Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

‘Unable to delay gratification’ made me think her husband had much bigger problems than munching cheese nibbles to be honest. As long as he’s not jizzing all over the fridge from a particularly Gouda bit of cheese, think her issues are minimal.

OP, my DH is like you, was so precious with Fortnum and Mason Truffles gifted for our wedding that they went out of date. Delayed gratification is a form of self-punishment. Merry Christmas!

I did think this was going to be a thread about premature ejaculation not nibbling on a bit of cheese

So would I. Especially if they sounded as if they were going to spontaneously combust with righteous indignation 🤣

@Mountainhowl I've also got through three boxes of mince pies, a tub each of Celebrations and Heroes and I started the cheese, pork pie and Christmas cake this afternoon when I got back from Morrisons.

I didn't buy it so I could look at it.

No, because Christmas is a period, not just one day. If you eat all the good stuff on one day you'll be sick.

I'd be annoyed too OP.

I find adults' inability to control their impulses extremely off-putting.

Well I've eaten a block of cheese and 1/4 of a bottle of spiced brandy today.

I deserve it!

I think the point is that this is an impulse that shouldn't be controlled as there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Not sure I’d be disgusted about any of this. You’d absolutely hate me - I opened page 24 on my chocolate advent calendar today as we’re away and I felt like something sweet. Perhaps I should I be disgusted at myself - I’m not 😂

If you had bought the cheese for a post Christmas dinner cheese board I could agree with you mentioning it to your DH and asking him to replace it, but your reaction seems more than that. It’s Christmas and you aren’t his mother so you don’t need to police his food.

Unable to control his impulses

ffs

he ate some food he didn't have a wank at midnight mass

Assuming there is no backstory and he pulls his weight/pays his way then I couldn’t get worked up about this. It’s Christmas! Chill out!

No, it’s his drink etc anyway. Respectfully unclench.

It's not an inability to control impulses though. It's just not abiding by his wife's batshit rules.

I was sure this thread was going to be about shagging.

Disgusted? Hmmm.
You want to save it for Christmas eve / day, he does not. Why is your way the correct one?
It's better imo to spread it out, as there's lots to enjoy and having it all in one go would bee too much.
As someone who cracked open the mince pies in October, yabu.

Ok so that's your tradition. What's his? Is it the same for him? Maybe he thinks it's spartan and mean to wait until the day itself? Who knows.
You both have different views of what it should be like over the festive period. Neither is right. They are simply different
Try having a chat and find a compromise

Hang on... there's such a thing as truffle brie??!!

Looks like I am braving Christmas eve supermarket hell tomorrow too.

He's a grown up. We've already got through a thing of Heroes and a Hotel Chocolat box. Just opened some Celebrations.

The bloke just fancied some cheese, ffs.

Go open a Baileys and unlench before you pull a muscle.

Aldi?

The special occasion is the entire month of December! I have been enjoying Christmas food for over a fortnight - mince pies, chocs, cheeses, crackers, parsnips, sprouts, mulled wine, hot chocolates. Makes winter absolutely wonderful.
Christmas Day - enjoy more food, watch tv, play games, do no chores, open gifts.

Yes. Tell me more about the brie!

My MIL is like you and one of our big Christmas pleasures is opening things early when she's told us not to. It's just the glorious freedom from oppression. I love it.

YABVU

OP I do think it might be time to consider if you have some issues to unpack around food and enjoyment.

It is beyond normal for most people to be onto treat mode by the 5 day lead up to Xmas day. I’m usually relatively strict with my diet but was arms deep in the quality street tub in the ward today. And I’ll have a glass of wine now I’ve limped home from a 13 hour shift even though it’s a Monday! It’s Christmas:)