To ask if a friend's birthday was around Xmas time, would you be willing to celebrate their birthday in the summer instead?

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My birthday is a few days after Xmas. As many of us on here know, who also have their birthday at this time, it tends to get overlooked. I've come to terms with it, but it still makes me feel a bit sad, and tbh it feels like I don't really have a birthday. I totally understand that Pp are busy, or away, or don't have much money and that it's just one more thing to have to deal with at this time of year.

This year I have a significant birthday coming up and I'm wondering whether I should just have a celebration in the Spring/Summer instead? It feels a bit of a cheek tbh, but if I'd really like to have something that's just for me! I don't want presents, I just want to feel a bit special for one day. If someone invited you to something like this, honestly, how would you feel..?

I had three friends with birthdays today, two were 50 and one was 40. None of them would have been happy with that.

Not cheeky at all! Very reasonable- I’m a summer baby, and always felt very sorry for my friends who are born near/on Xmas or New Year’s

Awww OP!
There are a few miserable buggers you can cross off your invite list on here aren't there?
Some of these responses are hilarious: ridiculous, fake, wrong date, not my business ...
Go for it! Life is too short not to celebrate you whenever you like!

Fine with me!

My best friend's birthday is mid December. She will turn 40min 2 years and we will plan something for her during the summer as trying to arrange anything near Christmas is insane.

I'd go. Much nicer to celebrate in the summer. The Queen did it so why not you? Happy birthday.

Yep, totally.
Two people I am close to have birthdays near Christmas, and I'd be more than happy to celebrate 'official' birthdays with them whenever they chose.

Ok I'm drunk but my thoughts:

If I had a friend and she had a big birthday a few days after Christmas I would happily go and celebrate that.

Of course lots of people wouldn't because they would prioritise their own Christmas stuff.

So by throwing a party at a different time of the year, you're appealing to the second group of people. And maybe they aren't the kind of people you want around for a special birthday.

Wouldn't you want the people who will prioritise you irrespective of the time of year.

Bet your birthday isn't at Christmas

I'd celebrate a friend's birthday whenever, any excuse for a get together, but then I socialise and go out with friends plenty throughout the year anyway.

Aw thank you for such lovely replies! Bit taken aback by the not so nice pp, but hey, I did ask for honesty..!😂

Genuine question, why not?

Why does it matter what someone badges a party as, you don't need a reason to have a party, are you really saying you would refuse to attend a friend's party because it wasn't on their actual birthday, I find that totally bizarre

Yes! I'd definitely go. Just call it your 40th birthday celebration or whatever, I've been to a couple of things like this.

Wouldn’t have a problem
with it at all as long as the person whose birthday was being celebrated was happy with the shift. Life happens. Birthdays conflict with holidays. People get busy. People get sick. Have parties when it is convenient.

Good thing you’re not invited.

How incredibly miserable must you be to refuse to join in a celebration for a friend on a day of their choosing?
I wonder would you decline the invite with indignation or attend with a sour face and complain to everyone that it isn't right?

Thanks, but the problem has been that a lot of pp are just away. In fact the best birthday I had was mid January, when everyone was around...

Oh I love you!😁

Do it OP. Nobody will mind.

I'm 50 next birthday but it's a few days before the 1st anniversary I buried my kid so I'm celebrating it in October instead. Literally nobody minds and tbh, anyone who did, I would class as a reet prick and they would be pushed down my friend priority list.

People who care about you, don't care about stuff like that. They just want you to be happy.

Both myself and my DS have birthdays between Christmas and NY. However we live in Australia so it’s summer holidays here.

What we tend to do is celebrate with family on the actual day and if we want a party we do it a couple of weeks earlier or later. I celebrated my 50th at the end of January. Nobody seemed to have a problem with it.

My dh was really busy around my birthday (a big one) so planned a celebration weekend for 3 months later.
All my friends came.
Go for it.

It's it a fake birthday. Op isn't pretending she's 21 or sneaking in some extra birthdays. She's just celebrating later in the year. So you really only go to celebration's on the actual day? My twins had their party a day late - is that fake? What if had been the following weekend? If a week's ok, why not two or a month or two so long as everyone knows the situation.

Yes op I'm also a late Dec baby with mid Dec kids. Just tell people "I'm 30 December but I'm doing X in whatever month when the weather is nicer". People capable of empathy will get it

Yes do it. Mine is 30th and it is pants having a bday close to Christmas. I don’t care much for birthdays so never bothered to do the same but i’d totally support a friend doing what you are planning

My sibling was born on Christmas Day and we have always celebrated their “half birthday”. A Christmas birthday is rubbish!

I always say I will do this. My birthday’s in January (UK) and honestly it’s miserable: it’s a week from payday and lots of people get paid early before Christmas, so they’re on week five or six of December pay and really feeling the pinch; people are doing dry January; the weather sucks and spring is still so far away! Maybe when I’m 50 I will finally do it and celebrate in the summer (probably making it rain and hail in June especially for the occasion, but at least we won’t all be so skint as we are in January 😂)