Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Is this really important
ok someone “broke the rules “
you are the one fuelling this resentment and probably the only one suffering as a result
forgiveness is something you can practice till you feel it in your heart
stop punishing yourself !

Oh dear. I think I am doing cheese wrong. I have cheese from our local artisan cheese shop... and we didn't keep it for a special occasion. We just ate it.

What you should do is join him. Why are you putting arbitrary rules on when you can eat cheese? Stop it! Make love, not war!

Why is that wrong? Presumably you're not asking for bog standard Cheddar from your artisan cheese shop and saving it for a cheese and Branston sandwich - as a Christmas treat? I mean, if you visit the artisan cheese shop all year round and have a nice cheddar on your sandwich all year round then fair play to you.

I think this whole thread is a covert ad campaign from the Cheese Marketing Board. To make us all go out and buy Stilton.

I agree with you, it's a bit childish but unfortunately the hive has ruled against you. Did like the response that rather missed the point and named Christmas day 'an arbitary day'. I didn't realise we made it up as and when 😂.....

Seems like the Christmas season kicks off on the 25th for you, but in his upbringing there was a run-up to Christmas with nice treats being around.

Instead of being judgemental, can you find done common ground? You sound very controlling.

Nope

We're already on the snowballs, our second stollen and eaten the whole yule log.
Christmas starts when we finish college and DD comes home. Everything is there to be eaten when it takes our fancy and we can replace when we next shop.

None of thoese things are rude or offensive though, they're descriptors for the apparent behaviour

Actually just thinking about it, I mentioned my yule log breakfast earlier, Ive noticed the use by date is yesterday, we still have half of it left. I wont care, but I think OH wont eat it now its past the use by date

So we should have tucked in much earlier.

God you sound so controlling’
it’s Christmas Eve and he had some cheese and a bottle of drink.

you sound like an absolute fun sponge.

Try chilling out a bit, you’re going to ruin Christmas!!

Apparently some of us have higher bars than others for decent discourse. Most people would consider those to be personal insults; they were describing the OP's character, in the posts I checked, not her behaviour.

Bloody hell OP who made you his boss? He's an adult and has paid for at least half the costs of the food I assume?
What YOU like to do is fine for you, but you don't get to impose it on him!

As for your wish to share a meal of cheese etc, like it's some deeply bonding and mystical event, get over yourself!

It's just cheese. Edible and enjoyable 365 days of the year.

You owe him an apology.

You sound like you need everything to go your way otherwise you have a tantrum. ‘Disgusted’ because your husband enjoyed some cheese and booze a few days before Christmas. Jesus wept get a grip. He’s an adult, not a dog you can command

Granted, none of us want to open our Christmas cards and read these descriptions. But how can posters tell the OP she’s being rigid and controlling without using the words “rigid” and “controlling”? Is “super strict” an insult, or just a description of someone who sets rules about when another adult may eat food in his own home? To be honest, I think that’s mild.

How many trolling posts are you going to have deleted before you give up and bugger off?

Why fatty? Are you unable to summon a thought without mentioning body weight of someone you don’t know 😂

Bloody hell your poor partner. As long as he's replacing it, what's the big deal??

Oh bless, sorry I touched a nerve there. 😂

Those defending the husband are defending the kind of behaviour associated with poor impulse control.

From the title I thought this was going to be a completely different thread 🤣.

Oh, and chill out, for Cliff’s sake.

YOU dare to call people obnoxious when you’re describing someone who ate food he paid for in his own home as an “oaf”? “Gobbling”. “Stuffing”. “Swigging”. All these judgemental, belittling words, designed to dismiss anyone who dares to eat rather than sitting daintily on a cloud surviving on fresh air and angels’ tears - it’s poisonous.

Or you’re just being pointlessly goady. Probably because you’ve been too anally retentive to have a fucking chocolate since 1997.

Because there is a massive difference to "don't eat the turkey" to "don't eat any cheese at all"

If the cheese was part of a cheese board for Christmas dinner then fine but otherwise, what's the issue?