Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

I thought this was going to be about a child and presents. Expecting a small person to be able to wait is stupid. Your issue with your husband is even worse.

If I was him I'd be wrapping up divorce papers for you for Christmas. Are you this controlling about everything?

Personally we allow ourselves one small slice of cheddar and a cracker on Christmas eve with tap water.

Anything else is gluttony!!!

A whole cracker?

I'm repulsed. A crumb is more than enough to tide me over until New Year.

stop trying to control your DH OP. He is a grown man! He has offered to replace what he has consumed. What else do you want??? Seriously give your head a wobble.

You need the mumsnet cheese
everyone smells it till boxing day
and then it's a crumb each and a quarter of a cracker til Easter
no room for gluttony on my watch

You sound super controlling to be honest.

normally I’d have started on the treats just now; but I need to lose weight (and I’m trying to keep my son from gaining too much weight) so we aren’t in Christmas eating mode until Christmas Day.

but I wouldn’t be telling another adult what they can and can’t eat

I hate this "big day" palaver. It's a Christmas SEASON, why can we only have nice things on the 25th? I think you're being a bit controlling and harsh. Let him drink his own drink if he likes!
But then I am called a Grinch by my family when I can't see what all the fuss is about with Christmas. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh grow up! You’re annoyed at your husband for eating cheese before Christmas? Don’t be so bloody miserable. He’s an adult man and can eat what he bloody likes. You sound like an absolute nightmare

Would this give you the rage?
No
And I also wouldn't be disgusted.
He probably wants to enjoy the food and drink and not be policed by you as to when he is allowed to do that.

Your attitude to Christmas is a bit joyless. I replaced some chocolates we'd started on. DS1 - who got here early as he had a few work from home days said I wasn't helping. I pointed out they weren't supposed to be just for us and I wanted everyone arriving on Christmas Eve to enjoy them too. We just laughed about it. Being generous and happy, having a bit of a feast between the darkest day and the new year - that's what matters, Not scolding people for enjoying something two days before you would. No harm done.

You disgust me. Pig 🐷. Adding the cheese to the tap water and cracker is pure greed.

We've already had to replace the Baileys twice, most of the crackers and two tubs of celebrations.

I've been eating the Christmas food since mid November

@KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge you are insane! It’s best to spread all the yumminess out over the whole Xmas period , we start at the beginning of December! I’m on about my 3rd box of mince pies, most of the Xmas cake has gone, some of the nice chocs and we “accidentally” finished 2 of the bottles of champagne over the weekend as we had friends over - husband replaced today.

If you are going to have it, enjoy it. You talk about delayed gratification but you sound controlling and miserable.

fair enough if you’ve got the ick with your husband, but this isn’t valid.

Aren't you a ray of Christmas sunshine...
Disgusted by his inability to delay gratification🙄🙄🙄
Holy moley

Am I the only one who finds that relationship with food a bit odd? I mean if you like it and its not going to kill you, ehy not eat what you want when you want? I like a glass of champagne. I don't drink it often, maybe about 4 times a year but I drink it when I fancy it, not because its a particular day. When I was a child, some things were only available at christmas and were not affordable year round, so yes, I understand saving stuff then but if its in the shops and you can afford it then why not have it?

As the song says, it's "Christmastime"

It's not just one day! Let the man enjoy a bit of cheese for gods sake 😩

@LostTheMarble I definitely thought this was going to be about premature ejaculation. Instead it's about some poor bloke not being allowed access to his fridge. Unless it's all an elaborate euphemism.

With kindness, OP, I think you also need to be careful around placing such importance on ‘the big day’. You’re inevitably setting yourself up for some upset when you have a Christmas Day that doesn’t meet them.

I hope you can have a think about your rigidity around this and see that you might actually get more enjoyment out of your special treats if you chilled out a bit and enjoyed them freely over the festive period!

I ate two bags of Mini Eggs last week. Hope that doesn’t cause anyone to faint from disgust (I was thrilled - Easter chocolate > Christmas chocolate).

You sound incredibly controlling and a total killjoy.

Your husband is an adult. One of the good things about being an adult is being able to eat what you want when you want.

Haha we're nearly as bad as this too. Just opened the after eights tonight and had a glass of prosecco, because why not!

It’s nothing like that; because Christmas takes over the whole of December, and a birthday is one day.

This is a hangover of your parents way of doing things, which wasn’t necessarily right, and your husband doesn’t agree with, clearly.

Is there enough left for you to enjoy some tomorrow as you’d planned? I’d be annoyed if not, as he’s done something that’s impacted on your agreed plans. I wouldn’t be if he has left enough.

Christmas Day is the start of the end, the big finale. There’s no sense in keeping all your fancy cheese to eat once you’re stuffed from a Christmas dinner, or tired from socialising all day.

But genuinely first I’d look at how you feel about your husband and the way you both treat and talk about him. There’s a strong vibe of parental disappointment and disapproval throughout your posts. You are not his parent.

I am a bit disappointed.....I thought this was about "bedroom problems" 🤣

I get it OP.

You buy special, expensive treats to enjoy as a special occasion. Not to scoff out of the packet before your special occasion starts.

People are being very ‘so what?’ about this. Is everything fair game? Hack a chunk of Turkey breast off to pan fry for late night munchies? Slice out of the Christmas cake before anyone has seen it?

It’s greedy.