The burden of being a man

[Boomboombooo]

"Men will give up their happiness for their families but women will give up their families for their happiness."

My DH explaining the burden of being a man to me this morning.

True. The world is full of men raising children on their own after their wives have fucked off for a different life.

What a load of old tosh! I risked my mental and physical welfare to keep my family together preferring to remain in a dreadful marriage for the sake of my children until they had flown the nest and I could then escape the awful abuse and cruelty.
So, my message to the OP OH .......... You ain't got a clue!

Is he dim?

Where do you live? I can come around with my tiny violin and play him a sad fucking little tune.

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I find posts like this strange, where someone just announces what some bloke said. Like anyone is meant to care about his opinion, then doesn't provide any question or say what the point of the thread is?

Was he high?

It's literally the complete opposite.

He's priming you for something..

Not read through the thread but what an entire load of absolute bollocks.

THIS IS A MANS WORLD… end of.

They don’t have any of the shit we swap with and it is utter madness and bollocks to even suggest it.

YABVVVVVVVVU. 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

I am hoping you are also schooling your DC and DH on the patriarchy which have fucked women over for centuries

Deal not swap.

DEAL not SWAP…. I am
pissed off and fucked off and genuinely have had enough of how easy they have it.

Fucking joke .

Are you a new poster Andrew @Boomboombooo or just name changed for this?

I hope you told him he’s got it the wrong way round

Has he been reading women's magazines and got confused over his sex? I'm honestly struggling to find any explanation for how he could be so deluded!

A definite reverse.

I had to read that three times just to make sure I'd comprehended it correctly.

He's living on Planet Cuckoo, obviously.

Other way round!

@Boomboombooo back to front!!! just need to have a look on here to see the number of men who have abandoned their families to get their leg over with someone else and be happy!! nearly always the women left holding the children!

I am sorry, this is the other way round!

Well Peppa Pig is hardly the epitome of the best family values - so perhaps that's got something to do with his comment! 🤔
Being utterly selfish when it comes to leaving your families isn't gender specific anyway. I've known women and men who have chosen their own happiness over their DCs.

Is this some sad-sack way of saying that men will stoically plod on in unhappy marriages for the sake of the “family” staying together whereas women are more likely to ask for a divorce if they are unhappy?

As women initiate more divorces, I assume this is true to some degree, even if women tend to end up doing a larger share of the childcare after divorce.

Men also tend to receive more relationship services in a marriage, so it’s not just about “keeping the family together”, it’s really more that men receive a lot of benefits from marriage that makes it worth staying. I also think there’s an element of shame involved, ie many men know that post-divorce it’s going to be perfectly fucking obvious who really looks after the family.

Biggest loads of bollocks I've heard all year!!

Hilarious that he said that I agree!

Like a pp I know of a single solitary mother who fucked off and left her children with their father. I am 51. It was the mother who used to live next to us when I was about 12. She left her husband and children and moved to NZ to follow her dream of being an artist.

The fact I recall the specific details means it was such a rarefied event it stood out in my mind. Oddly enough I was talking on the phone to my parents last week and they asked if I recalled 'Sue' because they and bumped into the now adult daughter and her children and my parents wondered if Sue even knew she had grandkids.

I could not even begin to count the numbers of men I know, work with, once upon a time dated, am related to, or met in the course of normal life over the years who have done the same.

I think this comment is based upon two often misquoted 'facts'. At the very least, it shows some nativity.

1. Women statistically have always been more likely to instigate divorce. Depending on the source and country, this ranges from about 60% to over 90%. This, if taken on its own, 'implies' women (especially if leaving for another man) are more willing to leave a family than stay faithful, stick it through, etc. Obviously, there are MANY other factors at play here that would skew this (e.g., DV).

1. Men are more likely to be the providers. Obviously, men can't have kids, and childcare is usually always delegated to women, so this again, if taken on its own 'looks' like men are giving up time with their family and kids to go work. This will, of course, result in the man feeling he has given up so much for his family. Again, many caveats, like many men will insist on this dynamic!