Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

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Staying at my parents’ house for Christmas with dp and dd (3), my sister is also here.
Sat around on Xmas Eve chatting about the order of the day tomorrow. I assume my dd will wake early (6ish) and I’m happy for her to have her stocking when she wakes up. I said ‘oh, she’ll probably have everyone up as she’ll be excited and want to show you all what she’s got’. Just got a groan from df, and pointed silence from dm and dsis said ‘she can show me stuff but I’m not getting up’. So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.
AIBU to think that this is slightly mean spirited on Christmas Day?
They would never dream of letting us having a lie in by taking dd in the morning normally (obviously wouldn’t want that in Xmas day as I want to be there!) and refuse to get up before 8 when we come to stay, even if we’re up for ages before then. My dp’s mum would be so excited to get up with us and dd on Christmas morning and open her stocking. Am I making a bit deal out of nothing? I just feel a bit disappointed by my family but maybe I need to accept that other people just aren’t going to be as interested/excited about my kid as I would like! What would your Xmas morning routine be with your wider family?

I wouldn't get up for anyone at that time. I think it's a big ask.

It's their Christmas too.

Put it this way, your kid is going to be more upset by me not caring about some plastic toy being aggressively shoved in my face at 6am than they are if they do it at 9am and I'm awake enough to feign enthusiasm.

We did not start before 8am.
They all got told to wait in their beds until 8am.

They could then open their Santa sacks (which contained gifts that were specifically to occupy them for a while) in our bedroom and then they had to wait until after breakfast for the main present opening (around about 9am-ish) with everyone together.
And that was whether we were at home, at my parents or in-laws.

We are not morning people though and, in our family, nobody's day would be enhanced by a 6am start.

You sound entitled. It's totally fine for them to lie in on Xmas day.

When I had grandchildren who woke up at the crack of Christmas dawn I would always be up too, it was a part of the fun, seeing their excitement.

6 is a bit much for most people on a normal day, but especially on Christmas Day which is, for many, a busy full-on day. We go to church at 9:30 and will expect to be up around 7 with the children. My in laws are here and will definitely get up once they hear activity. I wouldn’t make them though.

Christmas really isn’t just about little children opening presents.

Sorry OP, I've been through that phase with my children (now teenagers) and I'm not keen to do it again. Perhaps I will be if I ever have grandchildren, but I won't bet on it. I'm not an early morning person!

It's about the whole family, not just your kid. Silence before 0800.

I love getting up with my grandchildren, 6 is early but yes I would look at her gifts with her even if bleary eyed.

i love when they stay, they creep into my room and wake me up, by the time DS & DIL are up we are in the kitchen mixing pancakes or scrambling eggs, best part of the visit. They’ve even been known to sleep in and come down to the kitchen to find a note. - walking dogs with Nan

You're used to functioning on less sleep, or at least it comes with the territory. Not everyone is - and especially if they're older, night owls and/or set in their ways. It's perfectly reasonable not to want to get up at 6am. They may be mean or not care enough, I guess, but more likely they want to conserve their energy.

Ultimately, if people don't want to get up, what's the point in trying to make them? Get up with your DD and DP, go through the stocking, enjoy some time in bed together or watching TV. Is it ideal for you? No, but it's not the worst thing that could happen by a long shot.

I get up with my own kids at stupid times to see them open their stuff but I wouldn't do it for anyone else's.

Never got up before 8 with my own kids.

I thought the point of the stocking is that you can stay asleep for another hour or so whilst the kids are busy opening all the little prezzies.

No way anyone who isn't the parent should be at all obliged to wake up 2 hours before first light. Sod that.

Therefore YABU

My parents live next door and we prob won't see them til lunchtime. I'm in no way put out or hurt. They've done their fair share of early mornings and now they can enjoy the lie-in instead.

Small presents in stocking don’t need an audience for opening. You and your DD can do that in the bedroom.

Main presents at 8am with the whole family will still mean your parents and sister will see her excitement.

I have a similar aged DD and there is no way am I getting up at 6am never mind anyone else getting up at that hour. 8am earliest but hoping for later.

I am really shocked you think they would get up, I’d be trying to get the kid to stay in bed longer and if we got up early trying not to be too noisy!

There is no way you should be allowing your child to wake up the entire household. How selfish.
No doubt to then crash and tantrum by 4 pm and spoil that for the by now overtired adults too…

You're in someone else's house... you can't expect them to all bow down to your child's demands

The thought of missing that excitement of seeing that He has been, I wouldn’t be able to bear missing that. I’d be up at half 3 with a smile on my face and have an afternoon nap.

There doesn’t seem to be many morning people. I am a morning person so early Christmas wake up bring it on- but I would struggle with late night Christmas events.

We are in a similar situation but family want to go and do parkrun before opening presents and having breakfast together and I am being unreasonable for suggesting presents at 8 before they go and saying that 3 year old will be getting some of theirs earlier and it’s up to them whether they join or not but that it’s not fair to make a 3 year old wait so long.

Yes, this.

I am not a morning person. I suffer through early Christmas mornings for my own small DS. I'm not doing it for anyone else's kids.

And I hope my own DS will understand one day when he has his own kids that it'll be his turn to suffer the early mornings! I'll marvel and join in sometime after 8!

This. The world does not revolve around you. Grandparents can still appreciate seeing what Santa brought at a more reasonable hour

I think it's incredibly unreasonable to expect your parents to get up at 6 to see your daughter open her presents especially if you're staying in their home! I never got up before 8 when my daughter was little. I left some very small toys or games in her stocking and she knew that she wasn't to get up until 8.

No way would I get up to watch someone else's child open a stocking. Presume there are other presents she'll open at a reasonable hour that others can witness

We never did presents before 8am - discovered early on if you do presents at 6am it gets earlier and earlier as they got older and more excited.
Christmas is for everyone in the house and now mine are adults I want to sleep in till 8.
from your other comment about them not giving you a lie in I am guessing there is resentment from previous times and I think you need to let that go for Christmas. Take it easy there’s a lot of fun to come as she gets older and make sure you do not spend every year away from your own home - mix it up and enjoy