Why do my in laws ALWAYS desecrate my toilet?!

[sydneyprescott]

In laws coming round this morning. So I’ve cleaned the downstairs bathroom.

Literally EVERY time they come, one or both of them take a massive stinky dump in our newly cleaned toilet. Can they not bloody go at home? For context they only live 10 mins away so it’s not like they have a big drive and then need to drop off a load

Desecrate? Do you consider your toilet to be a sacred object?

I agree with a previous poster that the visit may be coinciding with their regular toilet trip habit, so invite them later.

Open a window, light a scented candle, have a neutralising spray ready in the bathroom.

They’re using yours because they don’t want to use theirs

Maybe they could consecrate it instead?

Are they just doing a poo and the smell lingers or are they leaving the loo in an actual mess?
If they are just doing a poo leave them alone. I do not understand people who seem to think pooing is rude. It's a natural bodily function and it's what toilets were designed for. You want everyone to hold in their poo all the time? What's wrong with u? People are so weird.

If it's that they are leaving the loo a mess of skid marks or something then that is grim... presuming the cleaning products are in the toilet available to be used?
I know there are some people out there who won't have loo brushes.. again really odd. Don't complain about people leaving a mess if you have made the tools to clean that mess available.

There was long thread a few years ago about people’s Xs who came to pick their children up and always took a shit before they left like animals marking their territory. It turned out to be freakishly common. Perhaps it’s the same vibe and they are doing a “your house is really mine” shit?

Exactly, they're actively choosing to do this, not being caught short.

Open a window in readiness - I’m sure they won’t close it behind them.

OMG! No way!!!

Sorry, but isn't that the whole purpose of the thing?

Maybe they have bowel disease. I do and it’s horrible. You have no choice at all when you need to go. I’d be mortified if my family thought of me in this way.

How do you both know this? Have they told you?

My God I've heard it all now on mumsnet!!
Some people just poo when they need to poo.
Pooing isn't a weapon of war.
Some people just aren't uptight about it. If they need a poo they will just go and do a poo in the nearest toilet. Because that's what toilets are for.

I absolutely can't go anywhere but my own toilet. I've tried but I just can't. Never done a poo at work. My stomach will be sore and uncomfortable but no matter how hard I try it just doesnt happen.

You wouldn't leave a mess though, would you?

Based on the information OP provided.

Don't both cleaning the toilet before they visit.

One less job to do as you'll want to give it a good bleach after they've been.

You'd be surprised how many people mark territory in this way. Also, leaving a mess is revolting.

This comment made me genuine LOL on a windy, rainy, miserable Sunday morning

This is a lot of fuss over some poo. It’s poo presumably going into a toilet as intended. You never said that they were blocking the toilet or smearing it around or anything like that.

I mean, if they were taking a dump in the middle of the kitchen you’d have a right to be pissed off but they’re just using the toilet.

My ex-H (we’re on good terms) does this often when he visits my house. I think he’s marking his (old) territory….

Have you asked your spouse to talk to their parents about cleaning up after themselves?

If spouse won't, then they clean up after their parents. Immediately.

You see I am someone who's embarrassed about bodily functions. I hate going on holiday with friends because of the whole pooing issue! If I need to go at work, I'll find a toilet that's far away from my colleagues. So I completely understand the embarrassment around it.
However, if I need to go I'm not capable of holding it in.
We're all different, I know.

Do you never go on holiday, then?

I think that's a really horrible way to treat people. Completely humiliating. They may well have IBS or something.

It’s weird they need to poo every single they are in your house but it’s really gross and disrespectful to leave a mess