AIBU to only do a token gift for my 12 yo but more for siblings?

[Lovelysummerdays]

DS wanted and is booked to do an expensive ski holiday with school costing over £1k plus buying skiwear. It’s not a case of everyone doing it as eldest has missed out due to covid. Also not run every year for youngest. Deal was it’d be birthday and Christmas for two years. Trip is in January 2026. It’s over what I’d normally spend tbh.

Is it unreasonable to stick to that? He does have a bit of sad face as I was trying to, gently, manage expectations. I do have to cough up another £200 quid in January.

I do think it’s a life lesson, but at the same time I feel a bit mean.

I think parents are under so much pressure for School Trips .I would think this is harsh for a 12 year old TBH. Surely a stocking with some chocolates , maybe a couple of books or something .I would have said No to the trip.Will he have pressies from grandma or aunties at all

She is giving him a hoodie and a book and other bits and pieces - don't worry.