Xmas day morning - AIBU here?

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Staying at my parents’ house for Christmas with dp and dd (3), my sister is also here.
Sat around on Xmas Eve chatting about the order of the day tomorrow. I assume my dd will wake early (6ish) and I’m happy for her to have her stocking when she wakes up. I said ‘oh, she’ll probably have everyone up as she’ll be excited and want to show you all what she’s got’. Just got a groan from df, and pointed silence from dm and dsis said ‘she can show me stuff but I’m not getting up’. So if they have their way it’ll be me and dp getting up with dd to do stocking and them emerging 2/3 hours later.
AIBU to think that this is slightly mean spirited on Christmas Day?
They would never dream of letting us having a lie in by taking dd in the morning normally (obviously wouldn’t want that in Xmas day as I want to be there!) and refuse to get up before 8 when we come to stay, even if we’re up for ages before then. My dp’s mum would be so excited to get up with us and dd on Christmas morning and open her stocking. Am I making a bit deal out of nothing? I just feel a bit disappointed by my family but maybe I need to accept that other people just aren’t going to be as interested/excited about my kid as I would like! What would your Xmas morning routine be with your wider family?

Oh catch yourself on, you're the parents, you fucking get up - don't expect anyone else to!! Never heard such entitlement and selfishness!!!

TG none of my children ever got up at sparrow's fart on Christmas Day, and it took years to educate my MIL that her early morning call that woke the whole house was not welcome!

Your young child doesn't rule the house!

6am is ridiculous. My DC were told it was too early and to go back to bed. They were excited but its a tiring long day for everyone so they had to wait until at least 7.30-8 am.

I think yabu. I think of stockings as little gifts to open on parents bed before the day properly starts. I'd say do stocking then breakfast for little one and play a bit then everyone will be up for tree presents.

If they don't want to get up and share the present opening excitement, that's their call, but they shouldn't be surprised if next year you stay at your own place or go to your MIL

As a grandmother I wouldn't mind at all if they chose to stay at home, or go somewhere else for a change. But they don't. They ALWAYS choose to come here. Make of that what you will.

and if the stocking contains anything noisy, take it out for later in the day.

Christ, no. I wouldn’t expect anyone to get up at 6am. You need to teach your child a little bit of patience – even on Christmas morning.

But you have manners and don't expect to bend everyone to your will!

Ffs 6am! I wouldn't get up at that time for my own children on Christmas Day never mind someone else's. It's the crack of dawn. I wouldn't expect other family members to be up at that time and be excited about it.

When I was little the point of your Christmas stocking was to keep you occupied until it was a civilised time to get up!

6am is too early. Stockings with you then.

I would t expect the whole family to be up and ready to watch her open her gifts until 10 am.

My dp’s mum would be so excited to get up with us and dd on Christmas morning and open her stocking

Are you sure? Doesn't sound like you've actually ever stayed there xmas eve.

6 is far too early to get up to look at presents being opened. Especially when there is a long day ahead.

Ffs 6am! I wouldn't get up at that time for my own children on Christmas Day

Must admit that when they were very little I probably woke at that time.
But I'd let them open their stocking stuff and then get them into bed with me to avoid waking the whole house up.

Good grief. There are very few things that would get me out of bed at 6am and watching a kid being indoctrinated into the cult of materialism is definitely not one of them. I’m very glad I don’t have nieces or nephews if this is the kind of crap some people expect! Similarly I can’t bear this “Christmas is all about children” mentality, what, so everyone else has to have an annoying and tiring time just because they’re over 10? It’s meant to be a break for everyone!

When will parents realise that their child's reaction to festive gifts is of no interest to anyone else, apart from themselves? No, don't get me wrong, grandparents dote on the little ones, they are interested in their health, their school/kindergarten achievements, but not in the reaction to opening their presents. It reminds me of Timmy, the Spoilt Bastard in Viz and his routines.

I’m with your parents. They have all day once they get up to spend with your child.

I’m with your parents. They have all day once they get up to spend with your child

Yeah. They're your kids. Let the rest of us sleep.

Your parents are like mine were. We weren't allowed out of bed on Christmas day until they told us we could get up, then we had to eat breakfast and go to church before we were allowed any presents. I still dread Christmas now, and it's never been an enjoyable day for me. So your child is fortunate to have you!
If it's the first time they've been with your child for Christmas morning then it's a shame they won't be up to see her excitement from the get go.

Your parents are like mine were. We weren't allowed out of bed on Christmas day until they told us we could get up, then we had to eat breakfast and go to church before we were allowed any presents

That sounds joyless and depressing and makes me feel sad for you.

However, it's not anywhere near OP's situation.

My mum always put a book in mine, a chocolate orange and one of my favourite drinks, I would open it when I woke up and start the book
Now I realise she just wanted the extra time in bed

Now I realise she just wanted the extra time in bed

Clever Mummy.

Kids are like weddings. Everyone thinks that theirs is the centre of the world and should be treated as such, but doesnt give much of a shit about anyone elses. I say this as a mother of a large family!

So, YABU.

Sod that. One of the best things about no longer having small kids is that you don’t have to get up early.

You might be excited for your child and happy to be up at 6, but don’t expect anyone else to be.

Just enjoy a nice wee time with just your little family before the others get up.

This is why we keep the kids up super-late on Christmas Eve. Mine went off to bed just before 11 and won't be up until around 10am tomorrow, probably after all the adults. At which point they will do their stockings surrounded by well-rested, familial, doting adoration. I realise this wouldn't work for all families though 😂.