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AIBU?

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He left me in city centre…

881 replies

Craics90 · 15/12/2024 02:32

Went in to City Centre today for DH’s birthday. A few of his friends had also arranged to go in today. I asked if he’d prefer to go out with said friends and he repeatedly said no.

Queue 4pm when he began acting like a total arse to me. We went to the usual Christmas market, had some food, waded our way through the crowds to get anywhere and went on a bar crawl.

He’s useless with directions so I usually guide us between bars etc. I asked him multiple times where he wanted to go next and he kept saying that he didn’t mind.

Went to his favourite bar, queued for 40 mins to get inside, got one drink. Whilst standing basically the toilet door, people slamming in to us spilling drink down my back I asked if he wanted to maybe go somewhere more local where we could actually get to the bar and have a dance?

He stormed out of the bar rambling on that I should have stayed at home, even though I spent weeks planning the night and booking in to his favourite restaurant which he made me cancel last night costing me 80£ for late cancellation!

I tried calling him and he told me to F off and said he didn’t care how I got home because I’m not his problem. Therefore, leaving me stranded in the city. Every taxi I stopped was booked and I had to call my elderly dad to come and get me. I felt like such a dick.

Obviously DH had this planned so he could go off and meet friends instead of just saying in the first place. I am so hurt.

He has just came home bashing the door with three others trying to get in and I haven’t opened it. First of all I was asleep and they woke me with the banging, but second of all - bringing people back here when he knows I would be in bed?

AIBU for not opening the door?

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Donttellempike · 03/01/2025 21:25

💯 This

MrsRagnarLothbrok · 03/01/2025 22:28

Onwards and upwards, hope your divorce is smooth and painless

Whoyoutakingto · 03/01/2025 23:01

Thanks for updating, I just want to wish you all the best of luck moving forward with your life. You have a lovely family and deserve the best, I hope 2025 brings you peace and happiness.🙂

Iamnotalemming · 05/01/2025 14:30

Happy New Year @Craics90 ! How lovely are your family.
I wish you all the best for 2025Flowers

Jom222 · 05/01/2025 22:26

Bill98502 · 23/12/2024 06:10

Are you referring to my posts? I understand this website is for parents. I am a parent and grandparent of young women. There is no question that I care about the safety and wellbeing of them and other women. Most men are decent and caring husbands and partners. Don’t throw us under the bus along with OP’s abusive scumbag husband.

Actually this site is for mothers. Not men. If you feel unwelcome maybe work on that yourself or participate in a site that wants your input.

I know this is very late reply but christ what a load of bullshit trying to explain why you feel entitled to come here and spew your unwanted opinion.

saraclara · 05/01/2025 22:52

Jom222 · 05/01/2025 22:26

Actually this site is for mothers. Not men. If you feel unwelcome maybe work on that yourself or participate in a site that wants your input.

I know this is very late reply but christ what a load of bullshit trying to explain why you feel entitled to come here and spew your unwanted opinion.

Actually, despite its name, it's not. It's for parents, and MNHQ is quite clear about that.

Bill98502 · 06/01/2025 03:01

saraclara · 05/01/2025 22:52

Actually, despite its name, it's not. It's for parents, and MNHQ is quite clear about that.

Thank you, saraclara. Yes I checked MNHQ before posting, and saw that the site is for PARENTS. I am parent to a daughter and several granddaughters. 😕

Jom222 · 06/01/2025 21:44

I stand corrected that you're allowed to participate here but I stand by the fact that you're an ignorant male who came here and immediately tried to blame OP for the actions of her H.

Ever heard the saying 'read the room?' Yeah you did after your ass was handed to you by numerous posters. So sorry if I've upset your male fee fees but fgs think next time you victim blame.

Itsgottobeme · 07/01/2025 06:44

Wow that some manipulation text there In that card. Total emotional manipulation it's almost threatening! And don't you falm for it.
He's a weasel. The fact he chose these lines before any remorse speaks volumes in itself.
Keep going op. Go look for your new life. One with a massive drain gone from it.
Lean on your loved ones, they will be exactly who you need when he tries to pull the strings.
And yourself,because you've already shown how strong you are.

Craics90 · 22/01/2025 15:32

Just wanted to come on and thank you all for your unmeasurable support when I needed it the most. You gave me such great advice, perspective and unexpected laughter throughout a situation I never thought I'd find myself in. Life is peaceful and wholesome at the minute. Long may it last. Forever grateful for every one of you.💚

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WearyAuldWumman · 22/01/2025 15:35

Thank you for taking the time to update. Wishing you everything good in life.

Purplebunnie · 22/01/2025 15:38

Thank you for the update, all the best for the future x

Getonwitit · 22/01/2025 16:13

Great to hear from you and i am so glad life is peaceful and quiet. I wish you a fabulous 2025 x

pikkumyy77 · 22/01/2025 16:24

Yes, wonderful to hear from you. Thank you for updating us. Glad things are better!

Dollybantree · 22/01/2025 16:52

So glad you’re doing well OP.

You come across like an absolute warrior Queen, a very strong woman 💪 and sound like you’re an absolute blast too. I’d love a night out in Dubs with you ( my adoptive city 💚)

Massive credit to you for realising you were in a toxic relationship and acting accordingly - you know your worth. He knew you were too good for him too and that’s why he kept on putting you down and trying to chip away at your confidence.

I applaud you! 👏 and wish you so much happiness for the future xx

Nikki75 · 22/01/2025 17:01

Aww wow I remember your post in December It reminded me of myself a long time ago .
I'd be left in town alone or he'd just walk out of a bar and leave , wouldn't come home at night and much worse things .
So sorry you went through this but so happy to read you kicked his stupid sorry arse out of your life.
I too did this many years ago and I have no regrets whatsoever you will go from strength to strength and so will the kids.
Mine have grown into lovely young men.
You get that wake up call and you just cant go back this is your time now .. be happy xx

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 22/01/2025 17:04

@Craics90 we will always stand with women who have cheating bastards for husbands

DearDenimEagle · 22/01/2025 19:50

Hope 2025 just keeps getting better and better for you and yours.

RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 22/01/2025 20:24

OP, as a regular MNetter, I'm amazed that I missed your original post, and have only come across it this evening due to your update.

However, I would like to say what an AMAZING woman you are! You made up your mind where you stood, found your anger, and got shot of the cheating bastard, I am SO impressed, and wish you and your children the absolute best for the future.

I love the way that MNetters come together to support people who find themselves in the situation you were in. Take care of yourself.

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 22/01/2025 20:56

Craics90 · 22/01/2025 15:32

Just wanted to come on and thank you all for your unmeasurable support when I needed it the most. You gave me such great advice, perspective and unexpected laughter throughout a situation I never thought I'd find myself in. Life is peaceful and wholesome at the minute. Long may it last. Forever grateful for every one of you.💚

Good for you, wishing you health, happiness and much more peace! xx

ThePoshUns · 22/01/2025 22:29

This update and the airwrap update have made my day today.
Continues best wishes to you OP.

Fannyfiggs · 22/01/2025 22:31

Fantastic update @Craics90I wish you a lifetime of peace and happiness away from arsehole men 😊❤️

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Andera · 23/01/2025 01:59

Craics90 · 22/01/2025 15:32

Just wanted to come on and thank you all for your unmeasurable support when I needed it the most. You gave me such great advice, perspective and unexpected laughter throughout a situation I never thought I'd find myself in. Life is peaceful and wholesome at the minute. Long may it last. Forever grateful for every one of you.💚

I'm so happy for you, OP. A peaceful, wholesome life is a very happy one, and I'm extremely glad that's what you've found 💙

Craics90 · 23/01/2025 15:41

ThePoshUns · 22/01/2025 22:29

This update and the airwrap update have made my day today.
Continues best wishes to you OP.

@ThePoshUns Jesus I've missed the airwrap update, going to check right now 😂

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Drummergirl1971 · 23/01/2025 15:57

Aaarrggh! I’ve lost the thread for the air wrap update 😱