To ask if a friend's birthday was around Xmas time, would you be willing to celebrate their birthday in the summer instead?

[Appalonia]

My birthday is a few days after Xmas. As many of us on here know, who also have their birthday at this time, it tends to get overlooked. I've come to terms with it, but it still makes me feel a bit sad, and tbh it feels like I don't really have a birthday. I totally understand that Pp are busy, or away, or don't have much money and that it's just one more thing to have to deal with at this time of year.

This year I have a significant birthday coming up and I'm wondering whether I should just have a celebration in the Spring/Summer instead? It feels a bit of a cheek tbh, but if I'd really like to have something that's just for me! I don't want presents, I just want to feel a bit special for one day. If someone invited you to something like this, honestly, how would you feel..?

As the parent of a child who was born at this time of year, I'd have no issues celebrating with a friend in the summer for a similar birth date!

100%. I have a summer birthday and have always thought it the ideal time to have a birthday, so I would fully support a friend who wanted to do this.

I wouldn’t go to a fake birthday.

I’ve got to a celebration but id
still give the gift on your actually birthday personally.

Absolutely - do it OP! My DS was born on Christmas Day, he is an adult now but we would always celebrate him on a day in the summer where he would have a party with his friends and presents etc. I was always adamant that he should have a special day in the year that is not special for anyone else - unlike Christmas Day! So I totally get your dilemma and would be happy to do this for a friend.

Go for it. My birthday is on 28th and it’s rubbish. My nephew’s birthday is 23rd and I give him presents in June (and a little one in December) but I am the only one that does this. I did say if any of our kids were born in December I would do a summer birthday but they were spring and autumn babies

Special birthday yes but a normal birthday no,

Yes, I had a friend who did this and none of us minded her having a party in the summer time instead of 2nd Jan when we were all miserable and didn't want to celebrate on that day.

I wouldn’t celebrate. It’s not the right date.

One of my best friends has a Dec birthday. I’d go to any party she wants to have any time, and I think most of her close friends would too

I'm not sure I'd call it a fake birthday!

Surely we can have a party whenever we like - it doesn't have to be on your birthday. If you want to organise a party anytime in the year and invite your friends then why not? The OP has said she doesn't want presents or anything just a day to feel special. That's not too much to ask - besides people who love and care for you would go without question.

Yes, we do it most years for a friend who has a close to Christmas December birthday - it's her half birthday and is enthusiastically celebrated by us all!

I would have no issues if a friend wanted to postpone their celebrations - something to look forward to! I still would acknowledge their actual birthday with at least a card.
Happy birthday to you 🎁

Absolutely I would come, whenever you prefer to celebrate. I like to show up for my friends!

Why would it be any of my business?

You would honestly decline a friends birthday invitation because they weren’t celebrating it on their birthday?

I totally get it, my mother had one of 'those' (non) birthdays and she hated it! I think a summer celebration would be a great idea!

Agree special Birthday yes, most people even if they don't have a birthday close to Christmas know someone who does and sympathise with the plight.

I'd find it a little ridiculous tbh.

I think the Queen used to have two birthdays, her actual birthday and her official birthday or something bizarre like that. I don't know if the King does it.

Thanks😓

A friend is 50 today and is throwing a party on 25/6.

If OP's birthday fell on a Tuesday and she wanted to have her party the following Saturday when everyone was free, would you decline because the date was wrong?

I did this for my 40th, as I'd just had a baby. Nobody questioned it

But it’s not a fake birthday it’s celebrating her birthday at a time she prefers…

So what WOULD you do if that was YOUR birthday..?