Lasts too long in bed, get rid?

[jipor]

Been on a few of dates with a colleague. Not had sex yet, was internally planning on it.

When discussing sex a few days ago, he sort of pre warned me that he lasts notoriously long. Usually not far off an hour.

I know, men say this to show off. But he said it knowing that I was soon going to find out. Plus, it was prompted by me saying that sex over an hour is too long for me.

AIBU or is that a ridiculous amount of time? I don't want to be having sex for that long?! I feel like cutting it off already, before having to endure that.

Surely any reasonably un-self-centred man would accept a hint that it was time for a change of plan?

It is, because it’s making it clear that’s your main interest.If someone hasn’t had sex, it’s because they want to get to know the person not their sexual preferences.
Before l met my Dh, l met someone, that’s all they talked about and when were we going to do it.Completely put me off, stop talking about it and let things progress naturally, l’ll have sex, when l’m ready, not because the other person, can’t think of anything else.To me it was a red flag, l’m glad l went with my gut feeling.

Some health medication causes the problem of not being able finish during a normal timescale.

I’d say he’s fibbing 😂

What is PIV?

An hour? I don't even spend that long doing something I enjoy!

Sounds like fun to me! My last partner and I used to go for it all night long, or at least into the early hours. That rarely lasts but new love is fun.

Does he means he takes half an hour from penetration or from the start of foreplay?

Sounds unusual to me for him to say this.
Could be more in hope than anything . Then if you are on the same page that's one thing, otherwise it just sounds odd.

That said, I could just be jealous not getting much. Go with your instincts.

Firstly that's also a chore after being pounded for 30 mins to an hour and you're no longer enjoying it, having to them have to finish him off is a chore especially as it will still take him a long time

Secondly many men like this want to continue PIV rather than be finished off by hand.

Penis in vagina i.e. penetrative sex.

That is way too long, my DW has told me numerous times that 20-30 seconds is more than enough! Right?

An ex of mine used to last that long in the early days. He had been single for a long time before me, and he was used to masturbating with such a tight grip that nothing else compared so it took him ages to finish.
It was great initially but the novelty soon wore off! We discussed it openly numerous times, I did lots of reading up on it, and - long story short - I put him on a "wank ban" to recondition him. It worked. Within a few months he was finishing within 10 minutes!

I don't usually go for the "what if the sexes were reversed" way of looking at modern dilemmas - as I think there are relevant significant differences in most situations.

But I think it really does apply here. Men aren't born with an innate ability to bring their partners off digitally or orally. If that's what's needed, the good ones are willing to be taught and learn what works for their partner and will obviously enjoy their endeavours and be more enthusiastic and turned on themselves knowing that they're doing the right thing.

Yet the other way round it seems many regard women as exempt, no learning necessary. Have we really not moved on all that far from 'lie back and think of England'?

Kind of ironic given that in my experience men have much less variation than women in the particularities and idiosyncracies of what physically works best on their genitals. Learn one time with one man and you're pretty much set for life. With women it can be a whole new ball game every time.

Sex for longer periods suit me we've been known to go for have sex for 2 and a half hours none stop 🤣

Do you work from home or in the office?
Being a colleague of yours - wouldn't it be awkward when you call it off - wouldn't it feel weird having to engage in work talk and stuff?

I think men say this shit to all woman however if you both have already engaged in "preconceptions" about sex - I am sure you would of shared stuff on this subject too

we can only go by our last experience - if the work thing feels ok - than let those things go over your head and enjoy the experience and not worry about a trivial thing that may not happen

you could be his world record 😂🤩🥳

Unless he’s got a tv on the wall and you can catch up with Netflix while he finishes off😊

I've not read the whole thread but is he wanking a lot? If he's banging one out several times a day, that might be the cause. But if not - an hour of pumping? Absolutely no thanks, you'll end up with callouses!

This reminds me of the year I was single before my husband

Gary was quite the pre charmer and this is how it ended up in the hotel room

"Gary you told me you was going to fuck my brains out, clearly that is happening! GET OUT"

😂😂😂

I would tell him you’ll set a stopwatch OP

And be sore.

Sorry, but no. An hour of thrusting sounds dire.

Ask him what you are meant to do for the hour.

An hour?! Hell no.
I can feel the vag burn just thinking about it.
Pass the sudocreme 🤣🤣

Get rid.
Plus there’s bound to be a deep seated emotional problem behind this.