Grandparents treating grandchildren differently already!!

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I have a 6 month old baby and SIL (DH’s sister) is expecting a baby very soon.

PIL gave us a couple of hundred pounds towards nursery furniture which was very generous of them & bought my baby an outfit when she was born… however we were over at SIL’s house this weekend and I found out that PIL have not only bought their baby a huge amount of clothes but also bought them a whole travel system which cost over £2k!

Ive tried really hard to make sure IL’s don’t feel like the ‘other’ grandparents - arranging for them to see the baby at least once a week and sending them updates & photos as DH works long hours and wouldn’t think to do it. But now I’m feeling like they are already favouring SIL’s baby before they’ve even been born! AIBU to be annoyed that they are already treating the grandchildren differently ?!

do wish lol not do with… servers me right trying to type while giving a bottle 🤣😂🤣

So you say that no parent wishes their child had been gifted luxury baby clothes.

But yet there are parents on this thread who are complaining that their PIL have gifted luxury clothes, prams etc to their daughters for use by their children, and not to their daughters-in-law?

From my point of view, I couldn't care less what my child is gifted by my PiL, but I would like for her to have a relationship with them. Unfortunately that doesn't happen, we saw FiL and his wife once during this year, it averages 1 to 2 times per year in the last 5.
We have never spent Christmas with them, although they see step SiL's kids every Christmas. I believe this is because they don't want us to see the disparity between the relationships and that SiL's children will be given gifts that are thoughtful and show that their tastes are known, and my child gets something that we have suggested, because they don't know her. I know I'm talking about presents here, but it's used as an example that they don't really know her through their lack of contact.
Didn't even see them before Christmas as they gifted my child cash, so no need to exchange a gift.
DH doesn't seem bothered, says it's up to his dad, but our child is still missing out and doesn't have any sort of relationship with them. I also feel that they would say that we don't bother with them, and DH won't push anything.