To feel a bit disappointed that he didn't get me anything for Christmas?

[Feelingabitsillyatxmas1]

I've name changed anticipating being told I'm "grabby" but I'd like some outsider perspective on whether you think I'm being unreasonable.

New boyfriend. 4 months. Had the exclusive chat and we have both said we have feelings for one another.

It was his birthday last week. I bought him a present. It didn't feel odd to do so, we've spent a lot of time together by this point.

Fast forward to Christmas, I got him a Christmas present. He hasn't got one for me (but has kept me updated about the things he's buying everyone else).

We spent yesterday together and I thought I'd at least leave with a Christmas card if not a box of chocolates or something. Nothing.

I'm feeling a bit stupid for buying things for him now 😔

AIBU (for 1) buying him gifts early on and 2) feeling the way I do now.

Well-done OP, now you are free to pursue whatever makes you happy 😊 Happy 2025!x

Ah, sorry to hear that OP, but who needs
a stingy arse like that? Onwards and upwards for 2025!

It’s definitely for the best, OP. Smart decision. It sucks that he couldn’t be a more decent person basically but clearly he wasn’t worth your time, effort or resources and at least you’ve learnt a lesson and can steer clear of his sort in future.

Some women get stuck with men like that and they come on here every year upset that they’ve bought Christmas presents for everyone including their husbands family and they had zilch back.

You’ve had a lucky escape.

Wishing you the best 2025, OP, and the people you deserve around you x

I hope you're ok OP. Sending you hugs. How disappointing he turned out to be

You have definitely dodged a bullet there. Finishing the relationship in a year or four would have wasted so much of your time and energy. You have a new year ahead to find new adventures with new people who have as big a heart as you xx

How did he take it OP?

I hope you find someone lovely in 2025.

I’m sorry. But he just wasn’t worth any more effort. You deserve better. I hope there’s someone so much better in your near future.

What an absolute shithouse he is. This will sting for a while, but honestly you're well rid. I hope the Tom Ford stuff brings him out in hives and his football team get relegated.

I hope 2025 is full of lovely things for you.

Well you now know why he's single and as much as you may regret giving him that gift, at least you didn't have children with him before finding out how clueless he is.

If he has any decency he'll offer to return the gifts. But then if he had any decency he'd have turned up with something - anything - today.

I'd get an excuse to pop over and see if I could get my mitts on the perfume

I hope he has the decency to return the fragrance to you.

Well done OP. What an idiot, at least you found out fairly quickly, onwards and up!

I doubt it. This guy has more front than Blackpool. It sounds like he ended it as well. I would 100% ask for the cologne back though.