Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

You say you discussed it and reached a compromise, it reads to me like this is something you wanted that he has gone along with for an easy life without really meaning it. I would hate to be with someone so controlling, an “inability to delay gratification” is a really weird way to put it. If he had eaten treats meant for the kids I would agree that is not on but as an adult surely he can decide for himself when to have his treats.

It's a bit of cheese, he's not ripped into his presents days early.

We may have opened the tubs of Christmas chocs a few weeks ago, and have replaced the mince pies 3 times!

Oh this must be some sort of ‘greedy husband’ wind up, surely? I found an extra box of Heroes that I couldn’t for the life of me remember who I’d bought for today, so I cracked them open myself. Already done my ‘Santa run’ handing out gifts so they must have been waiting for me specifically 🤷‍♀️.

The only food I could possibly go bonkers about anyone eating before the day is the meat and veg, otherwise by Xmas Eve the rule is ‘if it’s gone it’s gone, don’t moan to me until after Boxing Day when I dare go back to the shops’.

Bloody hell, let the man have some cheese and some booze! We've cracked open some chocs, DH has had a couple of his 'expensive drinks' ... Disgusted by him for wanting to eat and drink stuff that's in the house? Fair enough if he'd eaten the turkey, but some cheese and his own drinks?

I am surprised. Does no one enjoy waiting for the main event?
We could eat posh cheese all year round (yes these extra bits are expensive, but we could adjust our budgeting). What is the point if it is not "for the special occasion"?
To me it is like buying a birthday cake a few days early, then just eating it when you get home. Of course you can replace it, but it just spoils the treat.

I think you start when you want to start. We have started our Christmas eating, pretty much when kids broke up as that's when holidays/ celebrations begin. The past few days we've been eating a lot of treats.

Unclench OP. It's a bit of cheese and a drink. Don't spoil Christmas because he had a snack a day "early".

I would be neither disgusted, nor have the rage, from my husband eating snacks or having a drink in his own home. Especially when he is even willing to replace them. Not that they need to be replaced. Poor bloke.

He's an adult eating food in his own home. It's not like he's eaten your personal present.

If you were less fussy about dates he probably would've told you and shared and you could've had a nice time together.

With the way Christmas falls this year many of us have been in Christmas mode since Friday evening, and lovely it is too.

No I'd say he works for a living and an adult and can eat what he likes when he likes.
We shouldn't control other people's eating habits.

Theres way too much food for just one day and it takes the enjoyment out of it, our food is essentially from mid or early December right up to mid Jan. Ive even bought extra this evening so that it can keep us going from the freezer

Its too much pressure to have it all waiting and piling up for 'one event' or a 'special day', a slow graze over a month or so is about right

I would just make sure he replaces what he took. And the shops will be insanely busy. So you will get a laugh.

Disgusted, crikey. No, this wouldn't give me the rage but then I am sat here with a glass of port and some stilton so I am possibly disgusting too. Why you get to choose what your DP drinks or eats?

You really need to unclench

It's a bit of cheese. Let him enjoy it, ffs!

No? The main event is Xmas dinner. The arrival of the Xmas shop heralds the beginning of the 'Xmas food' consumption. If it's in the house, it's fair game. The festive period begins for us a few days before when we finish work etc.

Christmas is a season in my house, culminating in a lovely roast turkey dinner on xmas day and a fab buffett on Boxing Day.

I don't want food hanging around till the new year, yuk!

It's Christmas eve eve. Relax and get in the spirit. It doesn't have to be a one day thing.

I get you op. I'd be fuming to it's not Christmas yet.

Pre Christmas is mince pies but this week since Friday we have had extra hot chocs and few treats but the cheese and pate are for the 25 th or after!

Id be annoyed if he drank my champagne

Christmas isn't just about one day, otherwise we'd all gorge ourselves sick....there are many treats to get through so why not spread them out? Were you planning to eat an entire cheeseboard in one day? Or a whole box of chocolates? Maybe he's just feeling festive.

I think you've probably realised this by now OP but you seem very uptight.

That would be fine if he decided to eat Christmas dinner a couple of days early. But you can’t say that cheese or chocolates can’t be opened until Christmas Eve or else.

It's not like eating a birthday cake early, because he hasn't scoffed the turkey.

He ate a bit of cheese. Please, op, calm down about this.

You choose to save treats like this for Christmas, fine - maybe you and your husband just disagree about when Christmas actually is? He thinks it's already started and is eating the Christmas cheese now. You think it's the 25th only and would rather save it for then. Both are valid opinions!

Well maybe it ruins it for you but eating some cheese before Xmas eve/day clearly doesn't for him. Stop being so controlling and leave him to eat his cheese in peace.

I'd be really pissed off if someone gave me restrictions on what and when I could eat as an adult and presumably, someone who shares the food bills. He's replacing it. What's the problem?

I’m with you OP! As it is though I do have a few things i absolutely insist we keep until Christmas, mainly things like Christmas jam and other things I made myself. If it were just me everything would be like this but dh likes to do as your husband does!