DH has brought a kitten home, I’m so upset 🙁

[Queenofheart]

All my life, I’ve never been a fan of cats.

Ever since we’ve been together, my DH has mithered for Cats, finally wore me down and a few months later we had two tiny kittens. They are indoor cats.

We’ve had them two years and I love them. The female follows me around everywhere, the minute I sit down or go to bed, she snuggles up to me, she’s never far from me. The male is very much like that with my SS. All good.

My DH has been mithering about getting another one, he’s on all these bloody Facebook websites and constantly showing me pictures and I am constantly saying no no no, so is my SS … I don’t want my two to be or feel pushed out.

Well, last night I got home and he’s brought a new kitten home. I’m absolutely devastated. Don’t get me wrong she’s absolutely beautiful, but my poor two cats have not been near me. They seem scared, run away, even though she is tiny, they are hissing. I picked up the female to cuddle her and she growled at my DH when he tried to stroke her , never in two years have I heard her do that? I’m absolutely gutted.

I’ve been really upset this morning and told my DH that it’s unacceptable what he’s done. He’s ruined the run-up to Christmas for me because I’m now upset for my two cats, who are hiding away, dramatic I know , but I’m really really pissed off with him. I now have to go to work and leave the three of them together in the house 😒

Has anybody been through this? Does it get better? 🙁

I'd like to see a photo of the kitten so we can decide just how unreasonable his behaviour is.

How could he do that?! I have two cats and recently two dogs but our old boy (15) was put down a few months ago. I wouldn't bring in another animal now - my other dog is 13 and she wouldn't like it.
I'm sure things will settle down but that doesn't mean they'll all be one happy family. And the fact he did this when you had said no means he's not respectful of your feelings and opinions.

Sounds like whoever he got it from won't take her back anyway. Nobody responsible sells a kitten a week before Christmas to some random person without doing basic checks first.

She is microchipped yes, I have transferred that this morning to us. She is litter trained, so that's a godsend, straight in there. We have our other two insured so she will definitely be getting insured too. 🙂

So are you keeping her now??

A few minutes ago she was going to be sent back…

It was yesterday morning when I put that she was going back due to being very upset for our two current cats when DH had come home the night before with the new kitten.
I've calmed down a lot now and am about to update my post. 😊

Ahhh that's so sad, I'm really sorry to hear that :(

Are you saying that if we take her to the vets they should all go?
There is a chance that we do get her spade at some point x

Morning all ... just an update.

Just for info I posted Wednesday morning after my DH came home Tuesday night with a kitten.

In answer to some of your questions/points.

I was "devastated" one because my DH decided to do this without my knowledge and two for my current cats, I don't want them feeling pushed out.

So after spending a couple of days/nights together they are all ok ish, not super friendly yet but no anger or fighting, the male cat is following her all over the house, hissing a little but nothing more. Our female cat is edging closer to her but still not overly friendly. She is very playful but not getting too close to them either. Though she did push in front of him this morning to get at his food 😳

There's been no weeing around the house by any, yes the kitten is fully litter trained and she is microchipped and we will be getting her insured as are our other cats. She's healthy and eats pretty much anything.

If it doesn’t work out then my DH brother has said he is looking to get a kitten after Christmas so we will ask him to have her. I do want to now try everything to keep her as she’s got a lovely temperament and I can see my cats slowly warming to her. To the person said I hope he doesn’t dump her ... that will never happen.

My adult SS lives at home, due to working hours he's around at different times to us, so there's usually someone in to keep an eye on them and this time of year is good as we both have a long break off now.

For those wanting a picture here she is ⋆˚🐾˖°

OMG how cute! Those ears!!

Thanks for updating, best of luck.

To be fair, she’s awfully cute.

I am glad things are settling, OP. Just remember, your DH really owes you one now.

If my partner brought that kitten home as a surprise I wouldn't stay grumpy for very long 😻.

She is beautiful. But I would be having a serious chat with him about not doing it again.

Absolutely, he is still in the bad books and I don't stroke her when he's looking 😂

Oh I had that with him yesterday morning and then when I read all your comments about what he'd done I sent them to him too, I think he gets it, he's still not out of the bad books though!

Why is he so obsessed with getting cats?

If nothing else OP your DH has good taste in cats I’ll give him that 🥰 Make sure you feed her last as this will signal to your current cats that they are more dominant and higher up in the pecking order - it will reassure them x

What's your answer then?

Unhappy cats all round?

What's done is done unless you want to send it back like a jumper that doesn't fit?

Your husband has been an idiot but you both need to make it work

oh that's a good idea ... especially when this morning I put the boy's food down and she pushed in front of him for it and he stood aside, I then moved her so that's a good plan thanks :)

Could we see a photo of the other two? I’m just invested now. Only if you feel like sharing of course!

Here's my boy and girl the one in tinsel is the male :)

Rubbish! We got our puppy at half way through December two years ago.
It made sense because we were all off work and could spend that time with pup.
It also made our Christmas more enjoyable

Your cats will settle and in time all get along.
I see it in other households with multiple cats.
In the meantime google ways to introduce new kitten to older cats etc

Great. You now love the cat. Husband licking his whiskers?

Don't know if you are aware @Queenofheart but there is 'litter tray' area in MN for all cat related chat. You may wish to visit, you'd be very welcome.

Because he's a knob 🙄 😂he's promised this is the last and with my reaction I'd hope he wouldn't do it again!

Congratulations on the new arrival. By the sound of it they'll be grand, one more bundle of fluff to love is never a bad thing