Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Very middle class. Nothing wrong with delayed gratification! Anticipation is more fun than the reward anyway.

I am disappointed in him for not being able to control himself and keep the special food for the agreed special evening.

This is utterly batshit.

YABU. I couldn’t stand having to wait until Christmas Day for all the goodies. We did our Christmas shopping on Saturday and have been nibbling on stuff since then 😋

Unless hes cooking up the turkey and all the fancy stuffings (some of which we like on christmas eve actually), then that is the main event for us, the big dinner
All the sides and snacks and picky bits and fancy bits and bobs are to be consumed over about a month

I think using the words "disgusted" and "unable to delay gratification" about a man pinching a bit of cheese from his own fridge sounds a bit mad, if I'm honest. You're imposing your will on him. How is that reasonable?

God you’re miserable aren’t you. Unless you can’t afford to replace them then what’s the issue if he wants to eat some. Between me and the teen we ate the tolberone last night and had to replace it today. I’m not disgusted with myself or the teen and the other teen who didn’t see a whiff of it just laughed at us.

Aren't the treats and special foods supposed to be spread out over a few days before - the 'festive season'.

But why should he? He's an adult.. why can't he decide to eat and drink his things when he wants to? Why on earth do you get to dictate that to him.. that's really odd?
You are coming across as extremely controlling.
I'd get it if he were eating your food or something you'd bought as an ingredient for a group meal... but his own food?!? Why on earth do you care when he eats that?

You're a bit controlling. Do you try to control what he does in other ways as well?

No cheeses for us meeces

You ought to be disgusted if he ate out another woman's pussy. Not some fucking cheese on 23rd Dec!

Dear god mumsnet really seems to be a parallel universe of people so uptight they must give themselves a hernia just existing

"Please sir! I want some cheese!"

😂😂😂

I grew up with the opposite - nothing special before Christmas day, then enough cake and pudding and mince pies to last at least half way through January.

😂

I bet Christmas is fun in your house!

What would give me the rage is someone acting like my mum and telling me what I can or can't eat in my own house.

I might be mildly irritated by it, but disgusted? No.

Was it a particularly special block of cheese? Does it really matter that he's had a chunk of it?!

😂😂😂

The poor guy has only "eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink" a couple of days before Christmas and his wife is disgusted with him. That's really sad.

Apart from things for specific meals (e.g Christmas pudding) we have the treats throughout December, replacing biscuits or whatever. Apart from breakfast, dinner and dessert on Christmas day, we have things throughout the month as an when we want them, so this wouldn't bother me at all.

@KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge It IS Christmas. Everyone in our house has finished work/school. We have nice food in. Everything is decorated, there are Christmas shows on TV. The run up is the best bit, let people enjoy it.

I grew up similar but it's a very old fasioned thing to do now. I'm 60 by the way but even I get with the times! And it's time for you to do it too! Go get something nice out of the fridge, put the telly on and unclench. Merry Xmas.

Ive opened the truffle brie already