To say your engagement ring goes on your finger first and THEN your wedding ring?

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So, just that. As you'd have your engagement ring on already at the altar and then your wedding ring goes on, surely?

A quick glance around shows others have it the other way around

I wear mine the same way as yours. Personal preference ☺️

I was told wedding ring goes on first, then it’s closest to your heart. When I got married I swapped my engagement ring on my right hand and then switched it back to left after the ceremony. I don’t really think it matters though!

Most people do it the other way around in the UK (wedding ring on first with engagement ring on top)

When we married, we were broke, so no engagement ring, just a gold wedding band. Husband bought me a diamond wedding set at nine years.

So I wear the original band, with the diamond wedding ring, then diamond engagement ring

Wedding ring on all the time and engagement ring on top when I wear it. I don't wear it all the time. When I got married I wore my engagement ring on the other hand until my wedding ring was firmly in place!! then swapped it over.

I have mine eternity ring closest to my hand, then engagement ring, then wedding band. None of them ever come off.

Nearest to my wrist, I used to wear mine Eternity, wedding, engagement. It made sense that way due to the shape of the engagement ring

I don't see how the closest to your heart thing matters, assuming that both rings were given to you by the same person!
dh keeps his ring in a drawer so that's not very close to his heart.

Well it doesn’t matter at all, obviously, it’s just tradition.

Yeah but it doesn't actually matter. Wear it whichever way you prefer.

When we got married the wedding coordinator said not to wear my engagement ring, wedding ring in first etc, I ignored her as it felt so weird not to wear it and I don’t really care about stuff like that, I think she was annoyed 🤣

These days I usually wear my engagement ring plus my nans engagement ring that was previous worn by my mum, never wear my wedding ring as it’s just too much jewellery for me.

The wedding coordinator would be horrified 🤣

Does it really matter?

I wear my wedding ring under my engagement ring because I rarely take off my wedding ring. I don't want to be taking my wedding ring off to take my engagement ring off when gardening or whatever.

I wear mine the "wrong way" because I prefer the way they look and I don't really care if it's the done thing or not

To me it makes sense to do it the traditional way because I don't wear my engagement ring every day.
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I wear mine the "wrong" way round so engagement on nearest to my palm as I was given it first, and then wedding ring on top. Although unconventionally my engagement ring is actually a wedding band as I'm not into a big stone type one. So they are both bands and I love them 🙂

I haven’t read the whole thread, so apologies if this has been said.

Wedding ring is meant never to be taken off .
As it was originally a religious and legal symbol of your marriage.

Whereas engagement and other rings are added as decorations!

You are unreasonable for including a surplus ‘ and e in ‘your’, but as posted I also think the convention is that wedding ring goes first and then engagement ring

Well that’s me stuffed then, I wear my engagement ring fairly regularly but never wear my wedding ring.

I think it’s wedding ring first - closest to your heart . I’ve also never taken mine off - it’s taped over whenever it should have been removed .

I always wear it engagement ring first, just because it sits nicer that way. I didn't know there was a specific way to wear them!

I'm bad at it in general though because I go days without remembering to put on either...

Me too, by my dm.

I thought exactly the same as you, for the same reason, but when we went to get the eternity ring, repeated jewellers told me

1. Wedding Ring: Placed first, closer to the heart. This symbolizes that the wedding bond is the strongest and most important.
2. Engagement Ring: Worn next to the wedding ring.

During the wedding ceremony, it's common for the engagement ring to be temporarily moved to the right hand. After the ceremony, the engagement ring is moved back to the left hand, on top of the wedding ring and I suppose that is why I was wrong, for the same reason as you.

But personally, I don't think it matters, wear it how you like.

times have changed. I don’t think traditions are followed much anymore. Wear what you like. Most traditions suck anyway.

So have I for 24 years, but I do it deliberately because mine are not very traditional and they just look much better that way round. Why does it matter?