To say your engagement ring goes on your finger first and THEN your wedding ring?

[jinglejanglejo]

So, just that. As you'd have your engagement ring on already at the altar and then your wedding ring goes on, surely?

A quick glance around shows others have it the other way around

Genuinely don’t think it matters. Neither DH nor I have worn rings since the wedding day, and we didn’t have engagement rings. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wear wedding ring first then engagement ring, but that’s because a) I take off my engagement ring for things like exercise but never my wedding ring and b) the engagement ring is a solitaire and I think it would look weird to be on first (but eg a band of gemstones wouldn’t). However I wasn’t aware there is a right or wrong way!

Varies by country, I’ve noticed throughout my life in different countries the norm is different.

I thought it was engagement ring and THEN wedding ring... Like in the order you're given them? No....?

They look weird the other way round!

I wear my wedding ring underneath my engagement ring because they fit better that way. I can’t say I’ve ever paid any attention to what other women are doing with their rings, and am surprised to learn there are people out there paying attention to mine tbh.

I wear mine that way because engagement ring is slightly too big and wedding ring fits perfectly so keeps the engagement ring on!

I wear either one, both or none in any order really - the wedding ring is so thin (nothing else worked with my engagement ring combined with my weirdly short fingers) so even with both together it kind of looks like one ring.

I do think the norm, at least for every married woman I know, is wedding ring then engagement ring though.

I don't think there are rules. I asked the jeweller when we went to get our wedding band, and he told me that generally people prefer to put the engagement ring first because they are bigger, then wedding band to hold the first in position. I do agree that it's more comfortable for me so that's what I do.

Me too. But only because it looks better this way as eternity ring is same colour stone as engagement ring.

i think it’s preference, my SIL wears hers in the order they were given, engagement, wedding, eternity. It looks fine.

do whatever you want

I didn't bother with an engagement ring, no dilemma 😇

I don't possess an engagement ring and wear my wedding ring on my right hand - am clearly very wrong!

This... really doesn't matter

Wedding ring first. But I have a slightly odd choice of engagement ring, which would never fit with another ring, so it lives on my other hand nowadays after marriage.

Yes, this.

The only time my Mum's wedding ring left her finger at all was upon her death earlier this year and it broke my heart to remove it for the cremation. Until then, it had never even so much as sniffed release from her finger for 63 years.

I really loved this concept and was determined to adopt it myself, until I got the massive arse with my husband one day many years ago, and threw it at him. Whoops.

It makes no difference to me. I didn’t want to faff in my wedding, so the wedding band was put on 2nd, and I discreetly swapped them around later, when we were in the back of the church signing the certificate/without an audience watching. My DSis’ wedding was quite awkward when she took off her engagement in the ceremony and couldn’t figure out where to put it when her DH put the wedding band on her and said his bit.

These days I just grab my 3 rings and they land how they land—it’s a different order each time!

I wear mine the opposite way. Just switched them round the test and that feels/looks weird to me. It's what you're used to?
I don't always wear my engagement ring but almost never take off my wedding ring (only if injured really!)

Ohhh.. I like your SIL’s idea! I might steal that…

Hate to be that person but it’s ‘your’, not ‘you’re’.

I know that most do wedding first, but I'm with you and think it should be engagement ring then wedding ring. Like securing your togetherness or some such. But people get touchy at the logic

@jinglejanglejo that's the way I wear mine. I thought that was how most did tbh

Why don’t you get it resized?!

I moved my engagement ring to my right hand for the marriage ceremony and DH tried to put wedding ring on same finger, ie the wrong hand. I should have warned him that I was swapping over!

It's wedding ring first for me - just because it looks better IMO. My wedding band is a half eternity style with diamonds and rubies, and then my engagement is just a solitary diamond with a woven-style band.

Traditionally wedding ring first then engagement ring. However, my engagement ring is 1/2 a size too big so I wear it first then my wedding band so it doesn’t fall off. Didn’t see the hassle in getting it resized.

No. You are supposed to take engagement ring off, move it to another finger. Wedding band goes on. Then you put engagement back on afterwards.