Why do people get massive amounts of lip filler?

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And AIBU to say it shouldn’t be allowed?

I would love to hear from someone who thinks it looks good on them and why?

Is it an addictive thing? Once you start you keep going bigger and bigger?

I have NO ISSUE with nips and tucks and women doing whatever makes them feel good but I do not understand lip filler it’s the one thing looks universally awful.

Maybe it doesn’t look bad?

I don't like the look either, but each to their own.

Funny how trends change though, I used to get teased in my teens for having full lips, now I feel lucky to have them.

I'm with the previous poster who mentioned fake nails, from a hygiene point of view they must be quite grim really.

I'm not a fan at all. My lovely colleague has her done and tells everyone how natural they look (and she really thinks that) but they really don't. She's a really attractive woman but is fast getting that generic look, which is a shame.

I was in a cafe recently and two of the three girls on the next table had such obvious filler in their lips. You could see the needle marks from where I was sitting.

If it makes someone feel better then great, I just think it's a shame that so many young women think they need to pump themselves full of this stuff to look/feel better. That's the issue IMO.

Badly done lip fillers look ridiculous. Well done ones are imperceptible. As with all work.

As to the point of the OP - I go to a clinic for regular tweakments. The doctor I see specialises in natural looking work, maintenance rather than alteration. However other doctors work with people who actively prefer to look fake and probably have frozen face Botox, fox eyes and bulging fish lips. You pays your money and you takes your choice.

Low level body dismorphia.

Because they love 🐤

I had 0 lips. As in no lip at all to look at.
When I smiled I had teeth only.

Thats why I have filler and I feel so much happier with it.

I think there has been a shift so now people want to look like they’ve had work done. In the past it was a little embarrassing to admit to having enhancements whereas now it seems to be something to show off about.

A friend of mine got it done. She's very quiet and introverted and I wouldn't have thought she'd be into that type of thing but apparently she wanted her lips to look more balanced or something. The funny thing is the previous week I'd been talking about lip filler and how ridiculous it looks and then she got hers done lol. That was last year, her lips are back to normal now, not sure if she'll get it done again.

Because they think it looks good and it saves having to keep trying to pout when they are putting photos on tik tok or whatever it is nowadays . For some reason lots of teens / young women think that they have to pout in photos, no idea why .

IME it seems to be young women, often single parents, who like to look like they've spent money. So the natural look is no good as no one would know they'd had it done. Same with overly dark tinted brows and long acrylic nails. I don't know why they need people to think that, an insecurity I suppose. Same reason a colleague on minimum wage has just nearly killed herself with stress to spend £1k on her 9yo for Xmas, including a £350 Boss jacket - madness!

My lucky to be blessed with trend was/is wide shoulders - problematic in the 80s when I had to pick out the shoulder pads to get a garment to hang off my body rather than my neck - decades later finding clothes to fit my body is still problematic, the rest of my body being slim.

Good thing is that into my 60s I can still lift up and climb shit that I see people half my age can't do.

Not sure what the good thing about having big lips is; but probably loads of blokes can advise me.

My early 40s friend had it a few months ago - she's naturally pretty , but it made her look like someone had socked her in the mouth- I didn't say anything as I wasn't sure if she thought it looked good or not and she never mentioned it

What do you mean it "shouldn't be allowed"?

People are free to make themselves look stupid in any way they choose, unless you're planning some sort of dictatorship society. I'd much rather ban bloody tattoos if we're going down that route.

And here we are again with the assumption that people who do whatever is being sneered at are doing so because they 'feel the need' to, rather than just because they like whatever it is and want to do it; the implication (as ever) being that such people (almost always women) are too stupid and brainwashed to form views of their own, and are not able to decide for themselves how they want to look.

See also the faux-bewildered threads about why people 'feel the need' to eat in the cinema/go out in pyjamas/wear designer clothing/take their children shopping with them. The snobbery and condescension just drips from these miserable fucking posts.

"often single parents" nice bit of stigmatising there. As a single parent I have to disagree!

Because they have bad taste and no class and usually because they think it looks sexy, whereas actually, it just looks cheap.

It's the same with anyone who completely overdoes any look or trend to the point where it becomes a daft, tacky parody. Ridiculously heavy sharpie eyebrows. Very obviously fake tits that are enormous but don't move. Too much botox. Bad taste, no class.

I say that as someone who sees nothing wrong with lip fillers per se. I may even get some myself. They just won't come in the door 20 seconds before the rest of me.

I tend to think that when the lips are overdone, everyone starts to look the same. Apart from Lesley Ash. I was watching a Christmas special countdown show on channel 5 the other day and I honestly didn't recognise her! Her face was so puffed up and out of proportion. She looked like she'd been beaten up. Such a shame as she was so naturally pretty.

I'm all for people doing whatever makes them feel good, given it's not hurting anyone else.

I have to say I don't understand the filler thing, though. We are usually told that women do "things" because it's what men want them to do. I'd be very surprised if that's the case with this, though.

Did these teens and young women not tell you why when they explained that this is what they thought, which is obviously how you have this valuable insight since there is no other way you could possibly know the minds of others?

How many was 'lots', out of interest?

@Lovelynames123 not sure where the 'often single parents' analysis comes from; the most attractive thing that most single parents have is somewhere to live.

As a single parent of decades I feel qualified to observe and opine. My broad shoulders have held me in good stead building that massive 'wall' around my home.

Not sure that filled lips has helped any woman, married or single, with or without kids build and protect their own home.

Truth is - the fat lipped-look is to look sexy for men who think it gives a better blow job. Innit?

I dont think class has anything to do with it, but agree about your point of 'sexy'.
It's what women are sold to enhance sexual appeal / attractiveness. Just the same as many bodily enhancements, or wearing makeup, or fashion trends. It's less prevalent for men, but becoming more mainstream for male models / TV stars to increase their perceived attractiveness and then the general population will follow.
It's just for women in TV / music or modelling industries we know critics are much harsher and competition much higher, so it's a wider phenomenon for women.

The 1970s had glittery platform shoes. The 1980s had mullets. Now there are trout lips. In a few years people will be laughing at their old photos.

I do think the fake look is in vogue amongst certain groups of people.
For example massive duck lips, huge jet black spider eyelashes, slug eyebrows, long acrylic or gel nails, bleached hair with black roots, hair extensions, thick make up. Oh and fake tan.
In the past I think people made more effort to try and make all this look natural. So more effort was made to cover up dark roots etc. Nails might be painted but they were one colour or nude, not acrylic with all sorts of patterns painted on.

What I want to know what will happen to the lips after there is no filler?

Say someone has gone overboard for a couple of years, really big, has that weird line like a lil shadow tash, then the filler is removed, does the skin shrink back down? Does it look like ball sack skin?? A deflated balloon?