To say your engagement ring goes on your finger first and THEN your wedding ring?

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So, just that. As you'd have your engagement ring on already at the altar and then your wedding ring goes on, surely?

A quick glance around shows others have it the other way around

No! It should be wedding ring, engagement ring then eternity ring. The plainer/flatter wedding and eternity rings either side of the engagement ring help to make it look even better and show off the engagement ring.

Like others I put my engagement ring on my right hand for the wedding ceremony and then put it back on my left hand afterwards.

I wear my wedding ring and engagement ring on opposite hands. I’m far more comfortable with it this way.

I didn't know this!!

So it’s wedding ring first because it’s closer to your heart and symbolises the primary commitment

I have my engagement ring at the bottom and it seems committed the ultimate crime in getting married with my engagement ring still firmly on my left ring finger. I’ll have to break it to DH later on that after 7 years I’m not even sure our marriage is valid……..

Seriously OP wear it however you like, it really doesn’t matter!

For me it is wedding ring first, then eternity ring and then engagement ring.
It makes more practical sense to have the wedding ring on first because I almost never take it off; whereas the other two come off when I go to bed or am doing any messy or dirty work that might damage them.

I admit that the eternity ring and engagement ring could go in the other order, I just like them this way around.

Good grief. Does this really matter that much to people?! They're your rings. Just wear them how you want!

Engagement ring goes on right ring finger during the wedding. Wedding ring goes on bare left ring finger. Engagement ring is placed back on left finger by the groom after the ceremony, at least that's what DH did.

In fact, I recently lost the diamond on my engagement ring so we had my ring replaced and upgraded, and DH insisted on slipping the new one on my finger 'because I put the original one on your finger' when we picked it up.

I found the original diamond in the kitchen 3 weeks later. I've told DS2 that if he should become engaged, it's his to use for an engagement ring.

That's how I do it too. I love my very plain wedding ring and often just wear it alone. (In covid times I was too worried I would lose my diamonds down the drain with all the washing and i still have not put my engagement ring back on. I do wear my eternity ring sometimes though).

Wear them as you wish. Nobody cares. However, engagement rings are taken on and off and wedding rings remain on, so most people wear their wedding ring lower down.

It seems we both have as I agree with you engagement rind on 1st then wedding ring .

I do this too, though I didn't realise other people did it differently. Which shows how much attention people pay to other people's rings!

Wedding ring first

I wear mine wedding, engagement, eternity.
My wedding ring is a plain band and eternity is the same size of band but with a row of stones so I think the engagement ring with the higher solitaire setting looks nicest sandwiched in between the two bands rather than at one end or the other.

It is not wrong. My engagement ring on first (because I was engaged 1st) then wedding ring to 'keep it in place'
Wear it how you want!!

Wedding ring first for me. Wore my engagement ring on our wedding day but on the other hand. Knew would need to be able to get engagement ring off regularly for work (only one plain band permitted) and wouldn't want to take wedding ring off to do that. In fact haven't removed wedding ring ever in almost 30 years.

If it works for you though op it doesn't really matter if you're wearing it the 'right' way or not.

Traditionally the engagement ring goes on top of the wedding ring.
You take it off or put it on the other hand on your wedding day.
But you can do anything you want.

Apparently there is a vein that runs from your ring finger left hand to your heart, hence why your wedding ring should go first . However I think people should wear their rings according to their preference .

That is normal, and the minister told me to swap my engagement ring to my other hand for the weddings so that my wedding ring finger was ready for the wedding ring.

However, very often when I go out these days, I switch and use the wedding ring as a "keeper ring" for my engagement ring and/or eternity ring.(Mind you, I have OCD, so...)

At one point, I had the "I can never remove my wedding ring" mindset but I've had two operations where I had to remove my wedding ring before I went into theatre. (It used to be that they allowed you just to tape your finger up, but one op was actually on the ring finger and my shoulder surgeon would let me keep my wedding ring on when I had that done.)

Your ring arrangement is like that. Other women have it how they like it.

I put my engagement ring on my right hand to get married and moved it back over in time for the wedding photos. Definitely wanted the fancier expensive ring in our 'hands with ring' photo!

My Mum always wore her wedding ring on the outside as it kept the other, slightly too big, rings from falling off.

Is there a right and wrong way or is it just preference?

My engagement ring is worth 10 times my wedding band so goes on first to ensure it doesn't fall off!

Engagement ring on your right hand for ceremony! Like many others I don’t take my wedding ring off but do my engagement ring.

I now wear my eternity ring on my right hand all the time, because I have stumpy fingers and 3 rings is overkill lol

Not married yet, but i have an engagement and an eternity, and i always go engagement first, because its a size too big, so the eternity is snug and keeps it safe.

It would never have occurred to me to put my engagement ring on first. I have only ever removed my wedding ring once in 44 years , but I do occasionally take my engagement ring off to give it a good clean.