fake birthday” posts OP. These people obviously don’t care about their friends.

TBF early Dec and Xmas week are totally different. Early Dec and yeah there's lots of Xmas stuff around but everyone is in party mood. Might be hard to find a date but if you plan early, everyone is up for fun. Xmas week, everyone is too stressed. Week after Xmas week everyone is too tired / busy / skint.
I'm so glad my twins came mid not end cos it's very different

Do it! It's my birthday today and although I've never really bothered with it I think it's a great idea to do something special in the spring/summer.

Sure why not? I have only the vaguest idea when my friends birthday are. They could invite me any time and say it's for their birthday and I'd be fine with that.

I have a friend whose birthday is early Jan, he has a what he called 'royal' birthday in June. No-one really paid much heed.

I appreciate it’s different and as I said I understand why OP would want to celebrate on a date outside of her birthday, but if early Dec is so great why wouldn’t she just celebrate then? Celebrating 2 weeks before your birthday makes more sense than 6 months before/ after. Celebrating in early Dec or even late November or in mid-January makes sense for a Christmas week birthday, celebrating in June does not.

Yes - did it for my 18th - Bd near Christmas, but had my party in summer. The only thing is avoiding people being on holiday. And people who wouldn't celebrate because it's fake, aren't your real friends.

People saying they wouldn't go because it is the wrong date probably don't have many really good friends. If a friend asks you to a celebration, you go if you possibly can and embrace it. That's what friends are for. I'd turn up at the opening of an envelope for my good friends.

My best friend was born in january, we celebrated his 40s in may or june, in a very special venue.

I'm an august baby, and my big birthday party was 3 weeks ago.
No one asked my passport to check my date of birth. Who cares really.

If a close friend said to me i saw robin today let's have a party i would happily join in

What i mean is with real friends there should not need to be a reason any excuse is fine to do something

I celebrated my 30th months after my actual birthday, and it wasn't a problem. Some people gave me gifts on my actual birthday, and others at the party.

Great idea, OP! I'd definitely come if I were your friend.

Not following the posters saying they'd only come if it were a special birthday? Surely you don't just prepare to see your friends on their birthdays - how's it any different from a friend hosting a summer barbecue for no particular reason than to get everyone together?

Go for it! In my opinion, for a big birthday you can basically celebrate any time within the year because it’s celebrating a whole decade, not just a day.

People saying they wouldn’t go to your party… I would go to a friend’s party for any reason! If they don’t want to celebrate something that is important to you, they’re not your friends.

Funnily enough I was just talking to a friend who has a Xmas Eve birthday, yesterday was a milestone one and she's going to throw a big party in May, I think. I will happily go! Anyone pursing their lips about fake birthdays is a weirdo. There's no reason a birthday has to be celebrated on the day. I've celebrated mine a week to several months out every year I can remember. The party and the people are the point, not the calendar date.