No Christmas card from my baby

[mumtoababygirl]

This year is my first Christmas as a Mum. It took us over a decade to have our baby. I asked my DH back in November if he was going to get me a Christmas card from the baby, he said yes.

I know it’s silly and I know it’s not really from her, but I just would love something that said Mum on it.

He hasn’t got me one.

I’ve been laid here awake for the best part of two hours being so upset about it. I’ve come to the conclusion that he just doesn’t care about me. I’m not asking for a special, custom card from Etsy, just to pop into Tesco (which he passes) on his way home from work. He knows how much I would love it and it would mean to me.

AIBU to be so upset? It’s just a card and not even actually from my baby?

There is still time. Remind him

Kindly, I think you are being unreasonable. But if this is important to you, then just remind him.

Christmas is next week. In our household, cards for each other are put under the tree and given with the rest of the gifts, on Christmas day.

Have you got him a Daddy card?

Did you give him one from the baby?

How do you know he hasn’t got one?

Can you just remind him?

Get yourself one?

I had no idea that was even a thing!

There is still time.... but if its important to you maybe pop online and buy yourself something like this? Or a really quick search on amazon for 'mums first Christmas' brings up loads of ideas. Some really nice tree decorations which would be my favourite as you can get it out every year. Or get both of you matching personalised 'first Christmas from 'baby name' mugs?

Said kindly you're being a bit daft over this. You'll be getting cards from her every year once she goes to nursery, it's a standard crafting activity all the way through to the end of primary (my youngest is now at secondary so no more hand made Christmas cards for me!). That will mean more than your DH writing one for her.

Kindly, could the hormones be messing with your emotions? Christmas is not even until next week so he could have got you one, but even if not - babies don't get cards and it's not that big of a deal. But if you got him a daddy card and it means so much to you - remind him again. He may be like me though and think it's silly.

Kindly, you are being a bit unreasonable about a card from a baby who has no concept, but I can also totally understand why you feel the way you feel.

My husband is rubbish at gift giving. It's just not his thing (he's also autistic which adds another layer of challenge in this area for him). We also have different priorities in terms of what makes a good gift. I have learnt to spell things out if I want something e.g. "I would like a frame for DCs first drawing" resulted in a lovely personalised frame. "I would really like something with hand/footprints for mothers day" resulted in a lovely plaque thing.

Tell him how you feel, there's still time (tesco on Christmas eve will be full of men buying bunches of flowers and boxes of milk tray!). If he still doesn't then get a card, then yes he's a bit of a dick.

The greatest card though, is the first one DC writes themselves 🥰

Until your baby can write their own,what on earth is the point?

Sounds like this is about more than the card op. I’ve voted YABU, because kindly I agree with you, on surface level it is silly. However, I suspect there is more going on. If though there isn’t, remind him and remind him why, otherwise he with probably also think ‘it’s just a card’.

You are over reacting.
Have a nice packet of Christmas cards in the house that you are all welcome to write in - just in case he didn't buy a pack.

Write a card from baby to Daddy and place it under the tree..
Show him that you have done that.

Writing me a Christmas card was never something my babies were ever able to manage (it is an impossible skill for an infant) so don't be too sad if your baby can't..

What's the bigger picture? Will you have a present from the baby? Does DH recognise all you do for the baby, and does he pull his weight?

If he's ordinarily lovely, then he just doesn't get that this particular thing is important to you. Tell him, but also try not to get too worked up about it.

If this is just one piece of a bigger puzzle, then speak to him about the bigger puzzle.

Ahhh there's still time yet. He's probably going to sort it out this weekend & if he doesn't, remind him as men don't think as much about cards as most women do.
It's still early days with baby & you'll be hormonal. Try not to be upset & have a lovely first Christmas with your LO.

I haven’t voted. He’s probably forgotten, personally I’d get my own that says ‘mummy and daddy’ & put it up. It’s not really going to be from your child for a long time, when it is it’ll likely be made in nursery and be illegible!

I think it's a bit poor form of him given how important it is to you. I'm sure you do things for his sake. Bit it's only the 21 Dec - how do you know he doesn't have one for the day.

I think the Christmas card from your child is one of those later firsts but does happen every year through primary and nursery. Mine are 4 &7 and the Christmas cards they brought home yesterday will come out every Christmas

If he is a good dad I think you need to give your head a wobble and get some perspective. This just is not a thing irl outside of social media. Just cuddle your lovely baby and enjoy your time as a family

Remind him it’s important to you.

Make a salt dough foot or handprint of the baby as a Christmas decoration. That will be cute and probably last longer.

I can totally see why you would be upset at not getting one but he still does have a couple of days. Maybe he just hasn’t got it yet. Have you given him his?

It’s not Christmas yet.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You've said you'd like one. For some reason he's said he's not got one. Can you mention again how you'd really like one? I felt similar about my first mothers day as a mum I knew it didn't mean anything to the baby and my husband was going to buy me flowers but I had to say what I really wanted was something like a mug that said mum on it "from the baby".