Why do my in laws ALWAYS desecrate my toilet?!

[sydneyprescott]

In laws coming round this morning. So I’ve cleaned the downstairs bathroom.

Literally EVERY time they come, one or both of them take a massive stinky dump in our newly cleaned toilet. Can they not bloody go at home? For context they only live 10 mins away so it’s not like they have a big drive and then need to drop off a load

100% cherry fox

Maybe they are nervous or so comfortable that they find they need the loo.

I used to get dreadfully nervous when visiting a 'friend's' house and I'd always need to use their loo. It was odd. I always made sure it was clean though and she did bitch about people using the loo. I had to go round regularly because our dcs did an activity together.

I’d be handing them some Imodium when they cross the threshold.

Sadly there are people who do things like this, maybe partly to save money on loo roll or to avoid having to clean.

Air fresheners are bad for asthmatic people so we have never had one in the house.

I would actually be cross if someone used cleaning products on my loo. No one without a psychological problem cleans the loo after every poo except with a loo brush.

All these marking territory comments are bizarre in the extreme.

It's a toilet.

As long as it's left clean and windows left open for fresh air etc then it shouldn't be a problem.

Have you never ever used anyone elses toilet?

Lucky you. Many of us have to go when we need to go. Unless you prefer I stay at home permanently. But I always clean up.

To save dirtying theirs!

Every time. Not normal

This. It's great for trapping any smells. Not cheap but you don't need to use much in one go.

I'm the same. On the extremely rare incidents where ive done a poo in a workplace or public toilet etc it's because I've had an upset stomach basically and went home pretty much straight afterwards.

It's a real issue if I go on holiday or stay with relatives etc. I envy people who can shit anywhere!

Who walks straight into someone’s house and stinks out the toilet

Ableist comments like that deserve a patronising response 🙄

Which university did you study armchair psychology at?

If they have something like IBS, that isn’t going to work unless they take a powerful laxative to completely empty their bowels. People with bowel disease do often avoid eating and drinking when they are out in case they get caught short. You would hope that the one place they feel comfortable doing normal things like having a social cup of coffee would be at a family member’s home.

I would have called him back to clean the loo. Use the loo by all means but it is manners to clean up after yourself.

This isn't ablesist, nice try though.
OP has not suggested either of them have IBS.

I lived in an old house we were renovating with only an outdoor loo. The renovations took ages and when we finally got a loo inside….it felt real weird and unclean to poo in the main house 😂

You can buy little wall plates that say leave the toilet as you found it.

Exactly. The in-laws live ten minutes away and visit for a coffee, why do they need to take a poo in op house every single time. It would piss me right off

Only on mumsnet will you find people who are offended by a toilet being used for its intended purpose 😂

Are you deliberately ignoring all the posts explaining why this is odd? Why can't they use their own toilet as it was intended?

Does it matter? Honestly? It’s weirder to me that people are giving it so much thought! 😂

It's definitely weird for one of you to deposit a stinky 💩 every single time you visit a house 10 mins away.

Maybe they have bowel issues they don’t want to discuss with their daughter in law. Why are people so obessed and offended by someone having a poo. Poo smells. That’s life. It’s also a natural bodily function that we all do.

being offended by natural bodily functions is a bit precious really isn’t it 😂

Still no sign of the op
How strange?

I would hope if one or both of them had a bowel condition such as IBS they would have told the OP or her DH. My pure guess is that one or both of them complains about the other one's smell so they avoid doing so at home as much as possible.