To think that *Some men steal the joy

[Vodkaandpepsimax]

Out of life?

I see it around me, with friend’s husbands and then often have it at home with mine and also grew up with a dad who veered between super fun, very imaginative and funny to very grumpy…It would feel like a lot revolved around his mood, whereas mum stayed pretty constant (or pretended to be at least)
Yesterday, trying to get all christmassy (I enjoy it all and especially for dd, 6’s sake) went to a christmas event, Dh silent in the car, me singing along awkwardly with dd to a Mr Tumble xmas cd. It was very busy when we arrived, lots of time to park, yes annoying, but dh so moody about it, I offer to drive/park, he snaps back. Complains about queues for the hot chocolate…just takes the joy out of the experience. I’ve booked for just dd and I to go to see The Nutcracker as I know it will be a much nicer, special experience just us, but obviously need to do things as a family.
Anyone else in this situation

@Catbabymammy

You left out another bit: 'But the absolutely worst bit of all, the one that matters the most in the end, is that the children forced to live with a father like this are aware that their father deliberately ruins most occasions and hates being a father from a very early age. The are also aware that their mother is putting on an act and that their parents don't actually love or even like each other. This awareness carries forward into their adult years and makes close relationships incredibly difficult, and also causes mental health problems'

Know this thread is from last week but I’m so here for it. I got divorced from my grump and now my life is so calm and chilled and fun. Not having someone’s moods dictating your happiness is a joy.

And I see SO SO many of my friends (and my mum tbh) living with ‘grumpy men’ that they have to ‘manage’ carefully to avoid upsetting them. It’s exhausting and I want to shake them and say ‘your life can be SO much happier, if you just leave!’