DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

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DP and I not on great terms at the moment.

DD is 14 (not his). We live together.

I was in the kitchen folding washing with DD and she mentioned her pj bottoms had faded abit, not in a rude way, just generally.

’D’P then loudly said from the other room ‘so ungrateful’!

I went in and asked who he was talking to, apparently it was DD, he could see my reaction so tried to laugh it off.

DD and I went upstairs for a while, came back down and he wanted me to apologise for ‘over reacting’ to the comment. Adding that he is sick of ‘emotional women’ in the house. He then made some shity comments about ‘don’t even ask me to apologise or I’ll actually laugh’

Suddenly have massive ick and he is sulking

You are all really right!

im actually shaking seeing all of this written down. Its so true!

Honestly OP, just do a better job with your decision making. And realise that whatever decision you make will seriously impact your daughter. Especially a daughter actually watching you choose a man. I think it’s a little different when they grow up with mum and dad already in the house as opposed to actually watching you choose a man, bring him into her home and accept this sort of treatment and contribution from him.
I’ve got two boys and I think it’s my job to teach them how to treat others, especially women. You’ve got a daughter and I think it’s your job to teach her not to accept certain behaviours. But you’re just…. I don’t know, desperate for a man?

You have lumbered yourself with a cocklodger and by extension have lumbered your daughter. He is throwing his weight around just to mark out his territory as the 'man of the house', insecure because you (as he probably sees it) have the upper hand as it is your home.

I fail to see what is funny about this. Bringing a man into a teenage girl's home is almost always a terrible idea. You haven't prioritised your DD at all have you? I feel desperately sorry for her that you have chosen for this man to be inflicted on her in her own home and safe space.

Sick of emotional women in the house? Then point out it's your house (as per your updates) and it's not obligatory that he live in it.

my golden rule as a single parent was "never move them in". My child was my priority and although i did have relationships I never wanted any of them in our space. Made it so much easier to end things too when they stopped working out

Tell him to get the fuck out of your house. Freeloading cocklodger.

I know. OP, is there definitely nothing more to it?

As you’re not on great terms anyway, seize the momentum and send him to his parents! Tell he needs to leave tomorrow.

Give your dc the best Xmas present - his absence.

Freeloading cocklodger. Tell him to leave. Prick

You're teaching your DD how to have such a low bar OP....but I think you know that now don't you.

So his daughter comes to your house EOW as well??
The only saving grace in this shitshow is that you don’t have a child with him.

DD is at her dad’s tomorrow night. I’m going to speak to him about ending the relationship. I am confident that he will dig his heels in and not want to move out. He has burned bridges with most of his family.

He is absolutely going to say that I’m ending the relationship because of xyz, crappy reasons but deep down I don’t care.

If your dd isn't to fond of him why make her live with him.
He sounds awful . And you can obviously cope without him.
Why not just be together but not live together

Let me guess. His dd stays with you and you are expected to feed her and pay for her treats or days out.

Be careful he doesn't start to think your house is his house - ditto your money.

Yes, she has her own room here!

oh fuck no! I am so grateful for that too!

Tell him you have realised he is not grateful for a free roof over his head.

OP, you can do this, have the faith

The audacity of him to call the women emotional when HIS emotions started the entire issue.

Your poor daughter having had to put up with this asshole for 18 months. What on earth were you thinking OP? You had everything, why were you so desperate for a man? Why would you move him into you and your dd's safe space? I just don't understand.

I bet your dd will be absolutely over the moon when she finds out you've kicked him to the curb. It was long over due.

He has a DD EOW. Nope he lived with family. And yes he was on a low income

His poor DD, does she come to your house EOW? Now she'll have more adjustments to make. What a rotten dad to her AND partner to you!

Sorry for his poor DD, but yours must come first so it's time for him to go!

Edit - just seen his DD even has her own room at your house - poor girl. Her dad is a right loser.

Rare for a woman to do that and I have a lot of respect for you. Sadly not everyone prioritises their kids over a man.

Which is good.... but it also means "I really don't care what he says because I don't care about him or respect him". How long have you all been living together?