I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

You honestly think his colleague is making this up, and is now faking screenshots. You feel this is likely?

That seems like a lot of effort for someone though? Why would anyone do that?

OP please tell your Mum what's happening. The shame is his, not yours, and you're going to need a huge amount of support to get through this.

I am showing respect: respect for OP's common sense and judgement.
I would be totally disrespecting OP and treating her like a fool if I urged her not to believe that what this woman has told her is true.

This is going to be a tough read lovely. What a b to do this so close to you giving birth, but ultimately it's your husband that has strung you both along and deserves your anger.

Hope you're okay, OP. Such a shock for you

What kind of job does he do, that he's at work on a Sunday when he doesn't have to be? Is she likely to be at work too?

TBH if she sends you evidence, I'd pack my bag and leave a note saying "I know everything. I want you out of this house by Monday morning" and I'd go to my parents' house.

You need to ask her for evidence before you confront him. He can delete his messages out of chats. You want to see what he said.

Being a bitch to the OP isn't helpful.

I agree with this. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of reacting to her. I'd sure as hell be asking him though.

Hi lovely, please call your mum and ask them to pop back and collect you before he gets home. Just throw stuff in a bag. You shouldn’t face this alone at 38 weeks. It’s horrible, make it a little easier for yourself. You can still confront him from your parents.

Is there any chance she would’ve told him she told you OP?

Imagine not even bothering to read the thread.

Yes he might know already.

Sadly, that’s not necessarily true.

I'm so sorry, OP. I would pack him a bag and ask him to leave for the time being. Definitely speak to someone in real life. Do you think she
Would have told him she's texted you? I think she's found out you're pregnant, and all the lies he's spun about leaving you, you don't have sex etc are clearly not true. She hasn't done it out of feeling remorseful. She's done it out of spite. She wants to hurt him and your collateral damage.

As he keeps his mobile with him all the time it’s likely it’s passcode protected. So OP is unlikely to be able to get evidence from it.

I think her best would be to get the evidence from OW.

And then confront him tonight and ask him
to give his mobile to you straightaway, without giving him a chance to delete anything.

He may refuse to give you phone but that in itself is proof of guilt.

I'm so sorry op what a bastard! Please stay with your parents tonight you need support

I agree. Don’t be alone xx

But did you then message to tell the poor woman, causing untold stress and heartache at the worst possible time?

I can't understand everyone - he is of course an utter scumbag who has done this, and lied to the OW etc.

But she's also equally terrible - why would she do this now? Why not wait? Or just dump him and forget about it all. She wanted to hurt @Waffletots too and that is unforgivable.

Also sorry, but the number of women falling for the "separated" married men out there need to get a fucking grip - if you willingly get entangled with someone who still lives with his "ex" for the children's sake, and/or are "not having sex"/are unhappy, you are a mug. They are still married, they are a liar and a scumbag, and you are not special.

We're all behind you, OP. I second the advice of some PP's to ask your parents to come back for you, and to share with them what's happening. None of this is remotely your fault nor your shame to bear. I understand if you prefer to stay by yourself for now, but really, if you're yearning to be with family, you do that.

Thanks everyone for all of your input, a few minutes after she sent the last message she did indeed send (a lot) of screenshots including messages from an app I don’t recognise, emails, many selfies of them in various places and a few of them they look like they’re lying down in bed looking very pleased with themselves.
I’m heartbroken, I don’t know how he could do this to our family. I’ve been such a fool for toddling along like life was perfect when all this time he’s been sticking his penis is another woman and not thinking about us! I hate him for this, truly. I’ve called my brother and sister in law to stay with me tonight, they will be here before he arrives home, I didn’t tell them much but it was clear I was upset.
I plan to have a bag packed for him and forward him all the messages when I hear him pull up outside. For me, the trust is gone and it’s over for good, I could never go back now after such a betrayal.

Hopefully she's sent you something you can shove in his lying face when he denies it.

So sorry OP and you're doing the exact right thing. How awful. You've got the whole of mumsnet behind you.

I’m so sorry you have gone through this at this time. You are not a fool- he is.