Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

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Staying at my parents’ house for Christmas with dp and dd (3), my sister is also here.
Sat around on Xmas Eve chatting about the order of the day tomorrow. I assume my dd will wake early (6ish) and I’m happy for her to have her stocking when she wakes up. I said ‘oh, she’ll probably have everyone up as she’ll be excited and want to show you all what she’s got’. Just got a groan from df, and pointed silence from dm and dsis said ‘she can show me stuff but I’m not getting up’. So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.
AIBU to think that this is slightly mean spirited on Christmas Day?
They would never dream of letting us having a lie in by taking dd in the morning normally (obviously wouldn’t want that in Xmas day as I want to be there!) and refuse to get up before 8 when we come to stay, even if we’re up for ages before then. My dp’s mum would be so excited to get up with us and dd on Christmas morning and open her stocking. Am I making a bit deal out of nothing? I just feel a bit disappointed by my family but maybe I need to accept that other people just aren’t going to be as interested/excited about my kid as I would like! What would your Xmas morning routine be with your wider family?

I would hate to be woken up at 6am for this to be honest! She can show them what she’s got at 8am surely!

Agreed.

I think it's a bit weird that your DM isn't excited to see your DD open her presents, but I guess you can't force them to be interested. Bit of a shame really cos what's the point of having you to stay over to be there on Xmas morning together if you're not interested in your grandchild opening their presents?!

When you have kids in the house you get up. My youngest will be up about 630. We’ll all get up including older siblings. If my parents were here they would also be up. Next year stay with pils!

I think 8am is a perfectly reasonable time for your family to get up. They will have the whole day to be able to spend time with your dd.

Totally agree with you. But it's their loss. As long as it's no earlier than 6 though! Could you try and distract dd when she wakes and say 'he hasn't been yet, we need to be v quiet and go back to sleep or he won't leave any presents' etc? Leave the sticking outside room so she doesn't see!

I miss those days. Enjoy it 😊

8am is early enough imho.

Nope 7am is the acceptable time for wake up in our house and no presents are opened before then.

we arent staying with my parents but if we were they wouldn’t get up before then, perhaps at 7 they would be interested, but I would imagine it would be closer to 8. They are in their 70s and going to be having a busy day cooking/hosting etc… I think pre 7am starts aren’t really reasonable.

We would all be up including grandparents to share in the excitement BUT absolutely not before 6 am . Does she have a gro clock or something else to help her stay in bed til a reasonable hour ?

Across three generations in my family. Kid wakes up, kid rips into stocking, with or without parent around to help, depending on age. Wider family expected to join in? Nope, nope , no way!

I love my nieces but to say I would not appreciate being woken up by them at 6am on Christmas morning is an understatement. Thankfully their parents have some sense and would not allow them to!

Can you do a happy medium of 7 am? If Dd wakes too early I try to get her to go back to sleep, if she can’t I let her have a small play of games on my phone. This doesn’t happen often at all, only in these type of situations
Kids can’t hold their excitement and I do find it a bit mean of your family, also it would feel a bit odd just for your little family to go downstairs and open all presents and then they follow later

Similar situation here but over the years we've kind of made our own tradition of it. Kids, DH and I open stockings in bed together silly o'clock when they wake up and it's just us. Then breakfast is made for 8.30am and that gets GPs and guests up for tree presents and fun.

It actually works out nicely - we get some special time just the four of us before everything else starts.

100% this

I’ve done the 6am stint with my own kids on Xmas morning in years past and never want to have to do it again!

We always entertained our kids in our room when they first woke early (wherever we we were staying) with their stocking and some telly then joined everyone else at a much more reasonable hour.

You’re crazy OP. I have 4 YO and 1 YO and will be up at 6am. I don’t think ANY of our relatives want to be up before 9am ever without a good reason (work) and they don’t count anything small child related as essential. We do because we are parents, it’s in our job definition

I’ve got two under 6 and I’m not getting up at 6am. You're being daft, they shouldn’t lose two hours sleep on a long day so you don’t have to entertain one by yourself.

So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.

What’s wrong with that? You get up with her, she’s yours, you’ll be with DP, she can do her stocking and play with her new things, you can enjoy that, she can open more things once everyone else is up.

Why don’t you give stocking at 6 and then make breakfast and play til 8am - if your parents are hosting for lunch etc it’s unreasonable to expect them to lose a few hours sleep on what will be a tiring day for them

This would be totally normal in our family, we wake up at 6am with the kids but I wouldn't expect anyone else to wake up so early!
And they'll wait until everyone is up to open their presents anyway, probably 9-10am.

I’m shocked that you expect the entire house to get up so early and be as excited as you!

I’m happy for my kids to open their stocking presents by themselves and let me sleep quite frankly. Plenty more presents to come later on. Appreciate your one is only 3 so maybe you still find it ‘magical’. Give it a few more years OP and you might appreciate your family’s viewpoint.

Getting up at 6am Christmas morning is a parents job. It comes with small children territory. Nobody without toddlers needs to be up at 6am tomorrow. I say this as a parents of a 15 & 13yr old. Hell would freeze over before I did the early morning Christmas wake up again.

I’m amazed you expect anyone either staying with you or hosting you to start their day before 8am just because your child wakes up early!

I don’t even wake up at 6 on a work day so I certainly wouldn’t be waking up much before 9 on a day off.

Let them lie in FGS.

I don't know. Growing up we always did stockings in my parents room at 7. We've carried that on with our children and I'd expect any guests to join in
6 is maybe pushing it but 7 is acceptable and what's the point of inviting you and their young grandchild if they can't be bothered to get up and see her open her presents?
Go to your ILs next year.

If you want to get up at 6am with your dd to do the stocking business then book a hotel or airb&b next time. Not fair to inflict it on people who want to lie in especially tomorrow as it's going to be a long day.

I'd probably get up for my nieces, but 6am is a bit early for a full on day. I'd probably go back to bed after the initial rush!