Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

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Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

Ewww. Yuk.

Jesus I can’t think of anything worse after experiencing this myself and it was 100% due to too much wanking to porn and wanking in general which a vagina can realistically never emulate at the speed at which they do it ( thank god )

surely certain positions can make him finish quicker? Maybe you have a super fanny and can get it down to half an hour? If you do decide to sleep with him I would be tempted to use the stopwatch function on my phone.

some men see lasting so long as an achievement which is so far removed from what most women want. Maybe he has trained himself to last longer? If it’s a problem for you and you’re comfortable enough to have sex with him then you should be able to have the conversation about how long it takes.

Can't even look at Sudocrem without getting flashbacks!

It gets a bit boring past 5minute mark, let’s be honest

I dropped in looking for Christmas turkey recommendations and ......

FWIW, as a guy, I would suspect that he's BSing, just to get you into bed.
If however, he, um, delivers. He'll be on a blue pill.
Unless you're so wet that you're practically sliding off the bed. An hour will quickly turn from sex to sadomasochism.
It sounds to me that foreplay is a foreign language, he doesn't speak nor understand.
Could you be bothered with a man who still thinks like a teen boy?
Doesn't sound like it.

Finger up the bum, problem solved

An hour of just banging away is too much for me.

"Finger up the bum, Job done"

Jinx!

Yes and more.
By the sounds of it, the op doesn't seem that interested or intrigued.

I’d say east enders is on in half an hour, get own with it, I want to watch EE

I just clenched my Fanny together reading your original post . Fuck that . Literally.

What is it with these men making such
‘ announcements’

Who the fuck do they think they are .

🙄🙄

He probably masterbates A LOT and has desensitised his penis.

This. It’s not something to brag about, it’s an actual medical condition, though rare.

As you’ve pointed out it’s not fun.

Id say because it’s a colleague though, do you actually want to have awkward sex with him and then having to face him regularly, or best to cut it off early?

Don’t know why men think women want this. I certainly don’t 🤣 totally with you.

Agree with this.

I'm guessing if he told you he's 'notoriously' long, its because other partners have had a problem with him.
Personally I wouldn't even start to shag him. So many reasons - I'd get cystitis. There will be many positions to 'help' him and frankly I couldn't be arsed being rolled around while trying to help him finish. Sex would have to be confined to nights when I didn't have an alarm clock the following day or else I'd resent him depriving me of sleeping.

My Fanny would be in flames due to friction after an hour!

This amount of time can make you even bleed ....not nice

😂

I was reading through thinking exactly the same. Often used to go for several hours …changing positions, swapping the various options like bjs at intervals . Now I like the occasional wam bam thank you mam, because I can get there quickly if that’s what’s happening, or I can get a long orgasmic roll that just seems to never end which needs a man that can keep going . Then the days when there are several orgasms so long as it’s different positions and then when you get an hour in the morning , a lunch time wam bam, and a lengthy session by the fire in the evening. Beds were for sleeping in mostly in one relationship. Everywhere else for fun and games..in the garden, out in the woods, on the beach, in a boat. …I never realised so many felt like those here

But that's the difference. You get a choice! So do I; I love a long session. But I also like the option of a quickie, or a half an hour go. Not every single time lying there for up to an hour, not including foreplay, in the one position because that's all that works for him, having my vag rubbed raw while he tells me he's nearly there.

This is the kind of chap I think the OP is dealing with, hence he pre-warned her. God, it's bloody awful and I'm so glad DH has an ability to actual control himself. Unlike my ex!

one position would certainly not cut it. Cramp would set in lol

The pride these fellows take when you can't walk the next day, too. Like no, sir. I am in pain and waddling like a duck because you nearly dislocated my hip and I have a UTI. 😂

Well, at least he warned you ahead of time. Sounds like he was giving you the option to back away before going further, and wouldn't be particularly surprised if you did.