I know his secret…. Thread 3

[Waffletots]

Starting another thread because the last one is full.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226809-i-know-his-secret-thread-2?page=1

Thank you so much everyone for your messages, I appreciate them so much and you have truly helped me this past crazy few days to know I have so many people supporting me.
I’ve seen a solicitor this afternoon who has given me some good advice regarding finances and the legalities when it comes to our jointly owned home, a lot to get my head around but I feel a lot more informed now!
I’ve missed two calls from my husband since I last updated, I’m worried he’s going to come to the house to try and speak to me but hoping he may think my brother is still here and not bother!

@Waffletots I hope you've managed to have a lovely Christmas with your little Tots, despite everything, and that 2025 is a year you go from strength to strength.

Congratulations @waffletots I've only just found this post but I've been thinking about you for weeks. I hope you had a lovely Christmas xx

I hope you had a lovely Christmas @Waffletots

How are you and your little family doing @Waffletots ?? Thinking of you 💐

Same. Hope all is well op

You will undoubtedly have had a very busy time of late. With the birth of your darling baby and Christmas too! But I sincerely hope, that you are managing to cope, in spite of all that's happened. Happy New Year to you, stay safe and good luck for 2025. 😘

I thought about you today @Waffletots. I hope you're all doing ok and baby is thriving.

Just read all of your threads OP and just wanted to say you've handled this marvelously! I'm in awe of your class and poise.
I hope you and your DC had a lovely Christmas and you're all doing OK

I’m really hoping the OP can update us?

I expect they've patched things up. She was in a vulnerable situation being pregnant and then giving birth. Probably best to let them get on with it. I doubt she'll update us now. If she is reading - all the best.

Sweet baby Jesus, people are still wanting updates?

The OP lost interest as soon as her story got published.

There won't be any more updates.

I can entirely understand people wanting to know how op is. I also do wonder if they are reconciled. To each, their own. All the best op

So can I. They just want the juicy gossip.

I just hope she is ok and wouldn’t judge if she let him back home

Hi everyone. Thank you for your messages, especially to those who claimed I only wanted a story in the DM (?!!!!) and that I wouldn’t be updating now I had achieved it! I think it was pretty clear at the time I had no idea that this was a possibility and certainly wasn’t up there on my life achievements wish list.

I am doing really well and no, I absolutely did not, and will not! Go back to my cheating soon to be ex husband!
My children are doing really well and growing far too fast, they keep me going.
I have filed for divorce and I am still in the marital home with my children. I feel stronger than ever, possibly due to the fact that as anticipated, he now lives with the other woman and barely sees or asks about our children (I have left contact open, my parents are my facilitators of this). Of course I have a long way to go, mentally the whole situation ruined me and it’s only due to the support of my family and knowing I have you all behind me that I was able to stick to my guns and know my worth. X

Thanks for the update! I'm glad that you and the children are doing so well.

Your DH continues to be an absolute arsehole. I'd like to say that I can't believe that he doesn't bother with his children, but unfortunately this seems to be really common with these selfish men. He's a total loser and you are amazing.

So glad to hear OP. All those protective mother instincts surging post birth and you are such an incredible role model to your kids! Such a pity he couldn't care less! He is in for a shock later on in life methinks!
Thanks for the update! Stay well xx

@Waffletots Life is a box of chocolates you never know what you are going to get . You don’t know how strong you are until life throws you a grenade .

You are a strong woman and have the support of your loving family behind you ( sadly I never did my mum couldn’t cope with all the stress of it all and all her hair fell out with shock ) so I didn’t burden her after that with all my drama.

All I will say Is chose your solicitor with great care I so wish I could of afforded a Sh*^ hot lawyer but as a SAHM and being disabled I didn’t have the money but I took out a loan and fought back hard like a lioness protecting her cubs best thing I ever did was.

Good Luck to you OP I wish you nothing but the best and lots of strength and determination. As the going gets tough the tough gets going ….❤️

My god, what a nasty comment.

Thanks for the update @Waffletots.
Stay strong, for your beautiful DC 💐

So impressed by you and your family, equalled only by the disappointment in your ex and the other woman.

It was evident from the whole post that you were dealing as things came and there was no plan.

You’ve done so well. Thank goodness for your children and your strength. long may you all thrive.

Amazing update Waffletots! Not that you need to update us at all, especially since the fail will see it but honestly well done you!! He’s certainly shown his true colours, those babies of yours have one incredible and strong mama 🥰

Well, OP proved you wrong. I don't understand posters like you that immediately jump to the worst conclusions and just offer snark rather than support. Why not just ignore the thread.

@Waffletots So glad to read this! You've done amazingly well. What an utter prick he is. He will reap what he sows in life and you'll blossom! Wishing you every happiness going forward, you will make it, it will be OK ❤️

Thanks for the update @Waffletots (I hope you know you're under no obligation whatsoever to post updates, but I still appreciate you doing so). You sound as strong in your resolve as ever and your continuing response to your STBX's vile behaviour is exemplary. Despite the toll this has taken on your mental health, you clearly have a good idea of your self-worth - and so you should - I think you're truly remarkable.
I find it staggering how so many men can "move on" from their children so easily when their existence becomes an inconvenience to their new life - I wonder if the OW realises what a "prize" she's got. 🙄
Your children will do well with you as their role model OP (and your wider family too, of course). And as they grow older they'll learn everything you've done for them to raise them well - your pathetic STBX will have nothing but regrets because they will see him for what he is and how readily he abandoned them. Stay strong OP - you are everything in a parent your children need. 🤗