Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Sounds perfect, @soupfiend!

My 9 year old has just demolished the salt and vinegar twists 😆😆😆 He’s soo excited. He was quiet for about 3 minutes 🥰

I do feel sorry for the DP. But also for the OP. It's sad to be so rigid about a slice of cheese that you call someone disgusting. I wonder if there's any eating disorder lurking? It sounds like a control issue bordering on OCD in this case. Couldn't really get worked up about something as trivial as this especially since he said he was going to replace it.

I haven't seen any? Unless you think calling OP rigid is an insult?

I don't get the 'take something away from the day' stuff but if he's been secretly drinking that would upset me.

So you and others have admitted that SOME things are off-limits, the things YOU decide are, until a specific moment in the seasonal events.

But OP is being derided for deciding that some of HER purchases were off-limits until a specific moment. What's the difference and why is she being vilified for having a vision of how her household's Christmas Eve/Day will unfold?

Surely you agree those things? Although you shouldn’t have to agree that the Christmas dinner ingredients are off limits, not that I’ve ever heard of a turkey being prematurely cooked.

I went back only four pages in a 31-page thread and found:

rigid
controlling
eating disorder
you sound fun
grinch
po-faced
you sound like a robot
thouroughly nasty
uptight
super strict
not normal
miserly
outdated
killjoy
Puritan
stick lodged
weird
daft
ungrateful
self-centered

Surely there is a way to discuss this without directly calling OP such names?

Oh get over it. So many mumsnetters seem to get "the rage" over pretty insignificant things.. 🤦🏼‍♀️ This might be irritating, sure, but I don't think you have the right to decree "no Christmas food can be eaten until Christmas Day" just because this is what YOUR parents decreed! DH is not your child.

Heaven forbid you should have something genuinely enraging to rage over.

I don’t think it’s really much different to the OP’s tone - she was “disgusted” with her DH’s “inability”

No. It’s Christmas Eve.

Christmas starts when I break up from work. Sometimes it’s the 20th Dec, this years it’s the 24th. It’s different for everyone.

I suggest you stop being so controlling.

today I had pannetone for breakfast and home baked christmas cake with loaded hot chocolate for lunch. Go me.

yes because why not ask me if I want to join in?

Because he’d get a lecture I imagine. And he knows that.

This might be a stupid question, but what actually is a posh cheese?

What makes a cheese Christmas-worthy and rage-inciting? I have various types of cheese in my fridge, but I don't think of any of them as posh. Am I doing cheese wrong?

But she's talking about a third party, anonymously in a forum where he's unlikely to see it. She's venting. He is not harmed by what she writes here.

The posters here are directly insulting her to her "face" so to speak. Surely you can comprehend the difference?

🤣🤣 Oh dear! Time to realise all men are 5 year old kids at heart! 🤣🤣. It wouldn’t bother me tbh. And he has said he’ll replace it.

I know...I was joking

Would any qualify as an insult though?

An expensive imported french one that stinks ?

🤑

It's more having a whole LOAD of different cheeses incuding speciality ones, all the accompaniments and speciality crackers. To do a massive cheese board instead of cooking a meal. Not your bog standard Pilgrim's Choice that you have the rest of the year on a sandwich at lunchtime.

Maybe with a special wine that you've picked to go with the cheese too.

I feel sorry for the poor bloke. Maybe the cheese is the only gratification he gets . He said he’d replace it what’s the big deal. Stop being so uptight and enjoy the festivities. Maybe break out what cheese is left and share it with him.

No tantric approach to festive foods in this household! Have as much as you can as often as you can whether alone or with family and friends. Embrace indulgence: You're only here once as far as I'm aware and coffins aren't usually equped with fridges!