New baby in-laws won't visit as we chose to move away

[dragonflyden]

We have a 12 week baby who in-laws have yet to meet because they won't come and visit as we chose to move away and in their words we made our bed by moving away.
I didn't feel up to travelling the 4 hour journey to begin with to see them but was happy for them to come to us but they refused.
Now with Christmas around the corner I could do the journey in theory but I invited them to us as I thought it would be easier to be at home with all mine and babies things but they have said no they will not be putting themselves out because we decided to move away so we either go to them or not at all.
Not visiting them will mean they don't meet their Grandchild AIBU to think if they can't come and see us then never mind and not bother to travel 4 hours for them to meet their Grandchild?

What a pair of spiteful, churlish people.

They're trying to make a point...in the hope you'll move back?! I don't know. Either way they've cut off their nose to spite their face.

OP, enjoy your new family.

U moved so u need to make the journey.

no folks they moved for a job not for jolly japes ffs a job.it wasn’t done to spite them either and a baby isn’t to be in a car seat for more than 2 hours either remember a baby

Just wanting some insight. I invited a good friend for Xmas lunch. She has a small yappy dog who is very cute. I specifically asked her not to bring her dog because
I have an elderly cat who is scared of dogs
I don't have proper fencing
Anyway I rang her on Xmas Eve to organise a time to pick her up on Xmas day. She was just so abusive and nasty over the phone because she couldn't bring her dog. Wasn't coming and I had ruined her Xmas and she would be by herself. Slammed the phone down on me. I have not spoken to her since. Surely she could have left her dog for a couple of hours? She will be expecting me to ring her to
apologise. I am not sure what for to be honest. I feel manipulated. I am still feeling quite upset about this. Any insight please

@OnePearlBear you need to start your own thread

I’d leave them to stew in their own juice and they’ll soon realise how much they’re missing. Keep the door open and keep inviting them so they’re aware that the ball’s in their court and they can have a relationship with their grandchild. It really is their problem and not yours if they can’t accept you’re both grown ups with your own lives to lead.

For the person that asked, I would say it's 4 hours each way - as the Op has said the people are in Cornwall.

It's the grandparents loss. Their choice.