DH having a rant at me

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My car was in the garage and my parents' car was in front of the garage so we took my husband's car to go shopping.

My husband's car takes a while to heat up, as it's an older car (15 reg), whilst my car heats up quickly.

Whilst in the car I twice mentioned it was cold and I also expressed concern that the car is probably cold when he drops our children off at school in the morning.

He turned up the heat but I mentioned my feet were still cold. He shook his head and went on a nasty rant about how I have to complain about something every day to him, and he didn't want to listen to me anymore. He proceed to recounted everything I had complained about that was which was a complete exaggeration.

I have hyperthyroidism and a whole host of other problems and I an ND. I was really upset at DH comments. We didn't speak yesterday or today. He will apologise but I don't want to forgive him. He is always belittling me and my feelings.
Shouslnt your husband listen, just listen, without exceptation.

I don't think the OP is coming back dudes

Having an opinion on an illness without fact or understanding, is unreasonable

there is not one jot of evidence that the OP has an illness

You sound incredibly annoying and I really can believe when he says you do this all the time. Fgs, kids walk to school in this weather so yours can cope being driven in a probably warmer car.

And what can he do about the weather. I would be so irritated with living with this complaining if this is what you're like.

It's not an opinion on her illness
It's an opinion on her attitude

I am a ND woman and I think the OP is being very unreasonable

You don’t get a pass on shitty behaviour because you state that you are ND

That’s your opinion, but it doesn’t make it factual

Could say the same for your comments 🙄

MrsWhites · 24/12/2024 09:23
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Is anyone else thinking that a 15 reg car isn’t that old?

Indeed, mine is 17 years old. Going strong.

Put warmer clothes on, OP?

If we're going for "who's got the oldest car?" mine's a 2004 Fiat Panda! So it's nearly 21 years old! It's all in working order because I spend a fortune making sure that it's legal.
Re: the mental state/ND. That's me, too. I check myself before I complain about something. Better to say nothing, rather than wind someone else up when you're depending on them to help you with something.

Listening to someone else continually complaining can drain the energy right out of you.
OP, stop thinking about yourself & think about others!
(Your constant complaining can cause problems in your marriage & that is probably not the role model you want for your kids.<--Would you want them constantly complaining??)

Hence the word opinion
I don't know what your point is

That your opinion doesn’t take into account any facts

Except for the facts given
Which are that OP did keep moaning
I'm sure you're just arguing for the sake of it now

You’ve chosen to ignore all other information given and subsequently linked to in this thread.

Hi OP, I think you have a double empathy issue here.
You felt you were making a statement of fact about the car being cold. But your (NT?) DH heard a criticism of him and his car. For an NT, when someone makes a statement about something like this, it is a hint that they should do something about it. For example if someone walked into a room where all the windows were open and said 'oh, it's a bit chilly in here', it would actually mean 'please could you shut the windows?'. There was nothing DH could do about the temperature in the car, so he got defensive and cross.
How would you like him to respond when you make a statement about being cold?

Whatever
You just keep thinking you're right