...to report a manager for sleeping with someone on his team?

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A male colleague recently received a significant, and IMO, undeserved promotion.
For context, I work in the beer industry and around 90% of all staff are male.
99% of all leaders are male.

This colleague, with no managerial experience, no has a large team of about 10 people covering large area of UK.

I spotted during an event on his first week, he seemed very 'close' to a female sales person, who has recently moved in the UK, and reports into him.

I've since found out they are sleeping together.

It's totally inappropriate, immature and an abuse of power - his is older than her, and her manager.

Shall I report it on whistleblowing number?

Don't be ridiculous. Jealousy is an awful thing, it's none of your business that he got a promotion or who he's in a relationship with.

FFS op it has nothing to do with you let people be or was you hoping it was you.
Sorry i my self have slept with a boss.

Hmm jealous of promotion clearly and using the sleeping with a coworker as an excuse for that. Mind your own I say

What are their ages?
50 vs 18, 19 or 20,
40 vs above or
30 vs similar?

None of your business between two adults consenting.

This is a tricky one because most large corporations are very hot on these topics right now. Its not really as simple as you just ignoring it because he has not only openly talked about it in front of you, but has offering her room up, ‘as she won’t need it’ so you are now complicit if things ever came to light. The female might later use the relationship against the company if things don’t go as she wants and may try to use you as proof as you knew. Other colleagues could use this knowledge to indicate they are being overlooked in favour of her.
More importantly for you, did you take the room and if so who put the claim in for the room and therefore had the expense paid to them?
Expense claims are under increasing scrutiny as budgets tighten and any hint of fraudulent activity would no doubt have consequences.
My DH has just had to sack a manager for exactly what you are talking about, affair with subordinate and hotel rooms expensed. He was glad to do it as Office dynamics were so compromised but he had absolutely no choice as it is company policy. Anyone who tried to cover for them was viewed in an extremely dim way, there were consequences.

You still haven’t answered the question of what the company policy is on this matter?

You sound jealous as anything! It literally has nothing to do with you at all! They could be in a relationship that is completely above board. You need to keep your beak out really

erm no! mind your own business.
sounds like bitter jealousy to me.
People can sleep with who they want

Is he your ex? You sound awfully jealous.

The company might be saving money if they are sharing a room. 😆

Keep your beak OUT!

“He’s older than her”

Judgy. Not sure why that is relevant or how that is any of your business tbh 🤷‍♀️

You feel his promotion is undeserved.
What about that is relevant to your question?

He’s her manager - what does your company policy say about relationships? Make your decision based on that.

Are they both single or in relationships with other people and cheating? Do you have a HR dept and they have let HR know they are in a relationship? Who would you actually tell? They are both adults

@daisychain01 Employers now have a legal duty to take reasonable steps to prevent sexual harassment and create a safe working environment. The issue here is more about whether is is a consensual relationship or; given the age and power imbalance; whether there is harassment. A risk adverse HR team would probably want to check with both parties that the relationship is actually consensual for both parties and that conflicts of interest (such as any performance bonus) are managed

What is the company policy?

Did i miss the part where it affects your job and is therefore any of your business?

The employment tribunal part could come later if the relationship breaks down; and the younger member of staff considers that there was harassment

This just sounds like a "bad loser" complaint,, the "I didn't get the job, therefore they're sleeping together" type thing.
My suggestion (FWIW) would be to either just wait for the next promotion opportunity and apply for that or, if you feel so strongly that you cannot carry on in your role, ask for a transfer to a different department.
I wouldn't bother complaining to higher management unless you have absolute proof that 1. They are sleeping together AND 2. That this was the only reason this person got the promotion AND 3. That this person is not up to the job.

Is it against company policy? If not then how is it your business OP?
Also, aren't whistle blowing hotlines for safeguarding/gross misconduct situations?

I'd keep myself out of it personally

I don't understand what his promotion has to got to do with his sex life when he's the one in a more senior position?!

Surely if he was "sleeping his way to the top" he would be shagging one of the Directors or Senior Management?!

Not someone reporting in to him??

Anyway yeah, keep your nose out.

Jealous much??

In most companies, a manager being romantically involved with a direct report is frowned upon, at best. From a manager's point of view, it is very unprofessional. But really doesn't sound like any of the OPs business.

This would be against every company policy I've ever come across if the person has any influence on performance reviews/promotions/bonuses for the other. They would be immediately moved to a different team and possibly disciplined for non disclosure. Of course all depending on how their two roles work together.

They are two completely separate issues. Your opinion regarding his promotion is irrelevant as you’re not the hiring manager. If you have a genuine grievance or concern about his work raise it with your line manager.

Second issue is the relationship between him and a member his team. Do you think the woman, or the reputation of your business is at risk? Doesn’t it contravene any formal guidelines? If yes, you could talk to your manager again or call whistleblower hotline.

From what you’ve shared it sounds like the answer is no to all these questions. You just don’t like it, which is your problem, not theirs, or the businesses.