I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Good idea calling in family to be there when he gets back. Stay strong op

I'm so, so sorry OP. Text message screenshots could be faked, but that sounds like far too much evidence to falsify. If she hasn't stripped the metadata from the pics then you'll be able to see when they were taken.

What a horrible man, what a horrible situation. I'm glad you have your family with you. What an idiot. Why do men with everything throw it all away for someone they very often don't even care about? I bet anything that he wasn't even unhappy with you.

I'm so sorry OP. What an absolute prize prick he really is. You deserve so much better. I'm in awe of the way you are handling this horrific shock. Please let the people who truly love you (family and friends ) support you through this - don't feel you have to 'be strong' 24/7.

Oh no OP this is so awful

It sounds like you have a supportive family around you.

You are better off without him and will realise that it.

As for the OW, she picked her time to tell you, could have done it any other time other than why you are about to give birth.

I think the woman’s intentions are irrelevant. There is proof of the affair, it’s a done deal. The woman’s intention doesn’t change that the betrayal has happened.

Staying with a cheating scrote to get back at the other woman is a logical fallacy.

You are handling this amazingly OP! What a stupid man. You sound very eloquent, like you've got a real good head on your shoulders, and an amazing mum. It may not feel like it now, but you'll come out of this so much better than him in this. Sending hugs x

I'm so sorry OP.
You are NOT a fool.
He is truly odious low life.
I'm so glad you have family to support you.
Stay strong OP. All best wishes to you.

Oh sweetheart take care of yourself and the little ones. I'm sure she lost it at maybe finding about you/ not being able to spend Christmas together (has he been able to slip away in previous years?)

I'm so sorry OP, my heart breaks for you. I know this feeling and it's fucking terrible. Good to hear you have support on their way round to you. It's such a man awful betrayal especially hard to take as you're so heavily pregnant!! Give him none of your time, surround yourself with people you can trust who will be able to support you through this. I know it's raw right now but please believe me when I tell you it will get better, day by day, hour by hour. Sending so much love and strength your way! I'm so so sorry this has happened xxx

Its his loss OP, he's the fool.

I’m so very sorry this has happened to you. He is an evil, selfish prick of a man and you deserve so much better than this. I am so very pleased that you have good people in your life who are available for you and you are not alone. Also that you have enough self-respect to understand that you don’t need to be with his prick.

Not helpful at all. My kids are just fine. What would have been more damaging was the shit father he was hanging around. OP will be just fine and so will her kids. Divorce is the best thing she can do for herself and I hope the bitch who thought this was a kind thing to do to a woman who is about to give birth, gets her just desserts too.

Given your pregnancy I agree with PP who suggested your DB takes his bag out to him.

I really don’t think you should allow him in the house. Don’t let him know where your child is either as he might turn up there.

Men like this think they are very clever. They can be dangerously foolish when their lies are revealed and things come crashing down around them.

Do you have any joint accounts or savings he might try to empty?

So sorry OP

So gutted for you @Waffletots, a horrible time for you, but you will get through it and be stronger for it. Stay strong for your little ones, lean on your family for love and support, get a brilliant solicitor to protect what's rightfully yours and best of luck for the future. x

Sending so much support and solidarity OP. I'm heart broken for you. My dad did this to my mum, swore he never wanted to see OW again after being rumbled.

Loads of drama, pain and broken promises later he married her. They never change.

I'm so sorry this is happening, OP. Get all the help and support your family and friends can offer.

(I am also a little bit worried about the OW... She has been very brave in sharing if they still work together. He could do all sorts when he finds out she told.
Of course, not for the OP to worry about. But he's messed with two women's lives, hasn't he.)

I'm sorry that you're going through this, but glad that your brother and SIL are coming to you.

Please stop this. Just stop. I’m sure the op can manage this for her kids.

She told Op out of spite- not for any other reason.
She’s a bitch, too knowing he’s married with a small child.
Got jealous about the pregnancy.

She’s no “sister” that’s for sure.

I don't think it is helpful or kind to post stories of children being traumatised by a divorce, affair etc. This is a pregnant ladies life and she doesn't need to be guilt tripped into staying with a cheating partner. If she wants to stay for herself, then we support her. If she wants to leave, then we support her. Staying for the sake of the children is never a good idea.

This is a good idea. Saves any drama in front of your child too

So sorry OP

I'm so sorry. I'm glad she told you, if only to fuck it up for him, rather than to help you.

I'm really glad your brother and SIL will be with you tonight. Make sure you call your midwife in the morning and tell her you've had a terrible shock. I would leave it to your brother to tell everyone - don't give him a place to hide with this.